How to treat the phenomenon of taking care of the elderly for money?

This job is hard and the salary is high! I have been nursing family patients for five years. I'm just a little white spot in the nursing field. I go to work at half past seven in the morning and get off work at five in the evening.

20 1 1 retired with low salary. My monthly pension is only 909 yuan. Because I retired after being laid off, I also paid endowment insurance and medical insurance, totaling more than 30 thousand. In addition, on 20 10, my lover suffered from brain tumor, was hospitalized, operated and treated with chemotherapy, and died at the end of 20 10. My son just graduated from 20 10 university, and his salary was not high at that time. So we live a hard life. I've been working, too In order to earn more money, 20 12 went to learn patient care. 20 13 started to work as a care worker. The first patient I took care of was the sister-in-law of my colleague. She is two years younger than me. On 20 13.3. 15, she had a sudden cerebral hemorrhage and had an operation in the hospital. Then she became a vegetable. Eating is nasal feeding and urinating with catheter all the year round. My job is to wipe her body every day, cook, beat the food into liquid with a juicer, feed her with a needle-nose, exercise her arms and legs, and take care of her daily eating and drinking. After nursing her for three years, her family is also very concerned. For three years, she has never had bedsores, and her physical condition has been very stable.

I quit this job during the Spring Festival on 20 16. Nursing work is very hard. I want my son to go home for the New Year and ask for a few more days off. After the Spring Festival, my friend introduced me to take care of an elder sister, who was just 12 years older than me. She was hit by a car in the aisle. She can't move her limbs and her fingers move a little. She can't speak, but she is conscious. When I first went, she was also fed by nose and sucked sputum with a sputum suction machine. Later, I asked her to feed the water with a spoon, and she cooperated very much. After two months of practice, her nasal feeding tube was not used. Eat or paste with a juicer and feed her a spoonful. She can swallow, but not chew. She became conscious, and then she watched a TV series. This elder sister is a daughter, very filial, and comes to massage her mother every day. She bought everything for her mother. It's good for me, too I have my share of the fruit. I have taken care of this sister for two years. 20 18 at the end of April, my son and daughter-in-law asked me to go out to play, so I quit this job. After that, my son and daughter-in-law said, mom doesn't want to work, so you can play and run a marathon if you like!

I have been a nurse for five years, running every morning and evening, nursing patients who are ill in bed, and I know the importance of health. I don't want to bring trouble to my family. Health is the most extravagant ornament in the world. Running makes me happy, from the Hama semi-Marseille in 20 16 to the whole Marseille this year.

When I was a nurse, my mother told me: If you can care about others, you can!

I have read a novel Bedside, which is about the wounded who came back from the War to Resist US Aggression and Aid Korea. They are almost in a vegetative state. They choose the best nurses to care for the wounded and accompany them day and night. Nurses have been taking care of the wounded from young to white. Someone has to work at a low pressure. There are always people who say that I can't even wipe the shit and urine. You should remember to keep healthy and don't add burden to society!

Sent me about 10 thousand last month Nobody gave me a penny this month. Retired at the age of 48 to take care of her parents-in-law, who are all demented and can't even eat. I will take care of my parents who can't take care of themselves next month.

Take care of in-laws, feed, change the urine pad, wash, reflect, treat bedsores, and change the urine pad several times a night. Only those who have experienced it know what it feels like. As a former white-collar worker, I take care of my in-laws when in Rome, even better than my daughter-in-law in the countryside.

Can we talk about money when caring for the elderly? Who gave it to you? Everything can be tied to money. Everyone will experience aging and death, and the elderly will work hard for their children all their lives. We should let the elderly get warm care at the end of their lives and feel the warmth of the family at the most helpless moment in life.

Although sometimes I am physically and mentally exhausted, I am optimistic and have a clear conscience.

No affectation, no affectation

Every time I hear a question between my mother-in-law and my daughter-in-law about whether my mother-in-law will bring her children or not, she always says: You won't help me if I am in trouble. You are old, and I have no obligation to be filial. Daughter-in-law is looking for all kinds of reasons for not being filial, telling her mother-in-law what to do, as if she will never get old. This is shallowness and misfortune in family style.

I am not short of money, I have seen through the world. Only feelings in the world are priceless. Needless to say, from the city to the countryside, do what needs to be done.

Even if both of them can take care of themselves, I will never go. I'd rather do 2000 jobs a month. After reading the real case I shared, you will know why.

