Yingsi and Miyue: Only by maintaining mutual attraction can a marriage last long

After reading "The Biography of Mi Yue", many people lamented the three relationships Mi Yue experienced in her life: the passionate love of her first love Huang Xie; the caring and thoughtfulness of her husband Ying Si; and the regard of her lover Zhai Li as her fate. . People often lament that Huang Xie spent his whole life waiting for Mi Yue, or are moved by Zhai Li that she could die calmly. But I am most optimistic about the mutual understanding between Mi Yue and Ying Si. If Ying Si can live a long life, their marriage can be said to be the most stable, harmonious and indestructible.

The reason is: a good marriage is when men and women can maintain mutual attraction to each other and allow both parties to grow together in the marriage. The relationship between Ying Si and Mi Yue can last long because they have the conditions and strength to attract each other.

Yingsi and Miyue

First of all, Yingsi and Miyue are husband and wife, and they have the love between men and women that is common between husband and wife. Even though Ying Si, as the King of Qin, has his family and country in mind and dominates the world, he still has the delicacy and sweetness of an ordinary child towards the woman he loves deeply. He sat upright and serious in the court, but when he came in front of his lover, he also talked about love and was full of love. When the two met for the first time, Mi Yue called him "old man" because of his unkempt appearance, and he called her "little girl". The two names became their unique names for each other, running through their entire love life. When the two got married, calling them like this in private, was it a bit of a "nickname"? In addition, readers, please pay attention to a small detail: when Ying Si heard the "little girl" call herself "old man", he returned to the post house and immediately trimmed his beard, and he immediately became "stunningly handsome"! At this time, Ying Si subconsciously fell in love with Mi Yue, but she may not have realized it. Not only women, but men will also look after those who please them! Does the majestic King of Qin look like a young man who fell in love?

He loved her, she gave birth to a son for him, and life and death were on the line. He completely ignored his status as a king and his own safety (people at that time believed that a man entering the delivery room would be bloody) and forced his way into the delivery room. In order to save the life of his lover, he shouted to his moon at the top of his lungs: "You can't die! I still can't die!" I have many wishes to fulfill with you!” When he was dying, he hoped that he could get her sincerity for a moment in his life. His last relief was to hold a strand of her hair and leave, but his last regret was that he could no longer pretend to be a "big tiger" and carry his beloved on his back. . This scene made Mi Shu cry with hatred, and many viewers were moved to tears. Why, these are not affectionate confessions and expressions of love!

Secondly, Ying Si treats Mi Yue like a father and a brother. The age gap between the two seems to have some suspicion of "father-daughter love". But saying that he is "like a father and a brother" is more reflected in his care, tolerance, care and respect for Mi Yue.

He cherished her and rejected the girl he loved when she came to sleep with him in order to save his younger brother. "I regard you as a treasure and don't want you to have the slightest reluctance." Same room but different. The couch was open and open. The maid next to Mi Shu thought this was a sign that the king did not like Mi Yue. Only Mi Shu could see that this further proved that Ying Si valued and cherished Mi Yue.

He tolerated her, gave up on her first love, and did not force him to forget it. Instead, she and Mi Yue had a long talk, saying "Let's talk about your son" so many times, and finally made her lover let go of the relationship and fall in love with him.

He cared for her and even moved the tomb of her son Xie to the palace, just so that it would be "convenient for you to offer sacrifices at all times."

Finally, and the most critical one. Ying Si's feelings for Mi Yue have a "high bank and deep valley" friendship. He is her bosom friend, her teacher, and her guide.

When Mi Yue became pregnant, Huang Xie "resurrected from the dead" and came all the way to find her. Mi Yue cried with joy after meeting Zi Xie, but when she mentioned her husband, King Qin Ying Si, she said this affectionately: "The King of Qin was wise and far-sighted, and he was kind to Mi Yue. Without King Qin, Mi Yue would never have known her. She has always been a little girl with ordinary knowledge. After following King Qin, Yue'er grew up. Before meeting King Qin, Yue'er only valued the love between children. After getting to know King Qin, Yue'er realized that there are still things in this world. There is another kind of friendship between high bank and deep valley. "

Such a "high bank and deep valley", Huang Xie must have felt a sense of sadness in his heart when he heard this.

It was this passage that silently touched my tears, for Mi Yue’s magnanimity that ordinary women do not have, for the high-bank and deep-valley friendship between Ying Si and her, and for the mysterious arrangement of fate in this world. and the providence of fate.

From ancient times to the present, across the world, there has always been such a kind of friendship that is born from love and is more than love. Because of the high shores and deep valleys, it is harder to find love than the white water of the heart.

