There is a mother-in-law who has been a "nanny" all her life and asked her daughter-in-law to do the same. what do you think?

Some people say that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been an eternal problem, and even seems to be a strange "inheritance".

Supposedly, some mother-in-law came as a daughter-in-law, but after she became a mother-in-law, she treated her daughter-in-law according to her own "inherent thoughts".

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is really difficult to get along with. Think about it. Mother-in-law and husband are different, and they can have a sweet love period. Unlike the mother, there is blood relationship as a link; Even worse than relatives and neighbors, seeing each other from an early age can connect feelings.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that two strange women have to be tied together because they love the same man. They live under the same roof every day. Without blood relationship as a link, there is no long-term life running-in. They are just forced to bind each other, and there is no transition period. Harmony is really difficult.

The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law we want to talk about triggered a "war" because of "washing clothes".

The "mother-in-law-daughter-in-law war" triggered by "washing clothes"

Aunt Li, a neighbor, talked with her aunts about her parents' shortcomings and talked about her daughter-in-law in a big way: "Yesterday, because I didn't wash my daughter-in-law's clothes, she yelled at home. Alas, I haven't had a good day since she walked in the door. I am angry when I see her! "

After careful questioning, it turned out that Aunt Li didn't like her daughter-in-law, and she was too lazy to do any housework at home. Aunt Li told her several times, and people confidently said, "I didn't do it at my mother's house." Why should I do it when I marry my husband's family? "

Yesterday's incident was the trigger. Aunt Li wanted to urge her daughter-in-law to be diligent, so she washed all the clothes at home, except for her daughter-in-law.

My daughter-in-law went home and blew up when she saw this scene. She swore at my son: "The clothes of the whole family have been washed. Why didn't you touch mine? What does your mother mean? "

Aunt Li felt very uncomfortable. The same is true for eating at home at ordinary times. After cooking, she asked the young couple to eat for a long time. After eating, Aunt Li will say that she wants her daughter-in-law to be diligent, but her daughter-in-law always refuses to buy it. After eating, she turned away, leaving a table full of leftovers to clean up. If aunt Li doesn't do it, no one will take care of it.

Aunt Li sighed and said, "I thought my daughter-in-law could lighten the burden, but I didn't expect another burden." Relatives and neighbors are persuading her that young people are like this now, and few people can understand the difficulties of the elderly.

Especially young people who just got married, would rather not eat or do, rather not wear or wash, so they are lazy. Now the housework is "exhausting me and relaxing my family".

It's not that the daughter-in-law is too lazy, but that the mother-in-law is too diligent.

At first glance, I still think my daughter-in-law is too lazy, but from these words, I gradually realize that something is wrong. Is it really like what Aunt Li said? We might as well consider this matter from another angle and come to different conclusions.

Just because you like serving your husband and son doesn't mean that your daughter-in-law should do the same. In the final analysis, the son and in-laws have not changed. They have been a family for more than 20 years, and the only change is that they have a daughter-in-law. But why do you say your daughter-in-law is lazy, but not your son?

My son doesn't do housework either, because his mother-in-law has been protecting him since childhood, and his daughter-in-law has never done housework since childhood, so she must do it when she marries her husband's family? Your son is your heart, you can't bear to part with it, and your daughter-in-law is also her baby!

Some mothers-in-law always want their daughters-in-law to be as obedient as themselves. Aunt Li has always regarded her husband and son as her "days". The most common saying is: "I want my husband and children to eat good food first, and then I will eat the rest." This is a good wife and mother. " She also hopes that her daughter-in-law can be as obedient and virtuous as herself.

I like waiting on my husband and son. That's my mother-in-law's own. I can't use the same standard to ask my daughter-in-law to do the same. My daughter-in-law didn't get married to babysit the whole family.

We don't like lazy people, but at least we should be fair. From the sentence "I'm exhausted and my family is idle", it can be seen that husband and son don't do housework at home. Why do they have to let their daughter-in-law do housework?

The essence of marriage is sharing, including not only mortgage and car loan, but also raising children, supporting the elderly and doing housework. It is necessary for husband and wife to do it together.

Aunt Li is used to taking on the housework of the whole family by herself. She is too diligent to spoil her husband and son. It is unreasonable for a daughter-in-law to inherit her own marriage mode and treat everything like an ox or a horse.

None of us like lazy people, but at least we should treat them fairly. If your husband and son don't know how to take care of you, don't complain that your daughter-in-law doesn't know how to share housework.

Don't blame others if you don't treat your daughter-in-law as family. Judging from the matter of washing clothes, Aunt Li didn't treat her daughter-in-law as a family at all while blaming her daughter-in-law for being lazy. My mother-in-law has no obligation to help her daughter-in-law wash clothes, but she haggles over every ounce and disputes. What kind of family is this?

Your son is your son and your daughter-in-law is not your daughter? Don't be too double-hearted about people and things.

Many contradictions are caused by mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Many mother-in-law blind dates will urge their sons to get married and have children, and then interfere with the lives of young couples. It seems that the young couple can't take care of themselves if they are not under their control.

However, we must know that after marriage, the son and daughter-in-law formed a new small family, no matter how big or small, they were asked to make their own decisions. The role of mother-in-law, no matter what kind of psychology, will inevitably produce various contradictions as long as it is mixed into their lives.

After the son gets married, the mother-in-law should have a sense of boundary, don't worry too much, and give appropriate help. Let them wash clothes, cook and go their own way. There is some truth in the sentence "distance produces beauty".

Conclusion:

There is no denying that many young people are spoiled by their parents. They can't do housework and don't understand others. But at the same time, my mother-in-law has been a "nanny" all her life and is willing to serve the whole family. Don't impose this concept of three obedience and four virtues on her daughter-in-law.

It is still a "patriarchal society", and there are still a few people who think that "husbands and children are paradise", but at the same time, the social status of women is gradually improving. I believe that in the near future, this situation will be less and less.

On the other hand, husbands should understand the difficulties of their wives and mothers, learn to share housework and take care of children, so that most conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be solved.