Can hatred of the moon be forgiven?

When she gave birth to her son, her mother-in-law came to wait on her confinement, and her husband was a baby boy. Directly led to my depression.

Say a few things.

In the first month, my mother-in-law cooked and put pepper in every dish, because we locals like spicy food, but I can't eat spicy food in confinement, so I dare not eat vegetables directly and eat vegetarian dishes.

The second thing is that I have a caesarean section. Everyone said they would have soup for the next month, but I didn't eat soup, a chicken or ribs for the next month. Dundun eats white rice with them. Malnutrition caused my son's milk shortage, but everywhere he said that I had less milk, resulting in no milk for the child to drink.

Third, in the second month, my mother-in-law knocked on the stool every day, which made me unable to rest at all.

I was directly depressed and wanted to die with them every day. Fortunately, I survived, and now my mother-in-law is old, sixty or seventy years old, and my hatred is not so deep. I should buy her clothes, but I still buy her clothes, but I really can't love her in my heart.

It doesn't exist. It doesn't matter at all. For example, a girl was raped. After 20 years, she is still single because she has been living in the shadow of the past. Some people say that you have raped yourself for 20 years ... (The story is just a rough idea! )

I don't think there's anything wrong with it. We can keep our distance or respect each other with less enthusiasm. We leave each other alone.

When my mother-in-law rummaged through my bag, she brought me a straw mat for caesarean section to the hospital. I said I would go to the city to have a baby, but she insisted that someone else go to the town to have a baby. As a result, my medical skills are not good. I went to the doctor and said that I could only have a caesarean section without amniotic fluid. In fact, I didn't feel any pain at that time. My uterus opened four fingers because of exercise. Results After the operation, the wound didn't heal, so I went to the hospital for debridement and lost a needle.

Later, she was still complaining about me outside.

Later, she was very kind to me, except for not washing underwear, not letting me wash a dress, not letting me go to the kitchen once, and my mother fed milk powder every night for the next month. Without breast milk, my mother-in-law dare not hold her baby.

However, after my mother left, my mother-in-law took my children with her. I'm going out to work to make money. She never asks me for money, but I always give it to her. Sometimes when I see her unhappy, I will bump into her and say, what's the matter, mom, are you angry? (cheeky) As a result, she smiled. I won't tell others that I'm not good in the future, because I will buy her things and give her living expenses when I go shopping.

Really sisters, say, care about making themselves angry and can't sleep. It is oneself who suffers. How big is it? I like to live a happy life, and the past is the past. People should look forward, care less, be more happy, and don't waste time on these right and wrong.

Of course, there must be a particularly unreasonable mother-in-law, who can say whatever she likes, just stay away from it. Small families take care of themselves, and they really can't find Ma Baonan. If there is any contradiction, I will find my mother and let my daughter-in-law be wronged. Three views on the same frequency are very important! I wish you happiness!

I gave birth to a son, and I can't move by caesarean section. My mother-in-law stayed in the hospital for a day and threw me and my son to my husband. At that time, it was freezing, and my husband couldn't serve it at all, which led to the child catching a bad cold in the next month and making a lot of trouble in the next month. Because of eating milk powder, I asked my husband to ask my mother-in-law to take it for me all night so that I could have a good sleep. My mother-in-law refused abruptly! Alas! It's a long story. I blame myself for marrying far away! I have chosen my own way, and I have no choice. Twenty years have passed, and it still hurts to think about it now! But I will buy everything I should. Sister-in-law, I am the most generous! I didn't leave anything to eat or drink except my bra! First, for the sake of my husband, I should be filial to her when I gave birth to him and raised him. Although she did not do well, I did my duty as a daughter-in-law. Second, I am a disgusting and kind population. Although I feel a little uncomfortable, I still want to buy what I should buy. I have my own parents. I hope my husband can treat my parents better, too! This is for both sides! Some daughters-in-law are not good to their in-laws, but ask their husbands to be good to their parents! This is also wrong! Look at your heart!

Can you forgive the hatred of the moon? Hatred is a little big. There is no hatred between relatives, only contradictions.

A woman may have a confinement once in her life, and she also attaches great importance to it, because from pregnancy to childbirth, especially confinement, she hopes that her mother-in-law and family will take care of her in every possible way.

Sometimes it backfires, the fact is not what you want, and you don't do what you want, which makes you very dissatisfied with your mother-in-law including me. I think this is the nature of all women.

I don't know what you have suffered, how can you have such a big hatred. I don't want to cook for you, I don't want you to wash diapers, and I don't want to buy you nutrition.

Let me tell you something about my confinement experience! My mother-in-law only gave me a face once in the month when I was confined, and the rest of the time was done by my father-in-law and my uncle's sister-in-law. Mother-in-law and sister-in-law wash diapers together, and I wash them myself after the full moon.

Regarding nutrition, I ate two chickens, and twice it seemed to be sparerib soup. I can't remember. I ate too many eggs. That's about it. I normally eat three meals a day and never add meals. My sister-in-law later told me that I didn't eat as well as her.

You know, I must be unhappy to hear that feeling. Plus, my husband is often away from home on business trips, so I feel even worse when I take care of my children alone. I thought the same as you at that time, so what will happen to them when they get old?

Later, when our daughter was 3 years old, we bought a house, moved and lived our own lives. As time went on, we forgot. Now that 20 years have passed, sometimes I feel a little uncomfortable, but seeing their aging faces and illnesses, as a daughter-in-law, can you ignore them?

