Master Hsing Yun personally talks about the ten most useful sentences in his life

1. Don’t be a scorched sprout: If a monk is not determined to save all sentient beings and benefit mankind and heaven, he will be like a scorched seed. Not being a deadbeat of Buddhism inspires me to be a useful person, to carry forward Buddhism, and to contribute to society. Talents are not given by God. Future achievements and prospects must be achieved by yourself and use your own light and heat. There is nothing in the world that comes without hard work. The reason why we can achieve success in life comes from a lot of help from our parents, teachers, relatives and friends. What we can achieve by ourselves is very limited.

2. You don’t have to be knowledgeable, but you can’t be a human being: People must not only know how to read, but also apply what they learn, especially how to be a human being. It is difficult to be a good person, and it is difficult to be a good person. Some scholars and experts are very knowledgeable and inventive, but they know nothing about the world. The reason why young people will not succeed is that they cannot speak well or do not know how to speak well. In today's society, people must have expressions, voices, and smiles to be humane. In addition to reading and studying, it is important to work hard.

3. Only those who know how to be grateful will be rich: a nod, a smile, and taking the initiative to help others are all infinite graces. The dripping kindness of parents, teachers, country, relatives and friends must be repaid with springs. A life of acceptance is poor, but a life of gratitude is rich.

4. Don’t ask for anything from others, but ask what you can give to others: If you want to be a useful person, you must be like the sun, emitting light and heat to everyone every day. We must be tolerant and patient when getting along with others. Our existence is a gathering of external causes and conditions, so people must know how to give back and be grateful.

5. Everyone is happy: When you get along with others and do things, everyone should be happy. You would rather suffer a loss and be wronged than think about yourself in everything.

6. Willingness: Everything, especially promoting the Dharma and benefiting living beings, must be done with willingness, regardless of fame and fortune. Therefore, we must be principled in doing things. No matter how prosperous and wealthy others are, we must be loyal to our duties and be willing to live a life of indifference and not be moved by the outside world.

7. Don’t be angry in everything, but be upbeat: insist on your own ideals, and don’t be discouraged by external words. As long as you have the will, you will one day achieve your dreams.

8. You may not believe in Buddha, but you must believe in cause and effect: if you want to know the cause of the past life, what is the recipient in this life; if you want to know the result of the next life, what is done in this life, evil will be rewarded with evil, good will be rewarded with good, cause and effect It is very realistic. People live in reality, how can we not have the concept of cause and effect? ??

9. You can lose everything, but you cannot lose compassion: when a person is frustrated, suffering, discouraged, and confused , if you keep a compassionate heart, you will definitely find a way in the future.

10. I can have nothing, but I can’t live without faith: Faith is the goal and track of life. With faith, people can find themselves, understand themselves, and discover themselves. Ten sentences that influence a child's life

The five best sentences

1. Make your own decision.

If you want your child to do something, or stop doing something, we suggest you say this. The purpose of saying this is to let the child understand that he must be responsible for his own actions. For example, you can say to your daughter and her friends: You decide, do you want to stay here and play quietly, or go outside? After five minutes, the children are still making a lot of noise, you can Tell them again: I understand, it seems you have decided to go outside. With these two simple sentences, you not only let the children understand the relationship between cause and effect, but you will also not be regarded as a bad policeman by your daughter. She can clearly understand: she made her own decision and chose this. a result.

2. Mom loves you, but she doesn’t like what you do.

As a parent, it is inevitable that you will sometimes blame your children. At this time, the most important thing is to separate the thing itself from the person who did it. This way, your child will know that he did something bad, but it does not mean that he is a bad person. While criticizing your child, tell him that your mother loves you. Doing so will also remind you that the purpose of criticizing your child is to help him distinguish right from wrong, not to punish him. If you can think like this, it will be easier for you to stay calm in the face of your child's mistakes. Single parents have their own way of raising children.

3. What do you actually want to say?

Sometimes, children will become emotionally out of control because they are angry or excited. Stop shouting: I don’t want you! I hate you! At that moment, the only words the poor little guy could think of were these words. At this time, you need to help your children better understand and express their emotions. In addition to gently asking: What do you actually want to say? You can also give him some reference answers: Are you angry because brother Xiao Ming leaked your secret? When your child gradually learns to understand his inner feelings, then, even if you Without him, he can clearly express his feelings to those around him.

