Put down the phone and take good care of the children.

In the past two days, another hot news broke out in Weibo, which attracted the attention of many netizens:

At a subway station in Wuhan, Hubei Province, a young mother hung her head and concentrated on playing with her mobile phone from the moment she entered the station, and her children followed her.

When the subway arrived, my mother was still staring at her mobile phone. As soon as the car door opened, she got on the bus without hesitation. She didn't realize that the children behind her didn't get on the bus together.

The little boy's little body was pushed out of the door by the crowd until the door closed, and the original expression of fear added a little fear and fear. Until the subway left, the little boy finally couldn't help crying.

Fortunately, two kind-hearted passengers comforted and with the help of the staff, the little boy found his mother.

It is understandable that you are bored to brush your mobile phone while waiting for the bus, but you are so fascinated that treating your child as air is harmful to your child. I can't imagine how helpless and collapsed the children behind me should be when their mother hurried on the bus without looking back.

As a treasure mother, I really want to say a word for the children: Mom and Dad, put down your mobile phone and spend more time with me!

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You think you are playing with your mobile phone, but in fact you are playing with your child's sense of security.

Some time ago, what Wang Haocheng said in "Music Master Class" caused many netizens to sing.

He said: My father is a mobile phone controller. Playing games with a mobile phone every day, basically ignoring him.

Every time he begged his father to play with him, his father's answer was "wait" and "wait". After countless times of "waiting", Wang Haocheng finally realized that his father was perfunctory.

Xiao Haocheng said gloomily, I am very unhappy that my father doesn't play with me. Dad, I want to hold your warm palm as before.

When the camera switched to the father under the stage, his father's face was full of embarrassment and guilt. It can be seen that dad has never realized the seriousness of the problem before.

Parents who neglect their children will accumulate a lot of negative emotions until they crush them.

There is a question on Zhihu: What is the experience that parents often ignore?

A confidant said:

This feeling is too familiar, because I have had this feeling since I was a child, and I shudder every time I think about it. I want to have a blunt knife that keeps scratching on me. It won't bleed, but the pain is real.

Think about how depressed an adult will be if he is neglected for a long time in life, let alone a young child.

In the book "Neglected Children: How to Overcome Emotional Neglect in Childhood", Jonas Webb, a psychologist, expounds the psychological problems that children who have been "emotionally neglected" by their parents for a long time in childhood are prone to have in adulthood.

In the book "Neglected Children: How to Overcome Emotional Neglect in Childhood", Jonas Webb, a psychologist, expounds the psychological problems that children who have been "emotionally neglected" by their parents for a long time in childhood are prone to have in adulthood.

Parents playing mobile phones and neglecting companionship are tantamount to giving up basics. After all, children grow fast, and if they miss it, they will be gone.

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High-quality companionship is the most important source of security for children's growth

We all know that Obama is nicknamed the most educated American president.

Obama said: "I will not be president for life, but I will be a father for life."

What he is particularly proud of is that during his 2 1 month US presidential campaign, he didn't miss any parent-teacher conference.

From the congressman to the president, he still eats with his daughter whenever he is free, holds her hand for roller skating, and gives her a high five when he is happy.

I will snuggle up on my lap with my youngest daughter and watch the football match that my eldest daughter takes part in.

Even when he is away on business, Obama calls his daughters every night to let them know that their parents have not ignored them.

I envy the children who have lived like this: although dad is busy, he still doesn't forget to accompany him.

Accompanied by such high quality, the two daughters always show confident, calm and bright smiles in public.

After eight years in power, Obama's eldest daughter has grown from an ignorant girl of 10 to a Harvard high flyers.

When I was a child, I felt my parents' company wholeheartedly, and freely felt and explored the strange world under the guidance of my parents. When I am an adult, my children are usually braver, more confident, more independent and more secure.

Parents give their children the best companionship, and they will also reap an excellent child in the future.

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Put down your mobile phone and give your child high-quality companionship.

High-quality companionship does not require you to get along with your children for a long time. Please do the following,

1. Set aside a fixed time to communicate with children every day.

My good friend Xiao C is a mother who knows how to accompany her children with high quality. She is the head of a local educational institution.

No matter how busy the work is, the first thing to do when you come home from work is to put on your professional clothes.

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Until now, when my children are going to junior high school, I have been eating, playing games, reading and chatting with my daughter.

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Although Xiao C doesn't always take care of her daughter, her daughter is also clever and has excellent grades. There is nothing to talk about between mother and daughter, and there is no "rebellious period" for other children.

It can be seen how important it is to take a little time every day to accompany your children with high quality.

2. don't bother, enjoy quiet time with your children?

On the premise of respecting children's needs, put down your mobile phone and do things they are interested in with your children. You don't need to express too many opinions, just accompany silently.

Liu Xuan, a famous psychologist, talked about the time he spent with his daughter. Once he took his daughter to the park to play. He found her running under a big tree, staring blankly at the mottled shadows under it. Liu Xuan didn't rush up like other parents and asked, "Baby, what are you looking at?" Instead, she chose to hide in the corner and wait for the child to come out of her dedicated world.

Liu Xuan really let go of everything, just simply looking at the child's present appearance and feelings, enjoying the wonderful time with the child. Who says this is not quality company?

He is also a high-quality partner, perhaps without any verbal communication. What mom and dad have to do is silently observe the children and wait for them.

3. Give your child a "heart-wrenching" response in time.

Recently, a video has turned over many netizens.

My daughter has just finished painting her mother's portrait, so I'm sorry to leave.

Mom quickly stopped: "Is this me? No, no, don't go! This is a great painting!

I have never seen such a great painting. Where did you learn such a good technique? "

My daughter's eyes lit up at once, but she insisted:

"Mommy, I don't think it looks good at all."

"This is the best in the world, OMG, you use the coloring method? I have never seen such a style. I just want you to keep this hobby, okay? "

"Then why did Dad smile like that?"

"He doesn't know anything."

Although my father has been laughing, I still let my mother play rainbow fart to the extreme.

I really want to sigh that this child is so distracted and happy with such parents!

Milton, modern psychologist and hypnotist? Eriksson's research found that when more than two people are happy about the same thing at the same rhythm and frequency, happiness will multiply, and people's happiness and smiles will bloom the most.

Therefore, give your children more care and positive response, and you will find that not only your children are happy, but you will be equally happy.

Bernard, a Dutch educator, once said, "The more unconscious a child is about his surroundings, the more this perception permeates his soul."

Children will absorb the state of their parents. When parents work and study hard, children will be unconsciously influenced and imitate their parents.

There are thousands of ways to accompany children. The real thing is to moisten things quietly, and high-quality companionship is to "become a better self with children."

Put down your mobile phone and grow up happily with them.