Now there are many left-behind elderly people in rural areas, and our village is no exception. This city has a weak industrial base and few jobs and choices. Most of us are wandering in big cities hundreds of kilometers away from home, and most of us didn't come back until the Spring Festival. Usually there are only old people and children in the village, especially those over 80 years old. Even if we have to pick them up in the city, they are not familiar with it, and they can't speak Mandarin well. They can't read when they go out. No one can talk to. Children are usually busy at work and can only stay at home by themselves, which is no different from going to jail. For the old people who have lived in the countryside all their lives, freedom is more important than eating. They are used to chatting with several like-minded old people and strolling around after dinner.

Even in good health, the elderly after 85 need special care. At present, the wages of professional nursing for the elderly in rural areas are very high, and there is a serious shortage of employed people, which is very popular. There are too few people who can persist.

Popo Lin is 93 years old. She gave birth to five sons, four of whom are in Guangzhou, and they are all doing well. She has bought a house and a car in Guangzhou and lived a well-off life. The second one lives the life of an ordinary farmer in the village, and the economy is not as good as the other four brothers.

Before the age of 87, Lin Popo lived alone. She is the only one in the whole house, cooking and doing housework alone. When she was 87 years old, her five sons were worried that she lived alone. First of all, she is getting older and older. Secondly, in those two years, several old people in the village had a fire while cooking, and there were often burns and deaths. They discussed how to support Lin's mother-in-law.

At first, the four brothers in Guangzhou proposed to give the village's second child 1000 yuan per month, that is, to give him 4,000 yuan per month to help them take care of their mother. If the mother wants to spend other money, they will give it to her alone, but the second wife refuses. She is only willing to bear the time that should be supported every year, and the rest must be found by herself.

The four brothers had no choice but to hire someone to support their mother. The second brother also said that he had no money. When it's his turn for more than two months, he will take care of his mother himself. They hired a woman in her forties to take care of her, and the cost was 4,500 yuan per month, and she bought food every day 100 yuan. The two of them ate. Every day, their job is to cook for Mrs. Lin, put hot water in her bath and stay indoors at night.

Aunt resigned after working for more than a month. The four brothers found my cousin and asked me to take care of her mother-in-law and give her 5000 yuan a month. To tell the truth, the salary here is very attractive. Our salary is about 2000 now, and we have no job. Older people can't find jobs at all. Mrs. Lin is very flexible and can do everything by herself. After dinner, she will chat with other old people to relieve boredom.

My cousin resigned after working for two months, and she quit when her salary rose to 6000. I find it incredible. Why doesn't she do such a simple job and such a high salary? My cousin told me the reason, and after listening to it, I was very supportive of her decision. This job is really beyond the competence of ordinary people.

65438+ Now it costs 5000 yuan to hire a person, and it costs 100 yuan to buy food a day. Now mother-in-law Lin is a little unhappy. She said some nasty things in front of her cousins all day, as if they were taking advantage of her family.

Grandma Lin likes to find fault. Whatever her cousin does, she doesn't like it. She either thinks that the food is not clean or that the pork she bought is not fresh. These dishes are either salty or weak. She also said that my cousin couldn't buy food for 20 yuan a day, and she didn't even want to think about it. Now vegetables are 56 yuan a catty, meat is more than 30 yuan a catty, and fish is also expensive. Besides, how much pork can we buy here?

Mother-in-law Lin told other old people all day that it was not good for my cousin. Once my cousin scolded her, she refused to eat and called her sons to cry, which made my cousin very embarrassed.

Sleeping in a room with Mrs. Lin at night makes my cousin collapse. Mrs. Lin will turn off the lights at 7 pm and get up every hour or two. When she comes, she will call me cousin, even if nothing happens. Mrs. Lin's back itches at night and gets up to tease her when she sleeps. At about 4 o'clock in the morning, she would get up without sleeping and ask my cousin to cook porridge for her. My cousin has been doing it for two months.

Give me 1 10,000 every month, let me serve two old people, one is paralyzed and the other can take care of himself. I also have to do housework. Will I go? My cousin's decision speaks for itself. I will never go, especially the old people of Lin's generation. When they were young, they had absolute authority at home, and their daughter-in-law dared not talk back to them. They always like to find fault with their daughter-in-law, and this habit will not change when they are old, especially when she thinks that she spends so much money to hire you, you must obey her wishes and not talk back to her.

There is a paralyzed old man who needs to pay more labor and endure more grievances. A person must have a bad temper after paralysis. This is a normal emotion of people. It's hard to lie in bed all day and have to be waited on by others. After a long time, the whole person's personality will change greatly. It is normal to be moody and swear. At this time, you have to endure her temper when you serve her. I can't stand her taking a shower and peeing, and you have to wait on her.

