What should I do if I prefer boys to girls at home?

It's safe to come, and face the reality correctly.

Study hard, work hard and make yourself better.

No woman, no man!

Don't be too sensitive. Besides, Mom, Dad and Grandma will treat you as always. Study hard and prove yourself with your grades. Maybe others just like children more. They did the same to you when you were a kid, don't you think?

Children use practical actions and abilities to prove that they are no worse than men as daughters!

Rural areas still prefer boys to girls. I have seen many parents think that it is ok to have boys and girls, but the elders at home feel that there are no boys, and the family is like a girl with a broken root, not theirs.

We can only let nature take its course, because there were many girls at home when we were young. My third aunt has given birth to five girls in a row and wants a boy. Her youngest daughter is only two years older than my son.

In the new era, men and women are equal, but there are still many deep-rooted patriarchal concepts in feudal areas or families. However, quite a few people prefer boys to girls. Seeing more girls at home is gloomy, which seriously undermines family unity. I really don't like it.

If the old people in the family are very patriarchal, they should be given ideological work in peacetime, because no one can guarantee that they will have a boy in the future. When the old man puts forward the idea that boys are good, don't just be Nuo Nuo, or the old man will blame you for giving birth to a girl.

For a family, equality between men and women is the correct family concept. If a girl lives in a patriarchal family, it will cause the following psychological harm to her.

1. It is easier to feel inferior when you grow up. Because in a patriarchal family, girls are always ignored and easily treated differently by their parents. Even though they do much better than boys, parents still don't take care of themselves. On the contrary, if boys show a little, parents will be very happy. Such girls rarely get encouragement from their parents, and when they grow up, they tend to feel inferior and have no self-confidence.

2. Girls are particularly prone to puppy love. Because girls are particularly easy to be ignored at home and ignored by their parents, their sense of existence at home is very weak and they get much less love than boys. So such girls are eager to be valued and loved. Girls want to leave their parents as soon as possible and find a boyfriend who values and loves them.

I feel more lonely inside. Although I am a member of the family, I am the one who is always ignored. My parents didn't respond much to my progress, and my parents were very happy when the boy made a little progress. This will make girls feel more lonely.

Parents bring gifts outside, giving more to boys than girls will make girls feel more unfair, and this unfairness will gradually make girls feel more lonely. Even when they grow up, this psychology is hard to change. For a rational family, boys and girls should be treated equally. Living in a patriarchal family for a long time, girls will be more likely to feel inferior, puppy love and loneliness.

Children living in such families are prone to mental illness. For example, they feel that they are unimportant, and their parents don't love and care about themselves. It is easy for them to become introverted and self-abased, and they are unwilling to actively communicate with others.

1. Don't let parents associate with old-fashioned people.

In one case, parents themselves don't value sons over daughters, but other relatives in the family value sons over daughters and give birth to boys. Such an old man is particularly fond of showing off. After a long time, my old people will think that boys are good. At this time, we should not only convince our parents, but also let them have less contact with such people.

2. Separate yourself from others and live a life of three.

I live under the same roof with the old man and just gave birth to a daughter. Then the next family atmosphere will be wronged. Some old people are very patriarchal, which is unacceptable to you and your lover. At this time, you'd better move out and live alone, and it's better to take care of the children yourself. This can avoid greater contradictions.

3, cold treatment, wait for the elderly to accept this reality.

There is a girl at home, and at first the old man may not be able to accept it. Don't worry at this time. Maybe they just can't accept it for a while. Maybe when they come back and calm down, they will feel that their little granddaughter is not bad. Children are always at home. Maybe as children grow up, the elderly will like them more and more.

4, chasing a boy to stop the old man from complaining.

Now the second child index has been generally open, as long as one of the husband and wife is an only child, they can have a second child. Many parents have added little brothers or sisters to their children. If the old man always complains that there are no boys at home and he doesn't reject a second child, then he can have another one. If it was a boy this time, he wouldn't complain.

Never have a direct conflict with the elderly.

What should the elderly do if they prefer boys to girls? How to face parents who prefer boys to girls? Many young couples have a hot temper and quarrel with their parents for less than three sentences. Old people are like children. In this way, the elderly who let go are more serious and will have conflicts with their sons and daughters-in-law. Family harmony is the most important thing, and a broken family is definitely not what we want.

Now this kind of thinking will not be very serious. Men and women are all the same.

Don't be too careful to catch the common faults of modern women. What a preference for boys! Sensitive and suspicious, asking for trouble! Old people are like children who have just come into this world.

It's good that you are aware of this problem, because in many patriarchal families, in order to get the attention of parents, children extremely suppress their needs or consciousness to meet their parents' expectations in exchange for their parents' attention or appreciation and love. In this case, it is difficult to change parents' ideas. If you get caught up in it, the injury from a family will take a lifetime to heal. I suggest not trying to change parents, we can't do it. We should realize that we are an individual, a living individual, not a product attached to anyone. We have our own consciousness, our own needs, our own desires, and so on. I suggest you enrich yourself as much as possible, and then leave Origin and Fate psychologically and externally, because the first thing we should do is to live high and stimulate our inner self-energy.

Judging from your supplementary explanation, you are the eldest daughter with certain thinking ability and judgment ability. Through observation and judgment, you infer that grandparents have a feudal idea of preferring sons to daughters. This unfair treatment of the descendants of the same blood has been fulfilled on you, and you also feel that the treatment is unfair.

What should we do? Communicate with our parents, express our thoughts and get their sympathy and support. As long as the parents have a bowl of water, don't worry about the rest. You know what kind of people are respected. You shouldn't need someone else to teach you. Study hard and make progress every day. Good opportunities in life are always reserved for those who are prepared. Always be prepared. When you embark on a bright career path, people who look down on you today will respect you the most in the future!