The 35-year-old girl was refused the bride price, and her mother said that the man who did not give the bride price was not worth marrying. what do you think?

One of the most realistic problems facing marriage now is the bride price.

Regarding whether to give a bride price when getting married, the practice varies from place to place. Some places have it, and some places don't. Anyway, whether you like it or not, there has never been a standard.

The man thinks that the bride price should not be given, and the woman thinks that the bride price is essential. This contradiction is inevitable before marriage.

How can I put it?

Although there is no bride price for marriage, it has actually become a practice for a woman's family to marry her daughter.

If the man's family doesn't give the bride price, the woman must think that the man doesn't even have an attitude, doesn't respect her, and is worried that his daughter will suffer after marriage.

In addition, in real life, there are also many cases where women don't want the bride price and are finally despised by their husbands' families. Many men who marry women who don't want a bride price will sneer behind their backs and say that they have picked up a daughter-in-law for nothing.

Therefore, when each family marries a daughter, it is more or less certain to ask the man's family to give a bride price.

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Juanjuan is 35 years old. She is a very nice girl. She came back from studying abroad. Before that, she only talked about one boyfriend, whom she met in Germany. We broke up after a year of dating because of personality differences.

Three years ago, Juanjuan returned to China, got a good job in his hometown, and then met his current boyfriend. Two people have been in love for three years, and their feelings have always been good. They thought they could get married smoothly, but this year there was a contradiction because of the bride price.

Juanjuan is not the kind of girl who pursues material things, because she has an economic foundation. She thinks that two people really love each other as long as they hit it off.

However, Juanjuan's mother doesn't think so. Her mother said that no matter how good she is, she can't ask for anything from the man. Otherwise, she will not be respected by the man in the future.

Juanjuan's mother told her that love is different from marriage. Love can be romantic, you can ignore everything, but marriage is still alive, and it will be very bitter without protection.

If she wants to be Juanjuan, she needs a bride price and a house, so that she can feel safe in her marriage. The money in her hand is the most reliable.

After that, Juanjuan agreed with her mother. She also felt that she had to ask her boyfriend for a bride price and a house.

Then, Juanjuan asked her boyfriend about the bride price. According to her mother, she asked for a bride price of 280,000 yuan. However, she didn't expect that her boyfriend didn't agree to give it.

Boyfriend's reason is simple:

During his love, he really loved Juanjuan and spent tens of thousands of dollars on Juanjuan.

Moreover, he thinks that girls need special materials for bride price, 280 thousand, which is simply "sky-high price" Is it necessary to measure the feelings of two people by matter?

Besides, he is not going to buy a house again. He has three bedrooms. Although he lives with his parents, it doesn't affect them. The space is so big that it is enough.

But Juanjuan disagrees with her boyfriend. She thinks:

During my love, I spent a lot of money for my boyfriend, but she also paid for him. Although the money is not much, isn't it enough for her to pay for her health?

Also, is 280 thousand a lot? Now there are fewer girls who don't want to get married so much.

Besides, if you don't buy a house, there must be contradictions in living with your in-laws after marriage, and she doesn't want to.

I can only say that my boyfriend is too unreasonable. It's not loving her. It's simply irresponsible.

In this way, Juanjuan and her boyfriend had a conflict, and finally their families had an opinion about their affairs.

Juanjuan's mother's attitude is very tough. The bride price is 280,000 yuan, and a new house must be bought. The man's family will not give in, and a little bride price can be given, but the house will not be bought again.

The relationship between Juanjuan and her boyfriend is getting colder and colder because of the stalemate between the two families. Finally, my boyfriend couldn't bear it anymore and broke up with Juanjuan.

Juanjuan was sad for a long time, but her mother told her that such a man who refused to give the bride price should not get married because it was not worth it.

Marry this kind of man, the marriage will not be happy, just find someone better than him in the future.

Juanjuan listened to her mother's words. After she was sad, she only felt that her boyfriend was too unmanly to treat her like this. It's really three years of love for her to feed the dog.

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This is an example of breaking up because the bride price was not settled.

Juanjuan and her boyfriend broke up because of the bride price. I will tidy it up after reading it.

Man's point of view:

Girls' bride price is material, and 280 thousand is the "sky-high price" of spending money in love, paying too much. After you get married, you should live with your parents instead of buying a new house. Feelings can't be measured by matter.

Women's point of view:

Bridal gifts are necessary, as are married families, and 280 thousand is not much. I have paid for myself in love, and what I have paid is my body. If you don't live with your in-laws after marriage, you must buy a new house. No material foundation, no sense of security after marriage.

This makes sense for both sides, and it is no wonder that there will be a deadlock.

Take this example and talk about ideas.

Let's talk about women first:

When a woman wants a bride price, it should be said that it is largely a man's attitude. Many parents, especially mothers, will think that the man doesn't even give the bride price. Will he still be happy if he marries?

They hope that their daughter can get the attention of the man's family, with a bride price and a house as a guarantee, at least without worrying about her daughter.

If the man is unwilling to pay a penny, it shows that he has no sincerity at all. How can he marry his precious daughter? Isn't it cool that a woman doesn't have any money when life in marriage is really bad?

Moreover, the woman does not want a bride price, and it is difficult to guarantee her happiness in her future marriage.

How many women who don't want bride price have a good life in the end?

Asking for a bride price is nothing more than a peace of mind, an attitude and a respect. If you are not satisfied with this, marriage will be difficult to be happy.

Tell me more about this man:

The main reason why the man is unwilling to give the bride price is nothing more than:

First, the family is average and can't afford it. The bride price and the house add up to a lot of money, and it really can't be satisfied without a foundation.

Second, I think it is unnecessary to really love each other. Why does it have to involve material things? Many places don't need bride price, so marriage is still happy.

Third, I really don't want to give it. This is what women say: too stingy, too stingy, not true love.

Of course, it is best for two people to discuss it in a friendly way, and each family can take a step back. After all, it's for your children.

As long as the children are happy and truly love each other, everything should be based on their happiness and marriage, and the two families will be happy through equal and friendly consultation. Wouldn't it be better?

It would be a pity if two people who really love each other break up because of the bride price.

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In summary, should I take the bride price?

Everyone in every family has different opinions, but one thing is that the bride price should be controlled within a reasonable range, based on the actual situation of the man, which can not only ensure the man to give it, but also make the woman feel "not fall in price", which may be the best.

For the 280,000 in the case, this is hard to say. For people with good family circumstances, it may not be worth mentioning, but for ordinary families, it may really be "sky-high".

Therefore, I think we should respect each other and do what we can.

In fact, there are many women around who don't want to get married. Their marriages are very happy and there has never been a miserable situation.

Of course, there are unhappy people in reality, but there are many reasons for unhappiness, and the bride price can only be regarded as one of them at best, not the only one.

In marriage, true love between husband and wife is more important than anything else. Otherwise, if there is no love in marriage, what's the point of having more money?

In a word, marriage needs the joint efforts of two people, and only joint efforts can bring true happiness.

Love should be managed, so should wealth. This is the foundation of a happy marriage.

Marriage should be the icing on the cake of two people's love, and don't let the bride price become the burden of each other.

If two people really love each other, please respect and understand each other and cherish them.