My cousin is serving an old man with quick hands and feet. She won't pay 6000 yuan a month, not to mention two old people and one paralyzed. Many old people's living habits and concepts are unbearable. But if these two old people are my parents, then I will definitely serve them. This is the filial piety that a child should do, and can't be measured by money.

Lin Popo is very poor now. After her cousin changed three people to wait on her, most of them resigned in a month or two. The oldest worked for four months, and then no one wanted to wait on her. Everyone knows her and no one wants to go. The four brothers in Guangzhou added the money to 10000, but the second one in the village refused to accept it. They can only rent a house in Guangzhou and put it.

I've been thinking about why the four brothers have already bought a house and can clean up a room for Lin's mother-in-law.

Thank you for your invitation. If you are your own old man, you should be able to wait on him without paying. This is what you should do. You should wait on him until he is old.

If a brother works outside and has no time to come back to serve, and I am in the countryside, then we can discuss the money and I can serve. It depends on how much money you take. Everything is expensive now. If people who work outside think there is too much money and disagree, then discuss it. If you think a year is too long, three months is fine, or how much money to send to a nursing home, or another is that brothers can chip in and ask someone to help you with home care.

In short, the old man is so old that he can't be sad because his children don't care when he wants someone to take care of him.

Want to be a child is to raise offspring, so we must leave a good response for future generations, otherwise they will look forward to it. It's not good for old people, and they will do the same to you in the future. thank you

I won't go, because it's really too hard to serve the elderly who are seriously ill in bed.

This year's National Day, my mother was ill in hospital. I took care of her for two days, and I was so tired that my back ached.

During the day, I mainly watched her go to the toilet, accompanied her to the corridor of the hospital, cooked during meals, and washed a bowl after meals. Then see the injection in the morning and ask the nurse to change the medicine three times a day.

I rented a small folding bed at night and slept in the ward. Mom gets up twice every night, and I have to get up to help.

In fact, on the whole, she is not so tired. After all, she can still walk by herself. I just need to take care of her a little. But after two days, I really felt so tired that my body was falling apart. There are several main reasons.

First of all, lack of sleep, energy can not keep up. Although nothing needs much effort, I haven't completely relaxed all day. If you don't sleep well at night, you wake up in a daze, which leads to dizziness.

Second, it is difficult to rest physically. In the hospital, you are more comfortable lying down than at home. In the hospital, you can only sit on a stool all day and rest at night is just a narrow bed, which is not good at all.

Third, psychological depression. You are surrounded by sick old people, and it is inevitable that there will be complaints and complaints. Plus, looking at the sick body of the old man every day will make me feel very uncomfortable.

Therefore, no matter how high my salary is, I don't want to serve the elderly, let alone a paralyzed old man who takes care of himself. If my parents arrive at this time, I would rather work hard to make money and ask someone to take care of me, because taking care of the elderly for a long time will make me sick.

Is there such a good thing?

When it comes to serving two old people, one can take care of himself, so he doesn't have to serve, and the other is paralyzed, eating, drinking and sleeping depend entirely on serving. The difficulty lies in serving paralyzed patients. However, it is quite attractive to give 1 10,000 per month. Even in the first-tier cities like Beijing, Guangzhou and Shenzhen, this nursing fee is not low. It is high in our fourth-tier cities. If there is a recruitment, don't be crazy. Seeing this news, my heart is ready to move, but at the age of 77, people will feel too old to use it.

No matter in urban or rural areas, young people aged 2-30 will not do this kind of service. I would rather stay at home than not work, because it is embarrassing to serve others. Single women aged 4-50 from rural areas, or newly retired women workers in cities, have low pensions, and generally do not need to be over 50 to find other jobs. If you can't find a suitable job to serve the elderly, the key is that 10000 yuan will attract people to do it. Women in their fifties are generally sanitation workers. We spend a month 1 yuan, get up early and get greedy for the dark, sunbathe at 30 degrees in summer and snow removal at MINUS 2-30 degrees in winter. Or watch the public toilets clean, which unit cleans, and the salary is not high.

Serve two old people, for this 6.5438+0 million yuan, if you have to break your head here. Because it is a good thing that the salary is so high, I hired two nurses in the hospital, 1 month. I didn't hear that it reached 1 ten thousand yuan.

Although 1 10,000 is said, the salary is not low, and it is not easy to serve two old people. There are too many words that can take care of themselves, and it is difficult to serve. The other one is paralyzed, but he doesn't have much to say or say. Eat, drink, sleep, and rely on crutches in every move. No one can't do anything, and it's hard to serve.

