Unfortunate families are all alike, but happy families are all different.

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Toon once said: "Happy families are all similar, but unhappy families are different."

In fact, I think This sentence makes sense in reverse. Unfortunately, families are all similar, but happy families are different.

My mother came back from her hometown in Hunan to celebrate my grandfather’s 90th birthday. She told her about the family affairs of my grandfather’s brother in the country and his sister in the same city, as well as her, my aunt and uncle’s siblings. The girls talked about everything between them.

I believe the opposite of this even more.

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When my grandfather was young, he and his brother were chosen by lot to study in the city. In the 1930s and 1940s, when the war was widespread. Luck was on my grandfather's side. He became a political counselor in school, joined the army and became a retired cadre now. My brother continued to work in the countryside, and our two families also had their own families. different.

Although we are not from rich families here, we all go to school and slowly live a stable working-class life in the city by relying on the skills transferred from knowledge. However, although they are We are still farmers in the fourth and fifth tier cities, but with the development of the entire Chinese economy, we have also achieved moderate prosperity. As the next generation, we, the city dwellers, want to live in the countryside, but are not willing to give up the convenience of the city, so we are a big family together. This wish has just come true. We have a house in the city and land in the countryside. We can comfort each other by visiting each other occasionally.

The only thing that worries me is that their only grandson (and the only one in this family, I think), who is my cousin, has suffered from a strange disease since he was a child. There is a certain component missing in the blood, which requires long-term blood transfusions, and at the same time taking medicine to remove toxins in the blood that cannot be decomposed due to the lack of this component.

I have known about this disease a long time ago. I heard that there were very cheap medicines to treat it earlier, but because the medicines are too cheap, pharmaceutical companies no longer produce them, so patients like this can only take The medicine is expensive but not as effective. At the same time, I have to go to the hospital for regular blood transfusions.

He and I have been together for a year. Judging from the photos, maybe because of this disease, he and I seem to be a whole generation apart.

I heard from my mother that he still maintains this way, but his life has finally improved a little. The reason is that he opened an express collection point. Now the e-commerce development in the countryside is also booming, and many people Buying things online and sending them over has spawned many courier collection points based on family workshops. This also brings him an income of almost more than 1,000 yuan a month, which is a good thing for him who cannot work due to illness. I heard that he always asks my aunt and my mother for money to buy an electric car. It’s not surprising. What’s strange is that he always “pesters” my two cousins ??about such a thing, which is not difficult to achieve. My aunt and My mother gave me a little money each, which together was enough to buy a car, but he still kept asking.

I'm wondering if there are any other reasons that we don't know about?

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Let’s talk about my sister’s family in the same city as my grandfather.

If the life of the country brother and his family can be said to be getting easier as time goes by, then this family is getting more and more miserable as time goes by after my aunt broke her leg in a traffic accident.

Her wife passed away a few years ago, leaving behind a fortune of about ten or two hundred thousand. She has two sons and a little daughter. Fortunately, they all live in Hengyang City. Moreover, they are either working within the system, or they have made a fortune in business and bought many apartments in the core areas of Guangzhou. It should be said that they have no financial worries.

However, as an old man who lives alone and lost one leg, she did not get the care of any of her children at home. She was alone with the nanny hired with her pension (I heard that she had Changed 4/5) lives in a stair house. His sons and daughters are of the opinion that mom still has money to spend before she spends it. Now she has hired someone to live like this. Don’t go to any house to avoid being involved in other people’s affairs and you will not be responsible. .

When a group photo was taken for my grandpa’s birthday, my aunt was sitting in a wheelchair. The wheelchair was pushed next to my grandpa, with a broken leg exposed. None of his children came forward to use a blanket. After a little covering, my mother couldn't stand it anymore and took off her scarf to cover it up, preserving the last bit of dignity of the old man.

I sounded very angry, but also very powerless. It was difficult for outsiders to intervene in this situation. Her children did not completely ignore her. They occasionally went up to take a look, but they just did one thing. Something like "abandonment."

Why did she change so many nannies? Because she is so frugal, she is reluctant to turn on the lights at home, not to mention the heating, and the TV is not turned on all year round. An old woman has made herself a prisoner. The reason is that her children say you should spend all your own money first before talking. Let me ask. How many elderly people in this world are so heartless that they spend all their money and then openly ask their children for money? !

Most people, let alone the elderly, are ordinary people who stick to their roots and live their lives diligently. Once their roots are passive, it means the end of the road. People's psychology is similar.

My great-aunt once told my aunt and my mother that she wanted to die, but she was also afraid that others would say her daughter was unfilial and would bring them notoriety.

To be honest, I couldn’t help crying after hearing this. I am a mother, and I will always think about my children until I die. I would rather live like this than let my children be in trouble, and my children will live a warm life. Day after day, I was actually taking my mother home to take care of her in her old age, so I was shirking all the responsibilities that I should have done.

And such misfortunes are so common, even so similar.

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Finally, there is my mother’s side of the family.

Originally, there should be nothing to say. My grandparents have three daughters and one son. Except for my uncle who still drinks and plays cards (this is not a bad habit, but it is different from the other three), the family is considered harmonious. Economic conditions are also very good.

When my grandparents retired, they gave their positions to my aunt and uncle. My aunt and my mother were in Guangzhou, so in their later years, it was mainly my aunt and them who took care of me, and everyone took turns.

Now that my grandma has passed away, my grandpa is still in good health. He is a retired cadre and gets a pension of 10,000 yuan every month. All medical treatment and medicine are free of charge. He is alone in Hengyang. This place basically costs nothing.

The current situation is, in fact, it has always been like this. The nanny is hired to cook meals for the whole day, and the aunt’s family, including my cousin and my nephew from the kindergarten, are also together, and all the expenses are covered. It was spent from my grandpa's retirement fund. Grandpa told my mother that money was starting to get tight.

The reason behind this is that all expenses are paid for by grandpa's pension, everything.

Including my aunt and her family of 5 people. In the words of my aunt and mother, although they tried their best, they took too much advantage and ate up their living expenses.

In fact, I don’t want to think too much about this issue. After all, others should be grateful to have people around them to take care of the elderly.

As soon as my grandpa mentioned the issue of no money, my aunt and my mother became very angry. They immediately called a family meeting and proposed not to spend all of my grandpa’s monthly pension. The old man had no excuse at all. How similar is the sense of security to my great-aunt's situation? !

They said they would pay for it with their own money. If the water, electricity and gas bills were not enough, then it would come from them. Grandpa must not be allowed to subsidize that part of the cost. My aunt and uncle agreed without saying a word. I heard that for this birthday, my dad also spent his own money to buy good food, meat, and wine when he went back, for fear of spending the money that my grandpa gave to my uncle and the others. . .

Listen, the so-called misfortune is actually the misfortune of money, how similar.

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I have never thought that there are any completely perfect and happy families in this world. Some are thoughtful, compromised and sincere.

If you talk about anything under the sun, it will be a lot of trivial matters inseparable from the word money, and in the end you will find that even the so-called money is a cover, and in the final analysis, it is all human nature. Human greed, human good and evil, human laziness, human obsession, some are just different manifestations of all these in relationships.

I really hope that my aunt who lives alone can be cared for by her children. The road of life is really too dark. Don’t let their mother live in the darkness and cold all the time. It’s really too painful. Bitter.