What makes you gradually become unsociable, unsociable and only lonely?

The process of human spiritual growth will occur twice, corresponding to two periods of life. The first stage is the stage of foraging and making friends, which reaches its peak after taking part in work and ends with marriage and having children. At this stage, low-level social and entertainment work is often carried out. After middle age begins, it is generally considered to be 35 years old. Unless for professional reasons, I began to hate my low-level social entertainment work in my early years, paying attention to quality, not pursuing quantity and not abusing what I lacked. When I have nothing to do, I prefer to be alone and enjoy the happiness brought by loneliness.

There is a very philosophical saying: loneliness does not come from no one around. The real reason for feeling lonely is that a person cannot communicate with others what is most important to him. If you spend a lot of time with a superficial acquaintance, when can you find someone who can communicate your critical feelings with you? Our behavior is controlled by our subconscious mind. When the spirit of the times develops to a certain extent, it is necessary to develop the spirit of depth. Personally, we pursue material things and enjoy physical desires in our early years. At a certain age, we will begin to pursue inner peace from the outside to the inside and prepare for the arrival of death.

Life and death is a person's ultimate goal. In this process, Confucianism, Buddhism and Taoism provide rich nutrition. Do you need to make some friends in order to enjoy the spiritual feast?

A: The highest state of loneliness is to make yourself happy and healthy, so that life will make you happy.

1, you don't like socializing. You have rich experience. Great!

2. Socialization corresponds to utilitarianism; Entertainment is related to purpose, and both are tired!

Life is only over 30,000 days. Race against time, race against time and reasonable arrangement are valuable.

4. One can realize that simplification and simplicity are exquisite and free revelry.

5. High quality solitude is not as good as low quality excitement. Liveliness is precisely the psychological loneliness of many people.

People whose fate is decided by others will never be happy.

7. Turn around and give yourself the right to be happy!

What makes you gradually become unsociable, unsociable and only lonely?

I'm a little drunk, smiling. Let me answer this question! I hope my answer can help you!

If you are in your twenties, I think you like being alone because you are mature!

When I was young, people always liked drinking, karaoke and traveling. A day without socializing is like not living on this earth. Waste a lot of time on useless social entertainment and exaggerate the sense of existence in front of friends from all walks of life.

When one day, you suddenly get tired of this life, don't want to go out crazy again, just want to stay alone quietly, do something you want to do, think about your life and your future, make some plans, plan, learn to be down-to-earth and stop being in the fog. Congratulations, it really proves that you are mature!

If you have passed the mature age and suddenly start to like someone, then I think you must be mature! If you are forty or fifty years old. I used to like playing mahjong, drinking a little wine with my friends and drawing fists. Now I suddenly don't want to do these things, but I like to stay at home alone. Then I guess you are really familiar with it.

You are tired of those hypocritical manners, you are tired of those quarrels over a few cents, and you are tired of meaningless entertainment. You just want to stay at home and spend time with your wife and your parents. Go back to the truth and be a simple person. Explain that you are really mature and have reached a certain level! Like Tao Yuanming's "under the hedge of picking chrysanthemums, you can see Nanshan leisurely." It makes sense. I want to distinguish and forget to say it! "

There is really nothing wrong with being alone! As long as it's not at home, brush your mobile phone, catch up with the drama and shout boring! Then such solitude seems to me much better than unnecessary social intercourse!

Finally, I hope the reasons I analyzed are useful to you! I wish you a happy life! Sublimate yourself!

Although I am old, I like to reflect on my past life more and more, and I like to be alone more and more.

The reason, as far as I'm concerned:

First of all, thinking vertically, from calling friends when you are young and frivolous, eating, drinking and having fun, pushing a cup for a change, all along the way, without exception, are ineffective social interaction. I just can't improve my understanding of myself, things and the world, wasting time, energy and financial resources.

Secondly, thinking horizontally, people have different experiences, different cognitions, different epistemological methodologies and different levels of realm. What shall we get together to talk about? Instead of forcing a smile, it is better to find out what your soul really likes, is curious about, thinks and does.

Sometimes, until, holding up my cup, I ask the bright moon, which brings me my shadow and makes the three of us lonely. How happy I am. !

Many reasons, let's analyze them one by one.

First of all, as you get older and see more and more things, you will start to hate useless social interaction, dislike being hard on yourself, and come whenever you want.

Second, maybe you are autistic. You are afraid of contact with people. Smiling at people you don't like makes you feel sick and helpless, so you simply refuse to meet people and don't like others to discuss you. You want to be as thin as air.

