Mother-in-law lent 300 thousand to her daughter and threatened not to raise her daughter-in-law. Can I stop her?

There is no right or wrong in the world, only cause and effect.

As the saying goes, "As you sow, you reap." If your mother-in-law didn't treat her daughter-in-law well when she was young, then in her later years, her daughter-in-law will naturally not care about her mother-in-law, and even retaliate against her mother-in-law for the evil she did in those years.

Some mothers-in-law seem to be born with prejudice against their daughter-in-law, and feel that the reason why their sons are not close to themselves is entirely because they have married their daughter-in-law and forgotten their mother. It is the existence of their daughter-in-law that hinders their mother-child affection. In contrast, a daughter is more caring than a son, and she can expect far more from her daughter-in-law.

Once this kind of psychology occurs, between the daughter-in-law and the daughter, the mother-in-law will subconsciously favor the daughter, which will make the daughter even more disliked. When the daughter-in-law did her best, she still couldn't get her mother-in-law's sincere acceptance, or even was excluded. Sooner or later, she will be chilling, so she doesn't want to have too much intersection with her mother-in-law.

But one thing, whether children are filial is not expressed in words. No matter how good a promise is, if it is not fulfilled in the end, it is a bad check. There are always some old people in life who place their hopes on their daughters because they can't get along with their daughters-in-law. When they are really old and weak, they realize that they have miscalculated.

When they married Guo, they were really wronged. Because it is a rural hukou, my mother-in-law despises them and tries her best to break them up. Finally, in the case of failing to stop it, they simply refused to pay a penny and let them get married naked.

Fortunately, Song Xue has saved hundreds of thousands over the years. With the support of his family, he finally bought a second-hand house and settled down first. Guo feels guilty. After the marriage, he put away his playful personality and tried to earn money to pay off the mortgage. The young couple are very active together.

It is said that the mother-in-law should be pleased to see her son change, but she is distressed that her son is strictly controlled by her wife. Everyone will say that her daughter-in-law is a tigress. When this word reached Song Xue's ears, how could he feel happy? Besides, she has always been targeted by her mother-in-law, and she instinctively stays away from her mother-in-law.

After her son was born, her mother-in-law was very happy, but she refused to wait on her daughter-in-law for confinement on the pretext of poor health. The young couple were under the pressure of mortgage and car loan, so they couldn't afford a nanny, so they had to have the cheek to ask Song Xue's family for help. Song Xue's mother came without saying anything. She not only worked as a free nanny for 40 days, but also gave her grandson a red envelope of 10,000 yuan.

Mother-in-law's financial conditions are far above those of her parents and family. After her father-in-law died, she received 800 yuan's living expenses every month, and she still had a passbook of 300,000 yuan in her hand. Song Xue knows all these details and thinks this is her mother-in-law's pension. Since she doesn't want to take it out to help them get married, she won't be forced. In other words, the mother-in-law has her own coffin book, which will save her children trouble in the future.

However, Song Xue never imagined that her mother-in-law, who has always attached great importance to money, gave her 300 yuan's red envelope when her grandson was born, but when she turned around, she gave all her 300,000 deposits to her elder sister. Song Xue was very angry. She doesn't care about money, but what her mother-in-law said is too hurtful.

Big sister and her husband have been doing business for many years, claiming to earn a lot of money, which makes her mother-in-law particularly face-saving, and often compares her daughter with her daughter-in-law. One is a female boss who can earn a lot of money, and the other is only paid three melons and two dates a month. My mother-in-law instinctively despises her daughter-in-law. At ordinary family dinners, the mother-in-law keeps greeting her son, daughter and son-in-law to eat vegetables, but turns a blind eye to her daughter-in-law.

It's ok to treat adults differently, but my mother-in-law went too far and didn't extend this eccentricity to her grandchildren. Whenever the grandson does something wrong, her mother-in-law is harsh and harsh, complaining that her daughter-in-law has no ability to educate her children. When the grandson makes a mistake, her mother-in-law can forgive her generously.

10 years ago, my sister-in-law was short of business funds and borrowed her savings from her mother-in-law for many years. My mother-in-law immediately agreed to borrow money when she heard that there was a rich return. According to the agreement, the eldest sister pays the living expenses to her mother-in-law on a monthly basis, and the interest is much higher than that of the bank.

After the mother-in-law tasted the sweetness, she was even more full of praise for her daughter-in-law He threatened that his son and daughter-in-law would not be expected to support the elderly in the future, and that the daughter-in-law would never have the idea that the mother depended on her son. Even if she adds a grandson to the Guo family, she won't like her.

My mother-in-law never dreamed that her daughter and son-in-law had been running at a loss, and there was really nowhere to borrow money, so the lie was exposed. Although they admitted to borrowing 300,000 yuan from their mother-in-law, they were unable to pay back the money. Mother-in-law had a sudden stroke in anger, which led to hemiplegia and hospitalization.

The daughter and son-in-law ran away to avoid debts. It was inconvenient for a big man to take care of his son, so her mother-in-law thought of her daughter-in-law. At the behest of her mother-in-law, Guo finally invited her to the hospital. Her mother-in-law apologized to her and hoped that her daughter-in-law would come to the hospital to accompany her son and grandson.

Song Xue has been bullied by her mother-in-law all these years. Now she wants her to let bygones be bygones and serve her mother-in-law. I'm sorry she can't do it. Although Song Xue is very kind, she is not generous enough to regard the feud between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law as never happened.

Finally, Song Xue didn't want to stay. She paid a nurse to take care of her mother-in-law 24 hours a day. She also thought about the arrangement for her mother-in-law after discharge. Her mother-in-law can sell the house, rent a house or live in a nursing home. In short, her family is not welcome and it is impossible to accept her mother-in-law.

"People will be old, and words will be good." Some mother-in-law did evil to her daughter-in-law when she was young. Therefore, she began to reflect when she was old and weak, and her body or life was in trouble. It's really ironic.

It is said that the mother-in-law is also passed on by her daughter-in-law, so we should understand her. However, in real life, many mother-in-law not only refused to tolerate and help their daughter-in-law grow up, but also copied her harsh treatment to her daughter-in-law with the mentality of being a wife for ten years.

This mentality is unhealthy. If mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along, they will get along well. If not, there will be less contact. There is no need to take the attitude of mother-in-law to suppress daughter-in-law. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are equal individuals. If a mother-in-law wants to be respected by her daughter-in-law, she must first respect each other, so that the relationship can develop healthily.

A son-in-law is half a son. In fact, the daughter-in-law is not half a daughter. I don't expect to be treated like a daughter. At least I have to take care of the overall situation and make sense on the face. Similarly, when the in-laws need to be served in the future, the daughter-in-law will naturally not stay out of it.

Therefore, I advised my mother-in-law not to have a hard time with her daughter-in-law. The karma planted in the early years will bear fruit in the future, and peace with each other is the king.