My good son became my best friend.

? I got a call from my son at noon today, just to tell me one thing. A luxurious canteen has been built in their school, with three floors and escalators. The luxury of the canteen on each floor is introduced in detail. At that time, my good friend Mr. Tan (an education expert in my mind) happened to be next to me and boasted: What a harmonious mother-child relationship. I secretly proudly say that my grown-up son has become my best friend.

I am a lazy mother, and my parents have three men and two women. I am the youngest, commonly known as Lao Man, the apple of my parents' eye, and the little sister who grows up in the eyes of my brothers and sisters. Everything will be tolerated by my parents, brothers and sisters, so I am slow and clumsy and lazy as a whole.

? Before I was admitted to college, my third brother had been worried about my future, saying that I couldn't imagine how I could live if I didn't go to college and stayed in the countryside. Fortunately, I was not lazy in my study, and finally I was admitted to the university and jumped out of the door of agriculture.

Of course, after I got married, my parents and brothers and sisters began to worry about how to be a mother. Today, my son is 23 years old and is in the second year of graduate school. He is as close to me as his best friend. The most important thing is that my son is so old that he doesn't feel hard at all. So my parents, brothers and sisters have laughed at me many times, saying that lazy people have lazy lives.

? After the son was born, the milk was sufficient, and the son drank his mother's milk until he was one year old. It may be that my son has too much milk, and his body and mind are comfortable and his illness is less. I have hardly met the common situation that young parents have a high fever, emergency treatment in the middle of the night and crying. My son has been a good boy since childhood. I remember one day when my son was about one and a half years old, my brother and sister-in-law came to see me. When we were chatting in the living room, suddenly, we saw our tired son climb into bed without saying a word and fell asleep soon. My brothers and sisters were stunned. In my opinion, other children are always like this.

? /kloc-After 0/year-old, my son began to eat, and I never fed him. When eating, let him sit on a small table and stool to eat. If he behaves well, he will stick a small red flower on the wall of the restaurant. When you don't want to eat, say you don't want to eat. Let him go happily and let him play. If he is hungry, cook for him immediately and let him eat by himself. This is a virtuous circle. When his eating habits are good, he doesn't need to feed them.

? Lazy mother is lazy in action, not in mouth. She likes to reason with her son, and she doesn't use children's language, but uses adults' language. Of course, she won't make a long speech. For example, if you can't be partial eclipse, tell him that human beings need protein, fat, sugar and vitamins, tell him that eggs and lean meat are protein, rice, steamed stuffed bun are sugar, vegetables are vitamins, etc., and tell him that partial eclipse won't grow taller, it's not smart, and the effect is not bad. His son has no partial eclipse.

Before my son went to school, he slept irregularly at night. I'm worried. At school, he is required to go to bed at 9 o'clock and get up at 6 o'clock every day. I wonder if he can do it. Unexpectedly, when I got to school, my son went to bed consciously at 9 o'clock every day and woke up automatically in the morning. Sometimes he gets up earlier than me for fear of being late. Since then, the problem of getting up after school has never bothered me again.

? I don't care when my son is in conflict with other children. When he was a child, he had a very good child, Xiaobai. They were inseparable every day. There are few contradictions. Probably one day when he was over seven years old. For some reason, they really fought. After being torn to pieces, they were furious. When they got home, they lost their temper and cried, "Xiao Bai is wrong." I want to tell his mother to hit him. I want to tell his father to hit him. I want to tell my teacher to keep his school going. "

? I treated my son coldly when he was frustrated and wronged. I remember one day in the third grade of primary school, there was a whole grade meeting, and there were more than 500 people in the 10 parallel class. The teacher criticized several old people who didn't do their homework. It is said that they are also standing in front of the team, and their son is one of them. When I got home that day, I lay on the sofa with tears in my eyes. I am very wronged. I sat next to him, patted him and said, "If you feel uncomfortable, you can cry." My son cried out, and I didn't criticize him again. No matter how heavy the criticism is, the impact on his mind will not be greater than this. I don't think he will make the same mistake again. Later, he really changed.

