How do girls see the essence of men clearly?

How to distinguish good men from bad men and stay away from love rat?

Alas, men are not watermelons. Knock on the skin and listen to the sound, and you will know if it is a good fruit. However, if you want to see a man's true face clearly, there are indeed the following four indicators for reference.

1. How does he treat his family?

This is not to say that the concept of "birth family" has been exploded in recent years. For example, let you observe whether his parents love each other, not a single-parent family, not a Phoenix man.

Labeling and random attribution can't help you see a person clearly. In fact, if you want to know what a man will do to you in the future, first look at how he treats his parents.

It is difficult for a man who listens to his mother to have an opinion in front of his wife;

A man who is impatient with his parents is unlikely to be gentle and patient with his lover;

A man who finds fault with his family can almost foresee that he is likely to suppress, belittle and despise his partner;

It is not surprising that a man who is stingy with his family is stingy with your calculations.

How a man treats his parents is likely to treat his partner in the same way. A person's mode of getting along with his parents is like his "factory setting". Without debugging, he will run any long-term relationship in the same way in the future. People call marriage "family relationship" for the same reason.

However, marriage should not be a one-to-one copy of a bloodline family. If two people change the relationship between husband and wife into parent-child relationship, it is easy for men to regress to the state of children and naturally become giant babies.

The reason is simple-a wife treats her husband as a son, and a husband can only treat his wife as a mother, just like a son.

Second, what does he think of money?

The economic base determines the superstructure. Observing the relationship between a person and money can also give a glimpse of his soul.

Is he the master of money or the slave of money? In other words, is he in charge of money, or is money in charge of him?

Does he spend money lavishly or save money? Is his frugality consistent regardless of you and me, or is he generous to himself and stingy to others?

Facing the people closest to him, he will stick to his money and refuse to pay. Such a man is defensive and it is difficult to build trust with others.

A gentleman makes money in a proper way. Men who always want to make a windfall, love to take advantage, enjoy the success of ill-gotten gains, or are willing to make money by hook or by crook, are likely to come to the net when tempted in marriage, regard cheating as a blessing, and even think that the more women, the better.

Modern society can't move without talking about money, but a person who is greedy for money can't walk on the golden road. Money represents a person's vigilance and also shows his moral bottom line.

Third, how does he face the relationship?

Women always seem to care about men's past love history, but to see a man clearly, the way he handles the relationship between men and women is very worthy of reference.

Men who can handle their feelings well usually have the following personality characteristics:

Stick to yourself

Do you like the online "survival test" for men? Do you agree with all kinds of poisonous chicken soup called Emotional V on the Internet?

what can I say? Anyone can just say a few words of nonsense-

"The truest love is preference. A man who has you in his heart hopes that he has never had an ex. "

"A man who loves you will be a child in front of you and will only let you see your weakest self."

"Men who give their hearts are hiding in pain, and the cruelty of life can only hurt him and can't touch you."

But how many women agree with this value, and how many men are willing to use sweet words to make you "show forbearance".

After the little suckling dog became popular, she learned some earthy love stories on the Internet, and whispered softly to you, coquetry and worship-creating an atmosphere of "only loving you";

If "German Shepherd Boy" is more popular, he will play the role of overbearing president, saying that you can only show him beautiful women-weaving a dream of "doting on you".

I call such men "emotional spies", and the typical swing is both sides. What sincerity can they have? It's just sizing up the situation and calculating carefully. Such a man is flattering and attentive to you today, and he can immediately grovel to another woman tomorrow.

But such a man is extremely confusing to women. Because being a man's "uniqueness" is really lethal to too many women.

Many young girls feel extremely useful when their boyfriends scold their ex-girlfriends for being rubbish compared with her.

Many women who have cheated will also judge whether their husbands have the sincerity to return to the family according to similar standards-if their husbands madly discredit the derailed object and say that the other person is just their own plaything, that kind of dirty woman will never be comparable to you ... The wife feels very angry, and maybe she can finally rest assured.

The problem is that a man speaks so harshly of people he loved in the past, blaming all the mistakes on women and cleaning himself up completely in advance ... He is probably just an opportunist who pursues the life creed of "talking with people and talking nonsense". Once he thinks you are unprofitable, he will look for the next prey.

In short, no matter how the women around him change, he loves himself.

Most men who treat their lovers sincerely are a little silly. He may not be very likable, or he may say that he is a clown who doesn't understand the twists and turns in a woman's heart, so let you call a spade a spade, don't be so melodramatic and stop procrastinating;

He sticks to himself and may even show some stubbornness. He believes that men and women should take care of each other and treat each other as equals, and refuses to agree with the values that women are supreme and men are slaves, such as "men earn money to support their families and women are as beautiful as flowers".

So such men are often not favored by women. We are always prone to surrender to sensibility and fall in love with men who are eloquent, good at providing us with emotional value and know how to show weakness.

The most beautiful flowers may be the most poisonous, while men with good nature may seem the least affected on the surface. In most men's world, there is a thin line between sweet bombs and empty promises. If a man is good at pretending to love you, you may not win the lottery, but step on a thunder.

one's words match his deeds

After reading the last point, you may not think so. Maybe you want to say that there is something wrong with men's sweetness. Is it true that only men who are boring, stubborn and annoying are kind in nature?

Of course not. A man who can talk is a plus item, and a button is just talking and not doing it. It is too easy to get angry in feelings, so some men just talk about promises and guarantees, but in fact they are saying one thing and doing another.

Actions are more powerful than words, so in order to see the essence of a man clearly, women should also adjust their own standards-don't trust their feelings too much, pay attention to practical results, that is, don't listen to what a man says, but look at what he does.

No matter how beautiful the words are, they can't cover up a person's ugly heart; Men are really interested in you when things are done properly.

Sincere and frank

Does your lover like "the wicked sue first"?

If you don't agree with him, he suppresses the first one-distrust your judgment, despise your ability, and say that you are unreliable and have long hair and short knowledge;

You caught him making a mistake, and he blurred the point;

You said you felt hurt, but he whitewashed it.

Such a partner must make you feel bad. Everything he said seems reasonable, but you always feel wronged and oppressed afterwards, and your chest can't breathe, which is particularly uncomfortable!

Such a man is as slippery as a loach, and you can never catch him. It's always you who get hurt in the end, which makes you always doubt yourself: am I unreasonable or is he too cunning?

When most men with good quality have an argument with you, they don't want to avoid the problem even though they know that speaking out at this moment will make you angrier.

He won't hide it, and the words hidden in the words go round and round, irrelevant;

He spoke his mind and even argued with you, hoping to win your understanding.

But even such a man may become more and more silent or "scheming" in a bad marriage. Because they find that it is better to dodge than to be sincere and frank, and their lovers are more likely to be confused by those smoke bombs and smoke screens. In the end, their true feelings were all in vain. It is better to take a few mouthfuls of ecstasy soup.