What are the precautions when chatting with parents?

First, respect parents. Specifically, when parents talk to us, we should concentrate on understanding what they are saying and what they mean. Many people will feel impatient when chatting with their parents after going home and start playing mobile phones. Parents are angry with our perfunctory attitude and will scold us. This will destroy our relationship with our parents.

The second is to express ideas. When communicating with parents, explain things and express our feelings at the same time. For example, the most helpless thing for young people nowadays is that they are urged to get married by their parents as soon as they get home, and they are often urged, so young people will be very upset and angry. Later, it is very likely to quarrel with parents, which will affect the relationship with parents.

Don't blame. Generally speaking, we should pay attention to ways and means, and try to start with "I", which can reduce each other's antipathy and even psychological defense. In view of an example, we can express our views and thoughts on this matter with our parents, expressing that we know that our parents are good for ourselves, but if we are always asked to do things we don't want to do, it will only make us communicate less.

The third is to be calm and humble. When chatting with parents, many young people are always self-centered, and it is easy to leave an impression of "self-righteousness" in their hearts. You know, your parents may have been to more places than you have eaten, so communicating in such a tough way will certainly not win their favor. The consequence is often that the core topic has not been touched, and the chat ends in a quarrel. But if we face it in a different way with a "consulting" attitude and don't deliberately challenge the authority of our parents, it will be easier to get pertinent advice.

Fourth, beat about the bush, step by step. There is a huge gap between us and our parents. The fundamental problem lies in our ideas. Parents' ideas are generally conservative, while young people are more open and free. So on many topics, they will show two opposite attitudes. In order to reverse this situation, we can try to "beat about the bush" communication mode on the premise of ensuring benign interaction. Both parents are experienced people, and they will understand a lot when you listen. If they are not disgusted with your "edge ball" communication, it proves that there is still room for manoeuvre.