Misfortune comes from your mouth, and blessings also come from your mouth. Whether it is blessing or disaster, it all depends on your thoughts.

There is an old saying in China: "No one speaks behind anyone's back." It seems to be the nature of each of us to talk about other people's affairs when we have nothing to do.

However, if you do not want to cause trouble, no matter at any time or on any occasion, you must remember: don’t talk about people’s rights and wrongs behind their backs.

Don’t think that the person you are talking about cannot hear it. If it is spread from ten to ten, there is no guarantee that something unexpected will not happen one day.

Furthermore, talking about people behind their back will also leave you with a feeling of being frivolous and untrustworthy.

This point, especially in interpersonal interactions in the workplace, needs your attention.

In the workplace, many people like to talk about their colleagues’ faults or scandals behind their backs. Most people just have such a bad habit, and they are not malicious or deliberately attacking others.

But they are often misunderstood by others as the latter.

As the saying goes, "Misfortune comes from the mouth." I like to talk about people behind their backs. If I talk too much, I will often be misunderstood and resented by colleagues. In the end, I often lose opportunities and even lose a foothold in the office. You must be wary of this.

As the saying goes, talking too much will lead to mistakes. Talking about others behind their back will inevitably lead to saying the wrong things.

The speaker has no intention, but the listener has intention. The same sentence may not be malicious on your part, but it sounds full of sarcasm and disdain to others.

If you want to avoid this embarrassing and passive situation in social interactions, the best solution is not to talk about others behind their backs.

A domestic job search website once published the results of a survey on "which employees are least liked by the boss", among which "trollers" topped the list.

In the eyes of many people, people who like to talk about others behind their backs are those who make trouble.

Therefore, in order to have a harmonious and harmonious relationship with others, and to avoid being disliked by those around you, be sure not to talk about others behind their backs.

You may ask: Can we still talk about others behind their backs? Of course you can, not only can you say it, but you also need to learn to say it well.

Don’t talk about others behind their backs. It actually discourages you from gossiping about others: don’t say bad things, don’t say unfounded things, and don’t say unfounded things.

After understanding this, you also need to understand: the most important thing to say behind your back is actually the kind words of others. And this kind of statement will have a more social effect than complimenting people in person.

Learn to say good things about people behind their backs. This is the key to success: if you say good things about someone in person, the other person may think you are trying to flatter him or please him.

On the contrary, if you say nice things behind your back, people will think you mean it. In this way, he will naturally appreciate it and be grateful to you.

It is much better to say nice things about a person behind his back than to say nice things in person. Don’t worry, if you say nice things about him behind his back, it will easily reach his ears.

Bismarck, the "Iron-Blooded Chancellor" in German history, understood this and successfully avoided many social obstacles through his good words behind his back.

In order to win over a congressman who was hostile to him, Bismarck once planned to say good things about that congressman in front of others.

Bismarck knew that after hearing the good things he said to the congressman, those people would definitely pass his words on to the congressman.

Later, the two became friends who talked about everything, and the congressman also became Bismarck's supporter during his administration.

Numerous facts can prove to us that the effect of praising a person is very different from saying it in person to saying it behind his back.

Saying good things about others behind their backs makes them appear more sincere and credible. It is far more effective than complimenting others in person.

The weakness of human nature determines that when a person hears others saying good things about himself, he will never feel disgusted unless the other person says something too outrageous.

Therefore, learning to speak well of people behind their backs will definitely give you excellent social rewards.

All in all, you must master the social key of "don't talk about people behind their backs".

This not only means that you should not say bad things about others behind their backs and stir up trouble at will; it also means that you should be good at "accidentally" saying good things behind others' backs, and through the invisible microphone of social interaction, you can serve them well. You bring greater benefits.

Please remember that disaster comes from your mouth, and blessings also come from your mouth. Whether it is blessing or disaster, it all depends on your thoughts.