A few things I regretted before I turned 50.

What most women tend to regret when they get old. Sometimes we often look back on the past, and there are always some things that make you want to start over, but our current thinking can't cross over to that past, so even if we start over, we may still go the same way, or worse, or better. Here, for a self who is about to enter the third grade, I want to look at myself at the age of 50 in the future, hoping to understand some meanings of life in advance. It's also a letter to me at the age of 50!

The first regret: I didn't keep fit.

Girls in their early twenties not only have excellent youth, but also an enviable figure. However, with the growth of age, marriage and children, most girls no longer have proud bodies, and they parade in the city all day. Many friends left me messages telling me that her husband didn't like his current figure and didn't have the right clothes to wear when buying clothes. The once small waist has never appeared again. And all kinds of obesity problems that follow are becoming more and more serious. No woman wants to be more and more like a stupid penguin, but she eventually becomes a penguin.

The second regret: I didn't take good care of my skin.

I read a report that Angie Chiu went to a nursing home to visit her brothers and sisters. You know, Angie Chiu is also a generation of goddesses, and she is over 60 years old, but she still has the figure and face of her youth, while people older than her are sitting in chairs in nursing homes, with white hair and wrinkled faces. I suffer from not caring for my skin. I always feel that it is a very troublesome thing to make up and maintain the mask every day. I am lazy to wash with cold water every day, facing the sky. I remember meeting a friend I hadn't seen for years at the station. The first thing friends say when they meet is, "Wow, you are so old. At the same age, I look like a newly graduated college student. How can you be like a 30-year-old aunt? " Deeply despised and hit by friends, but the skin destroyed by oneself can never be restored to a perfect state. If life can start over, you must take good care of your skin.

The third regret: I didn't listen to my parents and was willful.

At the age of rebellion, we are too eager to be recognized by others, but many times parents will repeatedly emphasize what can and can't be done and how to do it best. I feel that they have limited their thinking and lost the wings of their dreams. So we tattoo, wear earrings, surf the Internet, make trouble and talk back to our parents, acting like I don't care all over the world. I gave my parents a headache and secretly felt that I had done a great thing. At the beginning, I felt that all the experiences were my own, and what others said was always irrelevant to me. Later, I learned that if I kept talking to the old man, I would suffer. Now that I am a parent, I know how much my childish behavior hurts my parents' hearts. If life can be less, don't be so human and willful.

Fourth regret: paying too much attention to career.

At one time, I also felt that since women are now pursuing equality between men and women, women may not be inferior to men in business. So regardless of the opposition of his family, he resolutely joined the tide of entrepreneurship and eventually lost his reputation. During that time, I knew that I paid too much attention to gains and losses and ignored the feelings of my family. As a result, the work was not done well and the family was alienated. Many women, like me, want to prove themselves in their careers and stand at the top of the pyramid. However, although most people have achieved success in their careers, they have sacrificed their families. Men conquer women by conquering the world and women conquer the world by conquering men. If I can live forever, I will value my family more than my career.

Fifth regret: I didn't get married and have children earlier.

Remember to watch Let's Get Married starring Gao Yuanyuan. Yuan Yuan plays a 32-year-old unmarried single lady, carambola, who works as a lobby manager in a five-star hotel. The contract between the hotel and her is signed every three years, and it will be renewed just three years later. However, the hotel conveniently recruited a 26-year-old woman as the lobby manager, but there is no news about the renewal of carambola. Finally, the general manager of the hotel talked to carambola and told her gently that the hotel was not going to renew her contract. Because carambola is not married, it will take too much time to get married and have children. It is not very cost-effective for the hotel to invite her. The 26-year-old new lobby manager, whose children have already gone to kindergarten, is relatively more suitable for her current position.

Because they are not married, many older women will be treated unfairly when they change jobs. If you can never, really hope to get married and have children before the age of 26, it will be more beneficial to your future work.

Sixth regret: far marriage

Little X is a girl who has married far away from me. My husband and I have been married for three years, and they have a lovely baby, now 10 months. However, because of her childhood habits and geographical age, sometimes she and her mother-in-law have different opinions on taking care of the baby. Living together for a long time, she is occasionally unhappy because of some small things, and we rarely communicate because of language barriers. My mother-in-law had a problem with her and told her several times behind her back. It is not easy to think of her as an elder and her husband's mother. Xiao X didn't refute her face to face, and he didn't want her husband to be too embarrassed, and he didn't want his family to be unhappy. But sometimes they fight. At this moment, little X can't tell anyone about her grievances except crying. Seemingly happy on the surface, who can know the bitterness in the heart? Sometimes I think that I have never met a relative, a friend, or even a person who speaks his mind and goes shopping when I am far away from home.