One is difficult to serve, the other is difficult to serve. For this 1, 000 yuan, no matter how hard it is, we must do it. Smile at the fussy old man. If you are not satisfied, try to improve and try to satisfy the elderly. As long as you are not tired of this difficult old man, no matter how hard, tired and dirty you are, you must work hard and never be careless. Feed and drink water, pour urine, wipe ass, wipe excrement on bedding, wash dirty clothes, and change old people into clean clothes. There is no smell in the house, and the elderly are often turned over to wipe their bodies without bedsores.

Not necessarily noble, at least worth that 10 thousand yuan.

Why not? I have to go to work now to take care of my children and my grandmother with Alzheimer's disease. The salary is not high, and grandma's pension is used to pay for the expenses of the nanny and the expenses of taking medicine and injections in the hospital with headache and brain fever. Nanny is from eight to six. Only responsible for cooking lunch, taking care of grandma's dinner, going to the toilet, going downstairs for a walk and so on. I do all the housework, breakfast and dinner. When I come home from work at night, I not only have to cook, take care of my grandmother, eat and drink Lazar, but also help my children with their homework.

Sometimes I feel really tired, but I can't help it.

If grandma is 100 years old and someone is willing to give me 10 thousand a month to take care of the elderly, of course I am willing to do it First, it is higher than salary; Second, it is a good thing to take care of the elderly in their later years; Third, when children are older, don't worry. It's good to earn more.

I give you 1 0,000 every month to serve two old people, one is paralyzed, the other can take care of himself and do housework. Will you go?

It will be done!

Everyone knows that a penny can't beat a hero. People living in the world can't live without money.

Especially in middle age, people have no education, no skills and no good jobs.

There are old people in the world and little people in the world, and the pressure of life is great.

It may be the best choice for women to do housework.

There is a nanny nearby, 55 years old, serving an 80-year-old couple in a village in the city. The woman is paralyzed in bed and the man can take care of himself.

Nanny's job is to eat three meals a day, but also to cook in another way and clean up the house, otherwise the 80-year-old man will be like a psychopath and there is nothing to be picky about.

Old people have a big temper!

The old lady collapsed in bed, and as a nanny, she had to be able to nurse, help turn over and help scrub.

The salary is only 3000 yuan per month. If you don't do it, many people will do it.

Life is hard, and now most of the nannies are middle-aged women in nearby villages.

There are fewer and fewer young people.

Don't find it difficult to serve the people. Take that money and worry about others.

Nothing is easy for people to live in this world.

Each has its own hardships, each has its own difficulties and each has its own difficulties.

My mother-in-law was paralyzed by a cerebral infarction in January this year. Three sisters-in-law came out of the hospital, and the four of me took turns to serve, each for a week. After a month, everyone felt it was inappropriate, because we all worked and had to take a week off every month. Should the boss be unwilling? In addition, my sister-in-law is sick in the waist and legs, and the old man is lifted to turn over, and his condition is aggravated. Everyone discusses that each person will pay 600 yuan to let me take care of it at home. I agreed, because in our countryside, married girls don't support the elderly, but they all live with their sons, but my husband died and my son hasn't married a wife yet, so my sister-in-law also wants to help me collect some living expenses. I quit my job and stayed at home to serve. The old man can't take care of himself. The younger generation should take care of him. If it is too difficult to give money, will he let the old man go?

Tell me about my home!

Mom is 80, dad is 90. My mother's Alzheimer's disease is mild, and she has fallen many times. Now she can take care of herself (she can go to the toilet by herself) and eat by herself. Dad can take care of himself.

My mother is usually at my eldest brother's house, and my father lives alone in the big yard under his hometown except when the weather is warmer during the Spring Festival. He doesn't like architecture.

Big brother took four days off last two days. In those two days, I will go to my mother's house to cook and sleep with her after work. Once a week, I go to my father's place to send some steamed buns, jiaozi, and sometimes some stewed fish. Dad can steam his own rice. Pasta is basically not cooked.

I'm in my early fifties, and because I haven't worked for 15 years, I don't have a pension when I retire, so I have to work to make up for it. Go to work every day, take care of my mother after work, and take time to go to my father's house. Just like an hour hand, it keeps turning and turning.

Thank god, I'm just contributing, and I don't need to spend money. My father is a retired cadre, and his pension is not low, so I am satisfied, although I work harder. After all, my parents didn't give me financial pressure.

It doesn't matter whether you are tired or not, they are my parents! You should!