What kind of praise is the most touching?

Praise and gratitude are not expressions, but from the heart.

Saying "thank you" and "great" from the heart can expand your interpersonal relationship.

When I was young, I found that words of thanks and compliments must be specific. In other words, just saying "thank you" is not enough. You must clearly convey the reasons for thanking each other.

If the cashier in the supermarket you often go to is very kind and polite, you might as well say to him, "That's very kind of you, thank you." It's really important to clearly convey the reasons for gratitude like this.

The same is true when praising others. Be sure to specify what is good and what is worthy of praise. You can't just say, "Great!" But specifically pointed out that the other person's hairstyle today, dressed appropriately, or responded very appropriately. The clearer the expression, the happier the other person will be.

Always casually say: "Great!" "So handsome!" The other party may doubt your intentions and your sincerity. Why? Because you didn't specify the reasons for praising each other.

However, the human heart is still very simple in some ways. Even if they have some doubts, when they hear compliments, they will be glad that the other party noticed their existence. It can be seen that concrete words of thanks or praise can bring us closer in an instant. What I learned at the age of 25 is still very useful until I am 47.

Whether praising subordinates or thanking colleagues, describe your appreciation or gratitude as concretely as possible.

For example, I will send some snacks to my partners to express my gratitude, or buy some delicious food for my colleagues to enjoy. Hearing the other person say "thank you for inviting us to eat such delicious snacks", I will have the idea of buying something for everyone next time. Therefore, just saying "thank you" is not enough. Only when you feel each other's goodwill will you want to do something for each other.

Take the food interviews I often do as an example. When the store serves carefully prepared dishes, I will never just say "thank you", but will sincerely thank each other and specify how amazing or delicious the dishes are. I think the store will not only accept the compliment happily, but also want to "try to make more delicious dishes".

This is definitely not a trick. I just feel that just saying "thank you" is not enough to express my feelings.

Don't always say "I can't help it" and "I won't"

17 years old, often travels to the United States and Japan. Until I was twenty-three, I still couldn't speak fluent English, and my experience and knowledge were very shallow. I always feel useless, so I naturally talk about negative words like "I can't" and "I won't".

At this time, I read a book written by a brain scientist. After my own research, I finally understood that there is a part of the human brain called "stable field", which will remember what I said and shape it.

Even if these words are not true to themselves, they will be stereotyped as facts in the brain after being passed on from mouth to mouth and then to the brain. As a result, what you would have done becomes impossible, and you can't exert your strength, so the brain actually prevents you from showing your strength. Therefore, this book mentions: "Never say anything negative." This was a great inspiration to me at that time.

From now on, even if I think I may not be able to do it, I will not say negative words like "I can't" and "I won't", and I will never say anything like "I don't have time" and "I have no money" again, even if I am angry. Because I think once I say these words, I can't sing them, so until now, I still won't blurt them out.

Although most young people are not rich, they always talk about negative words. Over time, negative thoughts will be deeply imprinted in their minds. Don't forget, there is an area in our brain that can remember and shape what we said. Once formed, it will bind our ability, action and will.

It doesn't matter if you only know that there is such an area in your mind now. From now on, don't say these negative words again. Although it is inevitable to be depressed and demoralized, as long as it is not translated into words. If you are always talking about "I can't help it" and "I won't", I advise you to get rid of this problem quickly, because once it is deeply rooted in your mind, it will be difficult to eradicate it.

Analyzing our brain structure from another angle also has a lot to make good use of. For example, if you say more positive words, your brain will store positive elements. In fact, human beings are very simple creatures. Even if they pretend to be happy every day, their mood will get better as time goes by. This phenomenon may also be related to the structure of the brain.

If you always pretend that you are not interested in anything, the opportunity will never come. On the other hand, people who are always smiling and energetic will automatically pool their contacts and intellectual resources. Therefore, people who often say positive words and have a positive attitude are more likely to exert their unimaginable power.

Give up the habit of always saying negative things and say more positive things, and your life will definitely change.

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