"Doctor, take care of the children first", how much harm does the mother-in-law do to her daughter-in-law?

If the relationship between husband and wife is the decisive factor for a family to maintain harmony, then I personally think that the biggest factor leading to the imbalance between husband and wife is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and marital changes. How much harm does the mother-in-law's incomprehension and paranoia do to her daughter-in-law? How deep is the negative impact on the whole family? Let's take a look at such a real family dispute.

Yan 'an is the mother of two children. After marriage, she and her husband run a small western restaurant together. Her income is stable and her life is quite comfortable. But outsiders know that today's happiness and well-being were bought in Yan' an at the beginning. My father-in-law died many years ago, and my mother-in-law had a stroke at the end of last year. She couldn't walk clearly, but her heart was like a mirror.

Yan' an got married on 20 14. For love, she chose to marry far away. The husband is the only spiritual pillar of the husband's family. Fortunately, her husband is kind to her. Even if you are caught in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you will stand on her side in most cases. In the year when the baby was born, Yan' an was dystocia and bleeding increased. She was born with congenital anemia. For the hope of the whole family, Yan 'an's life is at stake.

For any woman, with children, marriage is perfect and family is complete. The responsibility and happiness of marriage are not only the companionship and love of the lover, but also the bitterness of the next generation. Isn't it a kind of happiness?

On the day of labor, Yan 'an pushed the delivery room for more than four hours, and then the doctor came out and shouted.

"Who is Feng Yanan's family in bed 23? The situation of adults and children is not very good. This is the plan suggested by our doctor. Your family quickly read it and confirm the signature. " The doctor said quietly to her mother-in-law and husband outside the delivery room.

"Doctor, take good care of the children first. Children are the hope of the family. " What her mother-in-law said was very firm, and Yan' an in the delivery room could hear it clearly.

The husband had an opinion, stopped the excited mother, and then changed his mouth and said to the doctor, "Please, please, I am the husband of bed 23 Yan 'an, and I can make decisions!" "

Sometimes, a happy marriage doesn't need earth-shattering romance, maybe it's a warm-hearted word in an embarrassing situation, or maybe it's an irrelevant sincere greeting. Obviously, her husband's words are a flame that supports Yan 'an's heart, and it is her husband's concern that makes Yan 'an finally ensure the safety of mother and child.

Now, although it has been five years since this incident, every word of her mother-in-law outside the delivery room is always in Yan' an's heart. If it weren't for a happy marriage and her husband's love, she wouldn't understand how much trouble she had with her mother-in-law. As the old saying goes, "I don't see my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for ten years, but now my mother-in-law needs to be taken care of, and my daughter-in-law is the most suitable candidate."

A few days ago, my mother-in-law slipped at home and her condition worsened. My husband hired many nannies, but none of them did the best. He thought of his wife and hesitated for a long time before he spoke.

"Wife, I know my mother was sorry for you, but at least she is my mother. Do you think I will concentrate on taking care of her at home for me and leave the money to me? " The husband pleaded in a low voice.

Yan' an was furious and didn't listen to her husband's sermon at all. She only knows that her married life, which she has managed for many years, was bought by her own life, and her mother-in-law's ruthlessness has made her bear a grudge so far.

"Husband, if you don't want to divorce me, then don't say it again. It is impossible for me to take care of your mother. I bought the baby and this home. Why didn't you think of such a field when your mother was ruthless? " Yan 'an went to her husband excitedly.

My mother-in-law was miserable in her later years, because the husband and wife were very busy at work during the day. No one waited on her mother-in-law except to send meals home. Even if her family has money, even if she hired ten nannies, she has no family dedication. Looking at it from another angle, isn't this the result of ruthlessness in those days? If she respects her daughter-in-law enough and knows her daughter-in-law's marriage well enough, isn't her old age miserable?

This is a fact. Now in real life, many daughters-in-law are adhering to the principle that "if you are good to me, I will be good to you, and if you are cruel to me, I will not take care of your pension". Whether it is emotional or legal, Yan' an's approach is really not wrong. Just the maintenance of the relationship between husband and wife. If you face your mother-in-law with this attitude for a long time, can the husband caught in the middle endure it for a lifetime? Can a man completely replace affection with love? I do not think this is necessarily the case.