Is it really important that now is the right time?

On the surface, this way of choosing a spouse puts external factors such as economic base above feelings, so it has been criticized by many people who are supreme in love. But in fact, this standard is the greatest maintenance of marriage, because it can bring two people with the closest lifestyle together and minimize possible problems in marriage life.

Therefore, the appropriate collocation principle is not only a necessary condition for choosing the other half, but also the content to be considered is becoming more and more abundant. In addition to the original economic foundation, it must also require cultural background, lifestyle, ideological values and so on.

First of all, economic foundation is the foundation of love and marriage. Human nature is utilitarian, no matter how emotional it is, it will also care about input and output. The wrong economic foundation of the door will directly lead to the unequal status of men and women, or the imbalance of mentality between the two sides in love. Long-term inequality will inevitably produce psychological pressure, inferiority and even psychological distortion. Family problems and even marriage tragedies caused by this reason are numerous.

Secondly, the correct lifestyle is the guarantee of the harmony of love and marriage. The same or similar lifestyles can make each other more comfortable and understand each other, thus making life more harmonious. However, the wrong lifestyle will lead to many contradictions and alienation in marriage. For example, an otaku or a otaku lives with the other half who likes to go to nightclubs. At least one of them wants to suppress himself for a long time, but if it is suppressed for a long time, it will definitely not end.

Finally, the matching of ideas and values is the condition to improve the quality of love and marriage. The unity of ideas and values can make life more colorful and love more beautiful and complete. But the wrong door of thoughts and values will make it impossible for two souls to communicate deeply, just like two parallel lines that never intersect. No matter how deep the love is, it will fade one day. At that time, two people looked at each other, but they were two worlds, only opposing each other.