My brother-in-law refuses to pay back the money he borrowed, so I sent a message to Moments to remind him. Is this wrong?

As the saying goes: "Borrowing money is like picking up money for nothing, and collecting debts is income." I don't know since when, this social atmosphere has slowly changed. Those who borrow money are uncles, and the borrowed money will not be repaid. Especially the uncle.

Many people ask you to borrow money but never mention repaying it. When you take the initiative to ask for it, they will say you are stingy. When encountering this kind of thing, you can only post some sarcastic remarks about people borrowing money and not paying it back in your circle of friends. It is really depressing.

As the saying goes: "It is natural to pay back debts." Since you have borrowed money from others, you should pay it back. If you borrow money, you should pay it back, so it is not difficult to borrow again. When others lend money, they lend it to you because they trust you, because they think that everyone has a critical moment.

But if the money is not repaid by the designated date, it will damage the trust between people. Once this layer of trust window paper is punctured, there will be no room for repair. .

Mengmeng has been worried about money recently. She borrowed 30,000 yuan from her brother-in-law some time ago and agreed to pay back the money on a specified date. However, when she called him to pay back the money, nothing happened. The news came, which made Mengmeng anxious.

Why do things that were agreed upon in advance change in the blink of an eye? This made Mengmeng feel a huge deception in her heart, and the cornerstone of trust collapsed instantly.

Speaking of this matter, we have to start from the cute brother-in-law. My brother-in-law dropped out of school when he was a teenager and went out to work in the society. Over the years, although he did not have any great achievements, he still made some money. This made the mother-in-law who loved my brother-in-law feel infinitely glorious and mentioned the glory of her son to everyone she met. Deeds.

Although my brother-in-law has some small achievements, he has not yet married when he is 30 years old. This makes my mother-in-law very anxious. She arranges matchmakers everywhere to introduce blind dates to her brother-in-law, but the brother-in-law is arrogant and arrogant. They all looked down on him, so he said: "When I start a big project this time, I can make more money and get a wife."

After hearing what my brother-in-law said, my mother-in-law felt that My brother-in-law is very motivated. In order to let him concentrate on his career, he never mentioned the blind date again.

When Mengmeng married from her mother's family to her mother-in-law's family, there was a dowry worth tens of thousands, which was left untouched by Mengmeng. In addition, Mengmeng is also running a business, so the family is not too shabby.

My brother-in-law is working on a big project recently, but there is still little start-up capital, and he does not have that much money. After thinking about it, he found his sister-in-law Mengmeng.

The brother-in-law explained the ins and outs of the matter to Mengmeng, and asked Mengmeng to borrow 30,000 yuan. Mengmeng was a little hesitant, after all, 30,000 yuan is not a small amount.

Because I am doing business recently and need capital turnover, my brother-in-law has to borrow 30,000 yuan as soon as he asks, which is really embarrassing. In order to appease her brother-in-law first, Mengmeng had no choice but to think about it first and make a reply in two days when she had sufficient funds.

Unexpectedly, the brother-in-law turned around and told his mother-in-law about this matter. When the mother-in-law found out, she went to Mengmeng and said, "My brother-in-law is really in need of money urgently. As a family, I will help if I can." Busy." Now that her mother-in-law has spoken, how can Mengmeng not help.

On the third day, Mengmeng remitted the money to her brother-in-law's account and asked him to sign an IOU. It was promised that the loan would be repaid as soon as the specified date was reached, and my brother-in-law agreed without hesitation.

Ever since Mengmeng lent the money to her brother-in-law, the brother-in-law never contacted her again. Mengmeng thought that her brother-in-law was too busy at work, so she didn’t take it too seriously, thinking that her brother-in-law would definitely take the initiative to repay the money. of.

But when the day came to repay the money, there was no movement from her brother-in-law. Mengmeng felt that they were all a family and it would be a bit embarrassing to speak directly, so she postponed it until the next day.

On the second day, the brother-in-law still didn’t contact Mengmeng, which made Mengmeng feel a little unhappy. Don’t you have any consciousness to pay back the money now? So Mengmeng shamelessly called her brother-in-law, but the other person on the phone said: "The phone you dialed has been turned off."

Mengmeng was a little anxious when she suddenly couldn't contact her brother-in-law. Her business also needs capital turnover recently. Isn't it deceptive to disappear at this juncture?

The more Mengmeng thought about it, the angrier she became, so she posted a message on WeChat Moments suggesting that her brother-in-law should pay back the money, and she even liked her. Mengmeng didn’t believe that her brother-in-law couldn’t see it.

My mother-in-law had nothing to do at home. When she was scrolling through Moments, she came across Mengmeng’s updates. She saw that this meant that her brother-in-law had borrowed money and refused to repay it, so her mother-in-law found Mengmeng. , asked what was going on.

Mengmeng told her mother-in-law: "When I borrowed money, my brother-in-law signed an IOU, and he had to pay back the money on a specified date. It's good, just play with me and disappear."

Although the mother-in-law felt that her brother-in-law was wrong after hearing what Mengmeng said, she was her son and her heart would definitely be biased towards him.

My mother-in-law said to Mengmeng: "Although it is my brother-in-law's fault, he may have been in a difficult situation recently. At worst, I will just delay paying it back to you for a few days. Why are you still posting it in a big way in the circle of friends?" Come out, are you afraid that others won't know?"

Mengmeng became angry when she heard her mother-in-law's words. She had already given her brother-in-law grace time. She originally thought that her brother-in-law would take the initiative to contact her, but she didn't expect that not only would she not No sound, even when making calls, the phone is turned off.

Mengmeng said directly to her mother-in-law: "Mother-in-law, my brother-in-law doesn't pay back the money he borrowed. Let me send a message to Moments to remind him what's wrong?" Not comfortable. The mother-in-law knew that she was in the wrong and was too embarrassed to say anything.

He kindly lent money to his brother-in-law, but his brother-in-law betrayed Mengmeng's trust in him and chose to solve the problem by evading it. You can hide for a while, but you can't hide forever. Avoiding problems will only make mistrust worse.

Northern said:

Some people borrow money from others, and they will never take the initiative to pay it back unless others ask for it. There are more and more people like this, and fewer and fewer people are willing to lend money. This is how trust between people is destroyed.

Repaying debts is not only repaying money, but also a trusting friendship. Because no one will lend you money for no reason. After all, it is not easy for everyone to make money.

People’s hearts are fickle and unpredictable. We can never control others, nor can we change other people’s thoughts, but we can control our own risks.

When we borrow money, we must also consider the risk of not being able to get it back. It is okay to borrow money, but we must also keep it safe for ourselves. Writing an IOU is the best guarantee.

It is only fair that brothers settle accounts clearly and have proof of credit. Don’t betray anyone’s trust. After all, if you borrow something, you must repay it, and it’s not difficult to borrow again.