Although the talented scholar Huang Xie fell in love with her, and the Yiqujun Zhai Li was obsessed with her, he still had some qualities that only King Yingsi of Qin could give her - the grace of knowing someone, the high shore and the deep valley. Good love can make each other grow, and the kindness of knowing and meeting can not only make a person grow, but also help her find a better self, and always insist on it. Without Ying Si, Mi Yue might have always been just a smart, cute, loving little girl. Only Ying Si would tell her about his lofty ambitions and take her to realize them together: unify weights and measures, unify writing, and unify the world; only Ying Si would take her to the Sifang Pavilion, to Shang Yang's tomb, and discuss military and national affairs with her, subtly. Let her grow and grow again! His love made her shine brighter than any other tree in the forest, and her life became richer and full of ups and downs.

?Mi Yue to Ying Si

I think, to Ying Si, Mi Yue is like Yang Jiang to Qian Zhongshu: "a unique combination of different things." "Three things: wife, lover, friend"!

Mi Yue is Mi Bazi and the wife of King Qin.

And a lover is more romantic than a wife, more intimate than a friend, and more intimate than a confidante. It's like Mi Yue is the "little tiger" and Ying Si is the "big tiger". The "little tiger" naughtily called "old man" in private, acted coquettishly and let the old man carry it, and carefully made an exquisite soothing gesture for the hard-working old man. The sachet, the childish attitude makes people's hearts beat.

Not only is she a wife and lover, but she is also Ying Si’s confidant, the person who can enter Ying Si’s soul.

First of all, Mi Yue is talented. She loves reading, has both IQ and emotional intelligence, and is both short-sighted and far-sighted. The concubines in the palace only pay attention to the trivial matters in the palace. Who is favored today and who is in disgrace tomorrow? They fight to the death in various palace battles. Mi Yue paid little attention to the little tricks used by women to fight. She went to Chengming Hall not only to add fragrance to her red sleeves, but also to help Ying Si organize memorials, arrange letters, and even discuss national affairs, and jointly plan lofty ideals.

Ying Si and Mi Shu talked more about household affairs, while they talked about state affairs with Mi Yue. It's not that he didn't give Mi Shu a chance, it was just that Mi Shu didn't understand government affairs. When Meng Ying was held hostage by Zhao Guo, Ying Si asked the same question to Mi Yue and Mi Shu. Their answers and opinions were very different, and in the end he adopted Mi Yue's opinion.

Secondly, Miyue knows and understands Yingsi. If she is just a woman who "serves the king with her appearance", then as time goes by, no matter how beautiful her face is, her face will become like a falling flower. Ying Si is the King of Qin, he has the world in mind, he is not a lustful person, nor is he a mediocre person. What he lacks next to him is never a beautiful wife and concubine, but someone who can speak his mind and truly understand him. That person must be able to understand his words, understand his eyes, understand his hesitation in speaking, understand his helplessness as a king who cannot be humane to outsiders, understand his pain when faced with the choice between national interests and the love between father and daughter, understand He worked hard to rule and rule the world. Ying Si used the number of votes cast by hundreds of Sifangguan people as a reference for political decisions. Mi Shu thought that the king was too hasty and unserious. Only Mi Yue understood him. Not only did she think the method was fresh and interesting, but she also thought it was a good way to draw on the strengths of many experts and listen to the opinions of talented people all over the world. Knowing that he understands him, the only woman who can enter the depths of his soul is Mi Yue.

Finally, it is also the deepest realization of those who love each other: the deepest and truest love is that after you leave, I will live like you. Just like Soong Ching Ling loved Sun Yat-sen and made it her lifelong effort to defend his revolution and ideals after his death. When she saw that the Kuomintang had essentially deviated from Mr. Sun's "Three People's Principles", she did not hesitate to publicly announce her "withdrawal from the Kuomintang" "To defend his ideals, just because this party is no longer the party he founded.

And Mi Yue, when she was about to return to the Chu State with Huang Xie, faced the turmoil of the Qin State, and once again let down Huang Xie, who reunited in troubled times, she chose to return to the Qin State, even if there were waiting for her there Hers is the light of the sword. Just because of the deep entrustment she had given Ying Si when they were parting, she couldn't go against his wishes and watch his life's efforts turn into ashes.

He did not choose the wrong person, trust the wrong person, or love the wrong person!

She is a warrior who fights alongside him, and she spends the rest of her life trying to prove to him that she is a kapok tree near him, standing with you as the image of a tree. It seems like they are separated forever, but they are still dependent on each other for life. Love, not only love your majestic body, but also love the position you insist on, the land under your feet!