I'm not used to everything here and seldom go home once a year. I can't reunite with my family every New Year, but when I see my husband's family happy, I cry silently. Sometimes I regret not listening to my mother. Now I think I married someone else just because I was too young and impulsive, and I didn't think much about it for a man who had only known him for a few years.

If time can go back, she is not the choice now, and love is not new.

The seventh regret: asking too much of her husband.

I often listen to the complaints of married women around me, saying that my husband is not good, and I don't do housework at home, only know how to play games; Do not help with children; Don't listen to your own nagging, don't talk to yourself all day; Dislike her husband to earn less money; Say not to spend your own pocket money; My mother-in-law and I have a problem. My husband is partial to my mother-in-law ... but they often know what kind of virtue they will marry in the future before they get married. Obviously, when I was in love, I thought it was something. Being married becomes a disadvantage. The more I look at my husband, the less likable he is. Coupled with the contrast of neighbors' husbands, life is getting worse and worse. In fact, life is to live, not to complain. It is better to live well.

Eighth regret: I lost my friend for one person.

When I was young, when I was in love, I never saw anyone around me except my boyfriend. I remember having a roommate in college. I can see her every day except when I sleep, and I don't know where she is at other times. She has never participated in many group activities. Four years have passed in a blink of an eye, and like most couples, they face the choice of breaking up after graduation. But no matter how sad and painful, they finally separated and the boy went to another country.

It will be our farewell dinner soon, and girls will attend it for the first time. However, when everyone raised their glasses to wish her a good future, no one took the initiative to come and bless her. After all, no one is familiar with her. After graduation, in the class group, everyone will talk about something and ask about the recent situation, but no one has ever asked her.

When I was young, I was stupid, thinking that my boyfriend or husband was my world and neglected my friends around me. But in the end he left, his world collapsed, and I couldn't even find a comforting friend.

The ninth regret: I am too busy at work to take care of my children.

When Ma Yun started a business with his 18 friends, his wife Zhang Ying resigned and started a mom's shop with unpaid wages. As the career gets bigger and busier, the children become more and more rebellious. Ma Yun was really anxious this time, so he discussed with Zhang Ying that night: "Please resign, our family needs you more than Alibaba now. Leaving Alibaba, all you need is a salary; But if you don't go home, your son will go bad in the future, and no amount of money can be pulled back. A son is the same as money, which one do you want? " Under the persuasion of Ma Yun, his wife resigned and went home to take care of her children. Indifferently, with Zhang Ying's efforts, his son's academic performance has improved, and even his popularity in the class has improved. He became more and more cheerful, smiling and tolerant, from an introverted student to a sunny teenager.

However, the pressure of life in society is great now. In order to create a better life for their children, many parents leave their homes and rarely see their children several times a year. There are more and more left-behind children. Not many people can back down like Zhang Ying.

Tenth regret: I am afraid of causing trouble to my children, but I have to endure it if I feel a little uncomfortable.

Mothers all have a common problem. I like to endure when I feel unwell, thinking it is a trivial matter. A friend told me his mother's story: her mother died of cancer. In March 2002, my mother felt flatulence in her chest and abdomen. Because of her optimistic nature and good health, she didn't agree at first. Later, when my discomfort became worse, I went to Chaoyang Hospital. Who knows, it is the late stage of liver cancer, and there is a lot of hydrops in the chest and abdomen. Because my mother is old, my cousin Wang, who is an attending doctor in the hospital, told us that my mother "can only last for two months at most, and not more than half a year at most." ..... take good care of the elderly! "The news came as a bolt from the blue and shocked our brothers and sisters. Isn't mom always in good health? Every time I go to see her, I always look rosy and energetic. Why all of a sudden ... it seems that we know and care too little about our mother. Needless to say, on the one hand, the mother suppresses her illness with optimism, on the other hand, she is distressed by her children and keeps her illness and difficulties in her heart! Finally, my friend's mother passed away. My friend regretted it and felt that he owed his mother, but he could never make up for it.