Comment on Lost in Russia: A Man's Self-Salvation after Breaking through the Boundary of Emotional Cognition;

At the moment when the epidemic is developing, when staying at home can contribute to the society, my family and I sit around the sofa and watch the New Year movie online for free for the first time in history.

First of all, the theme of the film is highly concise: the film tells the story of Xu Yiwan getting on the train to Russia with his mother in a series of accidents and embarrassment. During the trip, through all kinds of stories with laughter and tears, I told a middle-aged man's struggle in an emotional cage. After finally breaking through his own cognitive boundary, he successfully redeemed himself by reconciling and accepting the relationship between his mother and his wife, and entered a new cognitive realm of life. The film guides the audience to think deeply about family feelings and marriage feelings, to some extent, urges the audience to perceive their emotional reality in detail, or helps the public out of emotional confusion, which is even an important purpose of the film.

After summing up for a long time, I feel that the theme is not very concise. Come on, let's go directly to the analysis and comment stage!

Whether it is mother-child relationship or husband-wife relationship, it can be said that the protagonist Ivan is facing a very close relationship.

Therefore, the sentence that impressed me the most in the film should come out. Zhang Lu said to Xu Yiwan, "You see, this is the problem between us. You have an imaginary wife in your heart. You have set all her likes and dislikes, how to speak. Why do you insist on reforming me? After all these years, don't you realize that I'm not what you think? " .

For people with close relationships, I think this sentence must have hit the pain point of many people. Which one of us is not intimate? Parents, children, couples, you will always play one of the roles when you grow up, so I believe this sentence will definitely make the audience in the besieged city feel a little shocked, so the audience will have the desire to continue watching. This sentence is equivalent to questioning the soul of the film, which lays the theme tone of the film. All the plots of the film have basic philosophical considerations, which also makes the resolution of contradictions between characters be pulled to the philosophical level. In this sense, this new year's comedy is not bad because of its connotation. Facts also prove that with the development of the plot, we laugh with tears.

Why don't we like others to transform us? Because transformation means control.

Sunshine can always hug us, because the sun is far away from us; If the sea wants to hug me, I will feel suffocated. Bathing in the sun will not affect my freedom, so I love the sun, but no one wants to drown because of the embrace of the sea.

This also explains why we don't like being controlled, even the most beloved people.

At the beginning of the film, in addition to the profound soul, we also learned from Zhang Lu that Xu Yiwan had not visited his mother for a long time and had not hugged her for a long time. Why? With the development of the movie plot, we can see that Xu Yiwan's mother, whether Xu Yiwan is hungry or not, stuffed something into his mouth, whether he is cold or not, asked him to add clothes, and asked him to have a baby quickly for whatever reason. In a series of trivial disputes, Xu Yiwan often said to his mother, "Mom, can you hear my voice?" Are you listening to me? "And Xu 10,000' s mother will still nag and scold endlessly. The audience will think of mom when they see this, because as we all know, there is a kind of cold, which is called that mom thinks you are cold.

Xu Yiwan asked the soul that Zhang Lu gave him, and humorously changed the word "wife" to "son", leaving the rest intact to his mother. The characters in the film are in conflict and have distinct views.

Seeing the movies here, the audience must have begun to think. Why does a mother want to reform her son? Husband wants to transform his wife? Since no one likes to be transformed, don't transform him, ok? No, because the protagonist has not broken through his emotional cognitive boundary, and the film has to continue. This explanation is estimated that no audience will be satisfied, but after watching the movie, ask yourself: "Is your husband or wife not reforming you?" And you, have you tried or are you reforming your lover? "... why is this?

Everyone has everyone's answer. What is the answer in the film and how is it explained? The handling of these two points will definitely affect the audience's understanding of whether the changes in Xu Yiwan's thoughts and behaviors at the end of the film are reasonable, thus affecting the artistic value of the film.

Unfortunately, I think the explanation of the film is not good enough and not deep enough. In addition, the encounter with brown bears and hot air balloons with dog blood in the wild, coupled with these cheap encounters, lowered the overall score of the film.

So, how does the film explain their motivation to transform each other? The most obvious is two dialogues. Xu Wanwan's mother said to Xu Wanwan, "I obviously did it for you. Why not? " . Xu Yifan said to Zhang Lu, "I still like you. I still love you because I don't want to let go of this relationship. Am I a fucking rag? " . Why should we transform each other? The reason is love, not for your own good. Simple plot contrast, for well-known reasons, makes the film seem a little thin in philosophical excavation.

