Couples often draw lots to do things. Is it reliable?

couples often draw lots to do things. Is it reliable?

Author: Bin Ling

Yesterday afternoon, I was writing in my office. Suddenly, a boy came in and asked, "Lawyer Bin Ling, can I ask you something?"

"yes." I said, "What do you want to consult?"

"The Marriage Law says that family members should help each other. What does the help include?" The boys solemnly asked one after another, "Is it mandatory or random? Is it right or compulsory? Is it suggestive or encouraging? Is it symbolic or practical? Also, if you can't do it, is there a penalty clause? What will happen? "

"Hehe, you're not here to test me, are you?" I smiled and said, "Article 4 of the Marriage Law does have the content that' family members should help each other', but the whole law does not give any specific answers you want; From my personal understanding, it should be mandatory, compulsory, encouraging and practical; If family members can't do well or don't want to do it, as long as they don't cause serious consequences and violate the bottom line of social moral values, they will generally not be investigated by law; I don't know if you are satisfied with my simple answer to you. If it is wrong or not detailed enough, please criticize and correct it. "

"You're too modest. I'm a young man with only high school education and only in my twenties. How can I enjoy the reputation of' old man' in your golden mouth? ！” The boy said, "It's really impolite of me to talk like that just now, but I really have a difficulty and want to ask you for help. Don't take it amiss."

"hehe." I said, "Please continue to teach."

"dare not." The boy said shyly, "The thing is this: my wife and I have only been married for more than a year, but during this more than a year, an incredible but objective thing happened between us, that is, we must grasp the lot before we can handle everything." Let me give you a few examples: for example, washing and cooking-isn't every living person washing and eating every day? My wife has to draw lots with me to do this little thing. She often says that clothes are worn by two people, so why should she wash them alone? The meal is for two people. Why should she cook it alone? Men and women are equal. In order to achieve this equality, it is the best and fairest way to draw lots. I have refuted this. I said, if I eat free food at home like you, it is of course no problem to do housework by lottery, but how can it be justified if I work hard outside to earn money and do housework at home? She replied that she didn't eat free food either. She stayed at home to maintain her health in order to get pregnant and have children smoothly in the future, which was considered as contributing to the family. Therefore, both sides had to draw lots to do housework. Another example is private life-she said that although it is the right and obligation of both parties to share the same room, it must be people-oriented and proceed from reality. In special periods, she resolutely forbade me to touch her. On normal days, she asked me to catch the lot that can share the same room before allowing me to touch her. I have communicated with her many times about this matter. I said that people's physiological needs are irregular. How can you use lottery to harm my physical and mental health? She retorted that she was a woman with cold physiology and rational desire. If I were allowed to touch her at will, wouldn't her physical and mental health be damaged by me? I said that husband and wife should help each other and effectively solve each other's needs and difficulties, and can't refuse each other's reasonable demands for their own interests. She said yes, both sides should put themselves in other's shoes. Have you ever thought that if your happiness is based on my pain, then are you helping me or hurting me? She went on to say that happiness or pain will not exist between two people at the same time. In most cases, when one person is happy, the other person will suffer. My wife is a college student. I can't beat her. I have to accept her preaching and arrangement in my life together. Lawyer Binling, what do you think of this way of living by lottery? Even if I can stand her for three or five years, can I stand her for life? I really don't want to live with her! "

"It's actually quite fair for her to make this rule of life with you." I smiled and said, "since she can transform you like this, why don't you think of a way to transform her?" People are born and died in struggle and compromise. "

"You have a point." The boy said, "Then I'll try."

"walk slowly." I said, "Come and chat sometime."

"thank you." The boy said, "Goodbye."

after the boys left, I wrote this sentence on the manuscript paper: there is no model for lifestyle, and ideas can only be used for reference.