"Building a new house at home will cost you 200,000 yuan." Phoenix man said nothing. How did his daughter-in-law reply?

Marriage is a hurdle in our life. Marry the right person and get through this hurdle, and our life will become extremely happy; Marrying the wrong person may lead to the wrong marriage and add uncertainty to our lives.

If a loving couple wants to get married, they need to solve many practical problems, such as the conditions for marriage.

First of all, if two people want to get married, they need to determine each other's intentions, and both think that each other is worth entrusting for life; Secondly, they need the approval of both parents; Finally, they should get ready for the relevant matters needed for marriage.

For men, the pressure of getting married is enormous, mainly in the economic aspect. The man needs to give the woman's parents a satisfactory bride price to solve the housing problem. For many girls, renting a house to get married is unacceptable.

Marriage room is an obstacle to marriage. How to buy a wedding room, whose name is written on the real estate license, and who will repay the loan after marriage are the focus of controversy.

A reader once asked me, "My son wants to get married and asked me to buy him a wedding room in full, but I refused, so he hates me and refuses to give me a pension." I want to know, are parents obliged to buy a wedding room for their children? "

The answer to this question is obvious. Parents have no obligation to buy a wedding room for their children. Children are married, have reached adulthood, have independent economic strength, and have no right to ask their parents to continue to support them financially. Whether to give money to buy a wedding room for children should be decided by parents. Parents also have to decide whether to pay the full amount or the down payment.

? It is difficult to have a good result in a marriage where the door is not right.

This year's Spring Festival, my uncle took the whole family back to his hometown to celebrate his grandfather's birthday. I was very happy to see my cousin and asked her about her marital status.

She told me that in order to avoid the entanglement of her boyfriend, she canceled her marriage and ran back to her hometown.

As far as I know, my cousin and her boyfriend have been in love for three years, and their feelings are very firm. According to my mother, my uncle doesn't like this marriage. For this reason, my cousin cried at home and let my uncle agree to this marriage.

So why did she decide not to marry herself?

I didn't know what happened until I heard my cousin's story. It turns out that my cousin fell in love with a phoenix man.

My cousin's boyfriend, surnamed He, is 29 years old. He graduated from a famous university and completed his postgraduate studies. Xiao He and his cousin are colleagues. Xiao He is the technical backbone of the company, with an annual income of about 500,000.

After falling in love, my cousin learned about Xiao He's family. Xiao He comes from a rural area in a remote area, and his cousin can't tell the specific address. Xiao He's parents make a living by growing crops, vegetables and fruits, and their income is meager. In order to support Xiao He's education, his family got a lot of help from relatives and owed a foreign debt. Therefore, although Xiao He has a high income, he needs to give a lot of money to his family.

My cousin is just an ordinary employee of their company. Although the salary is very low, the monthly salary is only 5 thousand, but the family is relatively well-off.

My uncle and aunt have been doing business and have accumulated a considerable fortune. There are three houses under the name of my uncle and aunt, one for rent, one for my cousin and one for living now.

? A man's attitude towards dowry shows his character.

Originally, my uncle planned to take the rented house back as a dowry when my cousin got married. However, out of distrust of Phoenix Man, Uncle changed his mind.

He said to his cousin, "Now that you are an adult, you should own a house by your own efforts. Tell you what! The down payment is given to you by dad, and the names of you and Xiao He are written on the real estate license, and the mortgage is paid by you. "

Cousin agreed: "Xiao He's salary is so high, I also have income, and I can't afford the mortgage."

However, when my cousin told Xiao He the news with joy, Xiao He's face changed instantly. He actually accused his cousin: "Your family is so rich, why are you only willing to pay the down payment for the wedding room?" Your parents are so stingy! "

My cousin asked him inexplicably, "How can you be stingy? A down payment for a wedding room will cost hundreds of thousands! Your family gave him a bride price of 66 thousand, and my parents gave him hundreds of thousands Is this stingy? Besides, the annual salary is 500,000, and I am afraid that I can't afford the mortgage? "

"Although my annual salary is very high, I need to support my parents and help my brother get married and have children. When I was studying, my relatives at home helped me a lot. I can't help but repay this kindness! How can I afford the mortgage? "

After listening to Xiao He's words, my cousin was a little unhappy. In her opinion, supporting in-laws is right. As for the brother-in-law's marriage, how could it be built by her brother?

At this time, Xiao He is still endlessly analyzing the gains and losses of his cousin: "Why are you so stupid?" You have a brother. If you don't use marriage to get more property, what will your parents' property have to do with you in the future? No, you must ask your parents to get married and write my name on it. We are getting married, and your money is my money. I can't afford this loss. "

Cousin angrily shook off Xiao He's hand: "You want to be beautiful! You played your wishful thinking, and until now, I haven't seen your true face. You feed your family with your own money and let my family solve your housing problem, and half of the house will be yours. Let me take money to live after marriage, right? Then after we get married, should I let your parents move into the wedding room I bought in full? How can you be so smart? Smart enough to scare me and let me down. "

My cousin went home and never looked back. She cried and threw herself into menstruation's arms, asking her to cancel her marriage. Why don't you give up and come to the door many times? My aunt asked the security guard to drive her away several times, but she didn't get rid of Xiao He's entanglement.

Hearing this, I gave her an idea: "If he still makes trouble, you deliberately set him up and record it. Aren't you colleagues with him? Just play this recording to the boss and colleagues. I think his job can still be saved? "

People who pass the buck to others have worrying personalities. Whose responsibility is buying a house? In fact, buying a wedding room is neither the responsibility of parents, nor the responsibility of a man alone, but the responsibility of the couple. The people who live in the wedding room are newcomers, and those who enjoy the benefits brought by the wedding room are also newcomers. Naturally, they should buy a house with the same investment.

Because the men and women who are going to get married have insufficient economic conditions, they can't scrape together the money to buy a house. Parents can pay part of the down payment for them, let the couple buy a house with the joint property of husband and wife, and write their names on the real estate license. This is the best choice.

And some men want to have a house to live in, but they don't want to spend a penny, so they pass on the responsibility of buying a house to others. They may use the banner of affection to force their parents to take out their savings to buy a house for themselves, or use love as bait to ask the woman to solve the problem of marriage room.

A man who holds the idea of his wife's pre-marital property like this is very worrying and not worth entrusting for life. Before they get married, they can try their best to take advantage of their wishful thinking, so how sincere can they be to girls?

I want to advise men not to calculate others unscrupulously just because women love you. Not all women can give in blindly for love, and not all women will be carried away by love. Once they find out who you really are, they will be disappointed in you, so they will give up this marriage and let you taste the taste of shooting yourself in the foot. Love needs mutual understanding, mutual devotion and honesty. It's hard for a lover to reap true love.