You are still young to say that. After 20 years, you may think how stupid that is! Is it worth being angry with her? She is not her real mother, and I am not born to her. Whether to support the elderly is a moral issue. Filial piety is the duty of children. Let go of demons and live a good life. As long as their husbands are kind to you, nothing will happen.

What's the enemy? Very extreme, the mentality is a bit wrong!

Excuse me, do you love your husband? Does your husband love you? If you love each other very much, what can your husband's mother have against you?

Whether you sit well in the next month depends on how well you are going to have a baby, and also on your husband's attitude towards you in the next month. You can't find your mother-in-law for everything.

My mother-in-law is an elder, and when she is old, she will inevitably make mistakes sometimes in her work. In addition, the two generations have different living habits and different parenting concepts, so everything may not be 100% as you wish. She can't do something unexpected. You can gently remind her that she can't do it. You can ask your husband to keep his word. It's no big deal as a family. There's no need to hold grudges like this.

Mother-in-law's service for you is out of love between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, out of love for her son and grandson, not that she must have the obligation to serve the confinement. Adults are unwell, children cry, cook and wash clothes day and night, and hug their children. No matter what you do, there is no credit or hard work. What do you think is easier?

Everything happens for a reason. You unconsciously pull a long face every day and treat her as an enemy. Can she still be nice to you? Will you accept it?

Don't be silly, put away your bitter gourd face and smile. As a mother, I should be able to understand that it is not easy to be a mother, and so is my husband's mother!

I really don't understand what hatred there will be for Confucius. When giving birth to a child, you don't need a mother-in-law at all, and you sit on your own. I am free to confinement, and I don't have to worry about the stereotypes in confinement. My daughter's mother-in-law accepted door-to-door service regardless of my care. Daughter-in-law is funnier Her mother heard that her daughter gave birth to a daughter and never even met her. I have been taking care of her. Not only did her mother not show up, but she never took an egg. Do I want her to bear a grudge against her mother? If your mother-in-law fails you, relax, she will regret it sooner or later. Don't take it to heart, anyone can live without it. But children can't live without you, happiness can be healthy and happy!

I have no enmity next month, and I have enmity in the days after next month.

Confucius knew that her mother-in-law was unreliable, so he didn't expect her.

His mother helped to take care of the children, and besides eating and drinking Lazarus, they slept. It's easy to hold. I feel that there is nothing special to do in the month.

After the second month, my mother went home. I take care of my children and eat by myself every day. I feel that my life is very good and dull. I have a lot of pink babies in my arms and I am happy to watch them.

Unfortunately, first my sister-in-law who has been living in my house came to live in the name of looking for a job. I started my life as a young lady with three meals a day and no worries about food and clothing. I have been looking for a job for nine months, but I haven't received a phone call. I guess I didn't even send my resume. I don't care that she does nothing but play computer. Paradoxically, when I buy something for my child, she scowls, bangs, and finds fault with all kinds of small things, such as making trouble, not respecting food, not washing dishes, not mopping the floor, and buying jiaozi with bad stuffing. I couldn't bear it anymore, so I let her rent a house and told her that we were only responsible for rent and living expenses for half a year.

Later, my mother-in-law also clamored to come. After two or three visits, she stuck to the sofa. She must be ready to eat and drink. Keep talking, according to their custom, when my father-in-law is dead, she shouldn't do anything, so she should enjoy it ... in the future, she will go back as she came, and whoever comes with her will be responsible for getting her back.

Anyway, during this period, the troubles of 7788 were mixed, which refreshed my cognition. When I realized that my husband's home was not equal to my own, I couldn't bear it at all. Don't talk, don't act ... instead, stop, they stop. However, a person with children and anger is not as good as before. It hurts and itches every day. It will be better to drink some Chinese medicine to recuperate. If I don't drink it, it will hurt very much. I hate who I am. Maybe I'm already in the red. Make up for it slowly.

I am a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law. I don't know who invented the so-called moon revenge. You are confined to the moon and have not provided a good life and service. The responsibility should be on your husband. Why do you want to put it on your in-laws? Did your in-laws owe you in your last life? My mother-in-law gave birth thousands of miles away, and no one has ever arrived. I have never been dissatisfied with this. I was born in my mother's house, and my daughter gave birth to a child. I still go to work. My daughter and I never thought it was the mother-in-law's responsibility. At present, some young people have incorrect views and many fallacies, and the whole world owes you. What have you done for your in-laws? Why do you need your mother-in-law to wait on you when you have a baby? Who stipulated it?

What if you don't forgive? Who can live in hatred all his life? That can't punish others, but let yourself suffer.

What kind of hatred is this that can make you so angry? Is it that serious? If you ask me, you have a good attitude, don't worry too much. Forgive as much as possible, and make up for what you can forgive, otherwise it will be difficult for everyone to live together. Look up every day, and children should understand how difficult it is to be parents. When things happen, help each other, be kind and don't hurt anyone's vitality. This is not good!

Things between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the world are difficult to straighten out. Everyone has their own reasons, no one will bow their heads, and they don't know whose fault it is. The end result is more and more grievances. It is better to understand each other, see each other's advantages, cherish each other's vision and influence each other with love!

In fact, we have become a family, so we should get along well without thinking about embarrassing anyone or dealing with anyone. If you can't do it again, you can live separately and live separately without interfering with each other. Can you at least resolve many contradictions and conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? Wouldn't it be better?

Bottom line: with more understanding and tolerance, everything can be solved, and only in this way will it be good for both sides.