My wife has been away from home for half a year, and my two children don't care what I should do.

Hello everyone! We in China know how to think about the next generation. The main reason why many couples don't want to divorce is that they don't want to hurt their children. Today, we will talk about how divorce causes psychological harm to children.

As we all know, when parents divorce, it is the underage children who hurt the most. In fact, it is not the parents' divorce that causes the children's psychological harm, but the parents who divorced after adulthood did not correctly handle the children's psychology. Because marital emotional counseling is not popular in China, many couples divorce with resentment towards each other, but children are the crystallization of their love, and they bear half of the husband and wife, both physically and psychologically. Therefore, once the husband and wife fail to deal with emotional problems after divorce, the child's psychology will split, leading to disastrous consequences.

In more than ten years of consultation, I have also contacted many children who grew up in divorced families. Their interpersonal communication is generally problematic, either becoming introverted, shy, evasive and timid, or on the contrary, becoming irritable and aggressive.

This is because after the divorce, many parents did not face this matter well and still treated each other in a negative, evasive and aggressive way. Such emotions and attitudes are the psychological problems of adults themselves. They didn't deal with these psychological problems that led to the breakdown of marriage, and then let their children become the victims of their psychological problems.

Even if parents' psychological problems do not affect their children, children will feel insecure when they grow up in a family environment that lacks father's love or maternal love. Then in the process of children's growth, they will be attracted by the sense of security. Anyone or anything that can give them a sense of security in life will have an important influence on them.

For example, for boys, if a group of moral brothers give him a sense of security, then they will go to mixed society; For girls, boyfriends will give them a sense of security, so they will fall in love early. As a result, when children grow up, there will be many problems, such as alcoholism, internet addiction, running away from home, and unwillingness to study. These are all consulting cases I have encountered.

Even if children grow up, the life experience of family background will have a serious impact on their intimate relationship. When they get used to the interactive mode of family origin, they are likely to repeat the past mode in new relationships, even without their own consciousness.

For example, why are some people always unhappy? This is because he comes from an unhappy family. An unhappy mother or father subtly implies that his children can't live happier and happier than them. As a child, even if I can't bear it, I can't resist it.

Therefore, we often see that some women who grew up in single-parent families always meet love rat when they are in love. This is the psychological hint that "men have no good things" instilled by single mothers since childhood, which leads to women's negative and negative views on men. There are also some men who grew up in a domestic violence environment. Even if they hate violence very much, they will eventually become abusers. This is because in their minds, suspicion, abandonment and then resorting to violence are their most familiar patterns, and they seem unable to get rid of the ridicule of fate. This is the compulsive repetition in psychoanalysis, which means that the parties unconsciously induce others to treat themselves in a familiar way, and finally embark on the cycle of the original family. This model has been passed down from generation to generation.

It is precisely because of this consideration that our emotional relationship has always been based on maintaining family, marriage and emotional relationships, and we use professional emotional counseling to help each helper solve various problems. At the same time, I also hope that all people who have suffered setbacks in marriage and emotion can seek the help of Yuan Dun's emotional experts to avoid letting the psychological problems of the helpers eventually evolve into the tragic fate of the whole family.

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