Third, maybe you are at the bottom of your life, and all kinds of pressures make you breathless. I can only lie quietly in bed. You're not hungry if you don't eat. I don't think you will eat it. You are afraid to see your classmates and friends live so well, but you are still as confused as before, so you are not selfish. You just don't want to see others happy, but you want others to be happy.

Fourth, you have enough financial strength to make a lot of money without socializing. You have a happy family and you want to leave time for your family.

Finally, let me talk about myself. In the past, I liked going out with friends very much. Later, friends gradually got married, so it is impossible to drink together all the time, which will have an impact on each other's families. Friends will also give priority to their husbands and children, and occasionally go back to their parents' homes when they are free, so there are fewer and fewer opportunities for friends to meet. When you get used to it, you don't like socializing.

It must be clear: seemingly a preference, its core and essence are quite different, or even completely opposite. So, the reason is completely different!

First, the same "don't like socializing, don't like socializing, like being alone" is divided into two diametrically opposite attributes.

1, one is aversion to socializing and socializing because of escapism and aversion to reality.

There are many reasons why a person doesn't like socializing and socializing. For example, I am disappointed with society, have been hurt, and feel no recognition and respect from society.

I have left the lower level of social intercourse and entertainment, and spent more time alone to improve myself.

Some people say that they don't like socializing, but they just don't like socializing in most people's eyes. They can postpone many social activities, social activities, etc. That doesn't make much sense in society, or they can not go.

To put it more directly, it is not that these people have no social skills or can't socialize, but they have learned to choose and refuse. This can provide them with a lot of alone time to do more meaningful and valuable things.

Therefore, the same people who are not sociable and those who are not sociable are probably two completely different moods and two realms. Of course, they will be very different in many aspects, such as ability, level, quality and even income and status.

Second, I don't know how to socialize, but I can't find ideas and methods that make me feel comfortable and calm. Over time, some people are unwilling to engage in social behavior, so they choose to be alone.

There are great differences between people. Some people naturally like to be lively, and they can show themselves in crowded situations and fully in social situations.

However, some people may be influenced by their original life experience, educational experience, way of thinking, personality, etc., and are not good at socializing. And I have been looking for ways, but there is no suitable and efficient way to improve my social and social skills.

After a long time, you will find yourself easily left out in a crowded environment, or feel ashamed and so on. In the long run, people will feel insecure, which will lead to avoiding some social occasions intentionally or unintentionally.

Third, some personal experiences, aversion to social reality, some phenomena in the workplace, and injuries suffered by oneself may all lead a person to avoid socializing and entertainment.

Psychology, such as dislike, unhappiness, disdain to associate with people, etc. May lead people to choose to be alone.

More common are some sprayers on the Internet. Every time it comes out, it is negative energy, even with swearing, swearing and foul language. Nothing is pleasing to the eye, everything is gray or even black. As long as he talks about things, he will find some negative material cases to prove that those negative things in his heart are the whole of society.

Don't like reality, escape from reality, and even think that the whole world is turbid, and I am the only one. This is the idea in some people's minds.

Fourth, people who have washed away the lead will also begin to understand the "willing way", learn to weigh, and give themselves more time alone.

A lot of socializing, partying, chatting and socializing actually means nothing to us personally. Many people choose to participate because they are embarrassed to refuse, afraid of being unsociable, and worried about the comments and comments behind others.

Some people, in their impetuous state, will take the initiative to organize such parties and socialize. To fill your empty mind, and even find the so-called "sense of existence" in this meaningless entertainment and social interaction.

When a person grows to a stage, it is likely that he will gradually let his reason overcome sensibility and vanity and be able to evaluate and treat these social behaviors more objectively.

They will postpone and reject some ineffective, meaningless and even harmful social activities. Because this is not only a waste of time, but also may have a long-term and potential negative impact on your thoughts, emotions and behaviors.

Five, the two most valuable revelations of this problem are also two suggestions of the old ghost.

1. Anyway, as adults and professionals, we should learn to evaluate the value of various social activities, parties, etc. And the need for participation-this is the most critical.

There are too many garbage parties and parties! Not all party activities are worth attending.

There is no need to care about everyone's evaluation of their refusal to participate in such activities. Otherwise, you are not you! No one will be responsible for your present and future.

2. Learn and study social skills and social styles. This is very important. The old ghost suggested that everyone study more.

Of course, it doesn't mean that people can't develop without knowing how to socialize and socialize. It means that socializing and socializing are necessary for many people. For most people, some necessary and valuable social activities and entertainment are inevitable. Especially when we are in a weak position and in a developing stage.