4. Come and try to help me solve this problem.

If your child does something that makes you angry, sings a new song from kindergarten during the meal, or tries to draw a picture with the vegetables in his hand, you can say this. Talk as if the problem is yours, and then ask your child to help you think of a solution. For example: this method is to wait until after dinner and you start washing the dishes, and then he will sing to you.

This is a magic sentence. It can make the child feel that his behavior is welcomed and respected, so that he can not regard you as his opposite. If the only solution that satisfies you is for your child to completely stop what he or she is doing, you can work together to find ways for your child to remember what not to do and when.

5. Different people have different needs.

Xixi has a doll, so I want one too. If Xiao Ming’s father lets him eat ice cream, then I can eat it too. This is the simple logic that children most often use to bargain with you. In this case, you must tell him clearly: different people have different needs. You need to let your children understand that everyone only gets what they really need. For example, just because the girl next door has glasses, it doesn’t mean that all the children in the building can get glasses. Just because your cousin's shoes are too small doesn't mean that all your siblings need to buy new pairs.

The five worst sentences

1. How do you get older?

If a six-year-old child cannot get what he wants, If a four-year-old has trouble staying still in a car seat, that's because he's only four. Although we always hope that our children will behave more mature and obedient, the thing is: children will always go through those years when they are stubborn, naughty, self-centered, hyperactive and other behaviors. This is necessary for their growth.

Many parents easily forget this fact because their children's misbehavior always annoys them. However, when you say such words to your child, what you are expressing is empty blame and ignores the reason why the child behaves as he does. When you yell at your child: Why are you becoming more disobedient as you get older, all you are focusing on is your own feelings. We suggest that you learn more about your young child's feelings. When you can't help but blame him, please start with some more sympathetic sentences: You look very angry. Or I know you're unhappy, but things like this are bound to happen. Mothers must learn to recognize children's signals for help

2. Don't run, you may fall.

Of course you mean well. As a mother, you always want to protect your children. However, we still want to say that warnings like this are more likely to cause children to suffer setbacks. Did you know that when you say this, you are actually sending this message to your child: you are sure that he will fall. For a child who is struggling to become independent, such information is undoubtedly a heavy blow. So, a better statement might be: Remember to tie your shoelaces before going out to play. That way you're emphasizing the laces, not the child's clumsiness.

Moreover, when your warnings do not come true time and time again (be careful, the juice will spill! You will break the cup!), your children will slowly start to accept your suggestions. Show disapproval because he thinks you are just talking casually.

3. I’m just teasing you.

Don’t expose your baby’s shortcomings in front of outsiders

You may think that making a joke with your child is not a big deal, and it can also cultivate his sense of humor.

But have you ever thought about it, when you say to your child: If you don’t listen carefully to what your mother says, I will glue your ears next time. Have you ever thought about it, your child might actually believe you would do this. As a parent, your responsibility is to love and help your children, not to appear humorous and interesting by saying things that may seem humorous but are actually insults. Therefore, if you don’t mean something you say, it’s best not to say it. 5 things to note when talking to your children

4. Why can’t you be like Lili?

Comparisons like this can only get one result: make your child feel like A second-class citizen, it can also lead to hatred and fighting among children. If you hope that your child will always get red flowers like the kid next door, or be as polite as your little cousin, using this comparison method will never work. The only effect will be to undermine the child's self-confidence. Remember, the more you tell your child that he is not as good as others, the more he will believe that he is not good enough. Therefore, the wiser approach is to accept the child's strengths and weaknesses with tolerance, and then encourage him to grow happily in a direction that is most suitable for him.

5. What did I just tell you?

Of course you know the answer to such a question. So, this question with a slightly sarcastic tone is actually an accusation. If you really want to blame your child for not doing what you asked of him, it would be better to say clearly: I am very unhappy because I have told you three times. But I tell you again, put the toys you don’t play with back in the box.

Even if you want to express the same meaning, what expressions and words you choose will have a great impact on your children, even if you think they sometimes don't hear what you are saying.