When my son was 8 years old, his mother died. It was about 6 o'clock in the morning when I got the call. I was sad for a while, afraid to disturb others, but I didn't cry. My lovely son, with tears in his eyes, went to the canteen to buy steamed bread and porridge (I met my colleague Chen Jie on the way, and I thought it was his grievance) and came home to pat him.

? When my son was 9 years old, one day he said to me seriously, "Mom, I like a female classmate in my class, who is beautiful and smart with two pigtails." As soon as I listened to the music, I teased him, "You like a female classmate, is it the kind you like when you get married?" He said to me seriously, "that's not necessarily true." It depends on fate when you grow up. " That kind of serious and mature energy made me laugh at my internal injuries.

? Since my son was ten years old, many things have been left to him, such as buying clothes. Every time I take him to buy clothes, I always emphasize that I am just a wallet. You can see for yourself and buy whatever you like. Of course, you can consult me (at that time, I mainly took him to Xtep and other small brands, and the price was moderate). Therefore, my son has been relatively independent since he was a child. He dares to make decisions and can make decisions. Sometimes because I always emphasize that he is the master, he thinks my suggestions are more precious and often asks me for advice.

My son has no obvious rebellious period. In the second day of junior high school, the class teacher also asked me to speak at the parent-teacher meeting to talk about how to live in peace with children during adolescence and let them spend their adolescence safely. I remember I said: parents should grasp the core things (without violating the law and morality), trust and let go of the non-core things. I believe that every child has upward strength, dignity and personality. If it is not forced and controlled, children will spend their adolescence peacefully.

? My son started boarding after junior high school because he was worried that he would learn the bad habit of smoking. I specifically talked to him about a point: smoking is harmful to health, you know, I don't want to say more. I just want to tell you that when you don't smoke, there is no pain at all, but when you are addicted and want to quit, it will become the most painful thing in the world, so the first cigarette in your life is the easiest to control, so don't learn to smoke. My son doesn't smoke, which may be the result of this conversation.

? During the whole growth process, the communication between us was very smooth, and we often confided in each other. After my son graduated from college, we often talked on the phone for an hour. We talk about his love, his grievances and frustrations, my troubles and my feelings, just like a pair of good girlfriends. I sometimes say, son, your parents have only one child, and you have no daughter. You should be a good son and daughter. My son seems to be trying to develop in this direction.

? In the process of growing up, the son is most proud of his popularity, but the last three sessions and the next three sessions are the kings of classmates. In high school, he once boasted to me that "I am the most popular in my class, and there is no one". In our yard, there are a group of friends who grew up together. He is in the last three sessions and the next three sessions. Boys and girls can play together. Every winter and summer vacation, I always play with my brother first, and then with my sister and brother (boys and girls seldom play together in the yard). I win the trust of my sister, brother and mother, because my son will take special care of my sister and brother, and when he goes out to play at night, he will definitely take a taxi to all the downstairs.

My adult son, when commenting on my mother, said that although my mother has shortcomings, she is the most enlightened mother. No comparison, no harm. The mothers of all his best friends are stricter than me. But there are actually a few bottom lines that I am still very strict with. For example, in terms of using money, I told him that if he wants to use money, he can ask his parents for it, but he must never take his parents' money without permission, which is as hateful as thieves in the street. In terms of honesty, tell him that he can't promise others easily, and once he promises, he will cash it, otherwise he will be punished. He is also welcome to supervise his parents, so we parents sometimes inadvertently promise him and want to go back on our word, and he will certainly do the same. Of course, my promise will come true. When he wants to break his promise, he will immediately realize that he is wrong. Because my son is used to being reasonable since he was a child, lazy mothers are much more relaxed in management.

? If parents can do this, it would be great: they don't want their children to be perfect, and they don't have to win face for me or help me support the elderly. As long as this life exists healthily, it is the most precious gift of life to take a walk in this beautiful world and give me a chance to walk with him and enjoy such beauty and enrichment on the way. Thanks to my dear son and my good girlfriend, I wish you health, happiness and peace all your life.