Attention! Old ghost didn't say absolutely! Therefore, friends who are browsing should not immediately fly into a rage because they hate socializing and socializing. It is no problem to reduce or even eliminate garbage and useless social interaction, and in some occasions, perhaps participation, participation or even active promotion is a better choice.

The above is for reference.

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Gradually, I don't like socializing, I don't like socializing, I like being alone. What caused it?

From youth to middle-aged maturity until old age. There is a certain stage! It can be divided into the following three stages.

One: Young people are physically strong, energetic, ignorant, intellectually developed, imaginative and curious. Extremely full of challenges to the unknown world, full of passion, repeated mistakes and wars, there is a kind of stubbornness that never leaves and never gives up. Making friends, being loyal to others, and striving for the first place all hope to gain the respect of friends. Busy making friends, never tired of it.

Two: After working, friends go their separate ways and have less contact with each other. But in the new living environment and working environment, they have established their own interpersonal network, and friends get together to introduce each other. On the contrary, the social circle is bigger and the real society is wider. At this time, the understanding of society and interpersonal relationships has reached a climax both in phenomenon and quantity, and spiritual thinking has also developed from ignorance to maturity, which is in the most turbulent period of thinking process. After they got married, it was a watershed from high enthusiasm to gradual calmness. With families, they have responsibilities and small goals. There has been a qualitative change in energy and intelligence. Like a wild horse with its head pulled up. Only in this way can we really repay the ups and downs of life, love and hate. I really realized that there are old people and young people in the world. I love my wife. I realized that the road is long and Xiu Yuan is Xi, and there is no other way but to work hard. After experiencing the worldly wisdom, countless impermanence and helplessness, I finally understand the value of family, the difficulty of love and the truth of friendship.

Three: After the age of 50, my energy and physical strength are not as good as before, but I have a great understanding of the world outlook of social reality and my outlook on life and values are basically positioned. At this time, it is more about reviewing the past, why success or failure, and why honor or disgrace. Because time doesn't allow us to fail again, we can only stick to our achievements and fight for tomorrow. Try not to give children, which will increase the social burden. Those who used to drink idle wine, gossip, entertain for nothing, make trouble and have nothing to do have lost interest anyway. And I am often alone, enjoying the tranquility after the prosperity, settling down, unloading the rough harvest of the past, giving up the house, looking down on it, enjoying the happiness brought by my hobbies calmly and calmly, and meeting with a few intimate friends. Enjoy everything you like.

Looking at youth quietly, I am in a trance. Cherish your time, cherish your age like gold, be happy when you are blind.

The above is a true record of personal life, representing only individuals. If there are similarities, they can be friends of God. For your reference only!

It's really hard to change the fact, only with my shadow, let the three of us, until, holding up my cup, I asked the moon.

I am born after 70, so let me talk about my experience.

When I was in primary school, I was very friendly with almost all my classmates. Many students often go home to play on weekends. At first, I talked and laughed and had a good time. But then my classmates went through my house, and all the clothes in the closet were turned out and scattered all over the floor. My parents were angry and I was speechless.

In junior high school, some students played better. But later, I slowly discovered that they were all utilitarian. Sometimes I come to your house to play, just to hang up a free phone.

Entering high school, I study every day because of the pressure of the college entrance examination. I really want to play with my classmates, but I dare not. I am afraid that the distraction of playing will affect my study. So I have nothing to do with my high school classmates. Occasionally, one or two classmates come to visit. If they are guests, they will find that she is stealing my study notes.

After joining the work, everyone wants to be promoted and raised because of the competition at work. On the surface, they are kind, but secretly they are competing with each other. Sometimes your work performance is better than others, which will cause some gossip to slander you and make people very depressed.

True feelings are really hard to change. You can only collect yourself and keep your sincerity. Look at the clouds and listen to the flowers bloom and fall.

I think there are several reasons:

1. Social fatigue. An obvious phenomenon is that the more social platforms, the larger the circle of friends and the less sincere communication. In addition to advertising, it is posing. I began to feel fresh and tired. You can only watch it for three days until the space is sealed.

2. The epiphany of life. Walking through the mountains, walking through the water and crossing the sea, except Wushan. I am used to the changes in the world, but I will keep walking until the water blocks my way, and then sit there and watch the rising clouds indifferent.

3. Psychological suggestion. I suggest that you have entered the old age, and your children and grandchildren have it. You should look like an elder. Give up curiosity about the unknown and stop seeking new excitement. Good wife, good children, everything is fine, and tomorrow is a replica of today.

4. Other factors, such as menopause, physical illness, mutation, old depression, etc.

I think I've changed. If I want to adjust in time, I must act. As long as my mind is not old, people are not old.

This shows that you have retired from the central field of social activities.