Can you tell me how you feel about not being able to blame your parents-in-law?

We have a saying here that a daughter-in-law who is not worthy of her parents-in-law is a good daughter-in-law, because the parents-in-law will not discipline their daughter-in-law, and the parents-in-law will not look good to their daughter-in-law. Can't you tell me how your parents-in-law feel? If you can't point to your in-laws, it means that your parents don't care about you, and you will be very sad. Can't you tell me how your parents-in-law feel? If I can’t point to my parents-in-law, I think it would be very sad if even my own parents didn’t care. Let’s talk about the feeling of not being able to refer to one’s parents-in-law. There is a saying here that a daughter-in-law who cannot refer to one’s parents-in-law is a good wife. I don’t blame the parents-in-law’s mood. I think some people just don’t like their parents-in-law, so they can’t blame the parents-in-law. I can't point to my parents-in-law. To put it bluntly, I feel that there is nothing in this world that I can't point to. What do you think? I don’t think it’s about the mood of the parents-in-law, but sometimes I think the parents-in-law are quite nice.