In the process of interacting with your child, whether you are making a request, giving an answer, or talking to him about conditions and reaching a compromise. The words you use may make your child more cooperative and confident, but they may also make them feel frustrated and lose confidence. Remember ten sentences that will benefit you for life

The first sentence:

If there are 1,000 steps between us, as long as you take the first step, I will move towards you Take the remaining 999 steps in the direction.

Second sentence:

Usually the person who is willing to stay and argue with you is the person who truly loves you.

The third sentence:

Only by giving your sincerity can you get your sincerity, but it may also be completely hurt.

Keeping distance can protect yourself, but you are doomed to be lonely forever.

The fourth sentence:

Sometimes, it’s not that the other person doesn’t care about you, but that you take the other person too seriously.

The fifth sentence:

A friend is someone who sees you through and still likes you.

The sixth sentence:

Even if it is believe, there is a lie hidden in the middle.

Sentence 7:

Real good friends don’t have endless topics to talk about when they are together, but when they are together, they won’t feel embarrassed even if they don’t talk.

The eighth sentence:

There is no one-hundred-percent partner, only two people who are fifty-fifty.

The ninth sentence:

Those who are happy for your sadness are enemies; those who are happy for your happiness are friends; those who are sad for your sadness are those who should be friends. Put it in your heart.

Sentence 10:

Indifference is sometimes not heartless, but just a tool to avoid being hurt. Ten sentences that make people comfortable in life

The first sentence: A contented person is poor in body but rich in heart; a greedy person is rich in body but poor in heart. Isn’t it often said that contentment always brings happiness? What we enjoy is that our hearts are rich. Although we don’t have much property and our income is not as high as in our jobs, we have no worries. People have thoughts, and only those who are rich in thoughts are truly wealthy.

The second sentence: There are only three days in life. Confused people live in yesterday, people with extravagant hopes live in tomorrow, and only clear people live in today. Yesterday has passed and it is an expired check. Tomorrow has not come yet and it is a check that cannot be withdrawn. Only living today is the most realistic thing.

The third sentence: There is no need to care about life and let yourself be angry. As the saying goes, if you are less than a hundred years old, you will always worry about being a thousand years old.

Everything starts from the heart, and a smile solves a thousand worries. If you think that we are all passers-by, just visiting this world, what trivial things are worth worrying about?

Sentence 4: It is not difficult to live a simple life, as long as you know how to live for yourself, live for beauty, and do for happiness. The fewer needs, the more freedom; the fewer luxuries, the more comfort.

The fifth sentence: A little more joy, a little less sadness; a little more truth, a little less hypocrisy; a little more leisurely, a little less busy. These four more and four less are very important. With them, you can live a happy life. The elderly can completely arrange their lives independently and treat themselves well, so that they will be rich in their hearts.

The sixth sentence: Less energy and more leisure, the body is busy and the mind is free. It is not easy to truly achieve these eight words. The key is the word "idle". The elderly must have leisure time to spend their old age. Of course, it is good to do some housework. It will be boring if you do nothing, but do not be busy physically and mentally, but be busy physically and mentally.

Sentence 7: Change your attitude to adapt to different situations, feel relaxed and comfortable, don't feel depressed and have trouble with yourself. When people reach old age, they have seen through everything. No matter what, don't make things difficult for yourself. You must be kind to yourself and don't worry about it.

The eighth sentence: Life is a game, others are chasing houses and castles, I just want the wind, flowers, snow and moon, the stone bench in the flower shed, sit down and get drunk, sing a song, have a cup of tea, and enjoy myself. As long as the residence is comfortable and convenient, there is no need to have upstairs or downstairs. A song, a cup of tea, raising flowers and fish, wouldn’t it be great to enjoy the beauty of nature?

Ninth sentence: Because life is simple, I have more opportunities to listen to the pine waves, watch the wind and rain, look up at the stars, open my heart, and feel spiritual. Don't miss the opportunity to appreciate and enjoy nature. Life is not easy, so you must enjoy it.

Sentence 10: When your mood is simple, you have time to manage your life; when your life is simple, you have time to enjoy life. We must learn to manage our own lives, not to hang around every day, nor to stay up every day, but to enjoy life every day, which requires managing life. There are too many joys and sorrows, too many joys and sorrows, too many troubles and pains in the world. Only in this way can you be happy if you live simply.