During the epidemic, her husband was busy sending her masks and vegetables. Why did she file for divorce?

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Marriage may be like a ship. When two people are young, they build it together. It looks bright and the performance of the ship is also good. However, as time went by, some ships continued to be repaired and repaired, and they were still able to sail on the sea.

Some boats may have very poor performance, but they still barely exist. I feel like I am standing on the beach, comforted in my heart, look, I still have a boat.

In some cases, the boats have been scrapped and the people on board are missing.

I remember Gao Xiaosong said in "Qi Pa Shuo" that if there is a bottle of potion, if you drink it, you will know whether the other person really loves you. Can you drink it?

Gao Xiaosong said, no, at his age, he has already understood the matter of love and there is no need to ask anymore.

Yes, when you reach middle age, you really don’t need to ask how much affection the person around you has for you. It’s like a mirror in your heart.

Don’t ask, don’t tell, just want to stand on the shore and see that I can still have a boat. This boat may be useless to me, but what if it can provide some protection for my children?

A friend once said that after all these years with her husband, there is really no love anymore, and she is not even as good as a good friend. The face you can give to a good friend may not be given to the other person.

Know whether you are warm or cold, and take care of yourself.

However, she doesn’t want to get divorced because her husband takes care of their two daughters, so she can rest assured that he is better than others. Although he is not a good father, he is still better than his stepfather. When my daughters grow up, I don’t want their lives to encounter any bumps in the road. When I reach middle age, I count on my daughters to live a safe and happy life.

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Reader Luo Dan said that since her husband started a business, his personality may have changed.

I remember when I was young, I would be on the phone endlessly when I went out for a few days, which was very boring. He would also bring some gadgets to Rodan and always said that as long as his wife and daughter lived well, he would be happy no matter what.

I don’t know when he stopped calling home. It was common for him not to return home for a few days when he went out. Rodin didn’t know whether he went out of town or just didn’t come home.

My husband is doing business, and there is always money flowing in his hands. It is really unclear what the money has been used for. Rodin doesn’t want to become neurotic. He looks at his husband every day and follows the clues. Look for things that may or may not happen.

If people’s hearts leave, they cannot stay. Rodin just lived with his daughter, sending her to school every day, and then going to learn piano and dance after school, and so on.

Sometimes, if you have something to do, if you make a video call, your husband will focus the whole camera on his face or the roof, and you can’t see where he is at all. He is always impatient when talking. After a few words, he said he was busy and hung up.

When a woman doesn't ask, it's not because she's stupid, it's just that she's not ready to leave yet.

Her husband would get the money back from time to time, and the tuition fees for her daughter’s music studies were very high, which Rodin could not afford. The teacher said that his daughter was talented and Rodan did not want to delay the child. Therefore, in order to raise children together, Rodan will not divorce. Because I don’t want a divorce, I don’t want to break up.

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Over the years, Rodin was still prepared and would save money quietly. My husband was a lavish spender, so he thought it was normal for him to spend all the money he got back.

Rodan quietly paid the down payment and bought a house. He used his younger brother's name and his provident fund loan to repay the loan every month.

Although this city looks big, it is not a first-tier city after all. With some help from his parents and younger brother, Luo Dan saved a house for himself.

Luo Dan studied accounting. My husband used to say that he was responsible for making money to support the family, and Luo Dan just needed to take care of the elderly and children. I went home and became a housewife, and my profession slowly fell into disuse.

However, when her husband’s condition became more and more clear, Rodin picked up the book again. She was studying when she was in class with her children.

I first took on some small part-time jobs. Gradually, people knew that Luo Dan was fast and reliable, so it was not difficult to find a job.

My husband doesn’t know when the good-for-nothing housewife started to change her appearance.

This year, I was trapped at home due to the epidemic, and my husband’s phone was always ringing. My husband hid in the bathroom to answer the phone, and then said that something happened in the store and he had to go out.

Later, a friend called and asked, saying that he saw her husband buying a lot of things, including masks, alcohol, etc., and asked where else he could buy them.

However, these were not taken home. Rodin told his friends that they were just unintentional stock in the store. After hanging up the phone, Rodan smiled bitterly for a while. Where would his husband have these things in his store? He was just delivering things to the women outside. My husband has never provided these things for his daughter.

Forget it, it’s just chilling if you think about it too much.

In the evening, my husband kept chatting on WeChat, but as soon as he put it down, the phone rang again. My husband said it was a harassing call, but later he thought it was fake and said it was something about the store.

Rodan didn’t say anything. Her husband’s shop might be closed after the new year. At the beginning of the new year, we bought hundreds of thousands of fruits in gift packages. During the epidemic, few people bought them. We thought about unpacking them and selling them, but in the end, they turned out to be much worse and we lost hundreds of thousands.

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Originally, Rodan didn't want to mention divorce at this time, but seeing her husband lying in front of him made him feel tired just thinking about it.

Once, my husband made a secretive phone call again. Luo Dan said, please tell her properly, I already know it, let’s get divorced when the epidemic is over.

My husband pretended to be confused at first, but later, when he saw that Rodin didn't talk to him, he lost the taste and stopped pretending. Rodin said that it was time for a divorce. Love died a few years ago. Marriage had existed in name only for so long, so it was time to send it away.

Marriage is a contract and cannot be lifelong. However, since it is a contract, the spirit of the contract should be abided by, right?

How could the other half of those who break the contract and betrayal not know how much sincerity the people around them show, they can always feel it.

If you don’t say it, maybe it’s because you are reluctant to give up, or maybe you don’t have the armor to stand up to the storm.

Only when a woman is strong, she will not have to feel aggrieved right now and pretend that she knows nothing to maintain a dead marriage.

It has always been false to rely on others, but true to rely on oneself.