In fact, the film can be expressed better, because Xu Yiwan's father likes to drink and die young. If this event scene is used well, the interpretation of human nature will be more fully, and the audience will recognize Xu Yiwan's awakening more and be deeply inspired. Movies can also break through the barriers of comedy performance and enter a new realm.

How to make good use of the scene of Xu Yiwan's father's early death due to drinking, and add more beautiful solitude to the film? I tried to break this egg for everyone.

Usually, we all have a dream lover and a true lover in our hearts. We are always used to comparing these two people. When there is a deviation between the real lover and the dream lover, we will begin to transform the real lover. However, when this desire can't achieve the effect on our partner, we will express it to each other in an angry way. Dream lover and ideal son are actually the same thing.

Why is there a dream lover? Because all our actions are based on our motives and needs, it is precisely because of this that we imagine a dream lover and look for her in real life to get companionship, care, understanding, support and appreciation. Similarly, she just happened to meet you when she needed love, and you just happened to be able to provide her with what she needed.

What does Xu 10,000 want from his dream girl? What is Xu Yifan's mother's ideal son? Everyone's needs are different, but they all come from a person's early experience.

Do you see it? These needs can be deeply explored from Xu Yiwan's father who died in his early years, and then skillfully interpreted and set in the film to increase the depth of the film. In fact, when Xu Yiwan was 7 years old, his father was drunk and insulted his mother, which was a little worse. The director just needs to throw it away with one more effort, and the value of this matter can be brought into greater play.

Xu Yiwan, the leading actor, has a dual identity, and the director has given him dual contradictions. He wants to reform his wife's husband, and he is also a son who endures his mother's reform. With the development of the movie plot, Xu Yiwan either consciously or unconsciously, or tried or passively broke through the cognitive boundary of his emotions.

It is anger and revenge that push the plot of the film forward. Xu 10,000 was furious. Even if he didn't transfer the warm bus technology for free, he would destroy the cooperation between Zhang Lu and foreign companies to get back at Zhang Lu. This comes from the revenge of Zhang Lu's frustration when she can't transform. In a rage, Wan blamed his mother. It was because of her transformation and control that he forced his father to die and used the vicious language of alcoholism to achieve revenge on his mother. This is a kind of revenge, which comes from resisting his mother who always tries to reform him.

It is the mother's selfless love for the hero that sowed the seeds of wisdom in his heart. When the brown bear pounced on Xu 10 thousand, the mother bear did not hesitate to distract the wild bear with her body. At that moment, my mother's selfless love solved all the problems. What sounded in Xu Shiwan's mind was that beautiful melody: "... I am in poor health, and I can see you again." Don't say useless words! " ..... but in my eyes, you will always be the child who needs protection. Maybe my tone bored you. I'm sorry, I will restrain myself and let me nag in the next life! what can I do? I'm already, my health is not as good as before, and I can see you again ... "。

What makes the hero break through himself is that he can rationally face up to his inner pain. From Xu Yiwan's performance at the Russian wedding, the audience should have been able to see this. Xu Yiwan raised his glass and staggered and shouted: "There will be surprises every day after marriage! Surprise! Surprise! " , tears streaming down her face, but dancing. Later, he talked to Zhang Lu on the phone. He didn't make sense, didn't argue, and didn't try to convince each other. But he just tore his heart out and said his inner pain: "Because I still like you, I still love you. Because I don't want to let go of this relationship ... ".

We have replaced facing the inner pain with anger, argument and revenge, because we know that we can't afford the pain. But we don't understand that the origin of the dispute is not opposition, but the pain of both sides. Behind the motivation of trying to reform your partner is that we can't deeply feel the love for your partner, because your love is not intense. If you don't impose your needs on your partner, you can find what you really need in your heart. Only by getting rid of the shackles of needs can you feel pure love. In addition, learning to accept your partner can also help you learn to accept yourself, so as to truly understand that you don't have to get it if you want to be complete. If no one can resist the fate of growth, and the disillusionment of love scares us, why don't we jump out of the obsession of seeking happiness outside and enrich our hearts?

Xu 10,000 must have understood this, so he terminated the revenge plan of free technology transfer and signed the divorce agreement calmly.

At the end of the film, the classic old song "Red Plum Blossoms" sounded, and my son finally helped his mother realize her dream. The preciousness of the moment and the beauty of the past echoed in the beautiful melody. ...

Hongmei is in full bloom by the river in the field.

There is a teenager who really loves me.

But I can't tell him.

Full of confidence, can't say it

Full of confidence, can't say it

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