Methods to guide children through the period of independence and to cultivate children's self-reliance and self-improvement

1, give children a chance to exercise. It's all my father's fault to raise or not to teach. We can't keep children for life, but we should teach them skills and techniques so that children can take care of themselves even if we are not around them. A mother asked her child to wash socks when he was 3 years old, and did not forget to call her when washing clothes. Although the child is only 3 years old, her mother has asked him to do what she can. She never forgot to call him when she had the chance to do so. Even when she went to the supermarket to buy things, she picked some lighter things to carry for her children, especially the things she bought for them. In daily life, parents should let their children do it themselves. Although they are very young, they can do many things: set dishes and chopsticks, clean tables, help sweep the floor and do other housework.

In the process of children's continuous hands-on learning, they can master more skills, feel the joy of success, and their self-confidence is gradually established. When the joy of success inspires children's growing interest in self-help and exploration, it is the beginning of children's real self-reliance.

2. When encountering difficulties, let children learn to solve them independently. When children like to try to do something by themselves at first, they may make mistakes in the process because of lack of experience and exercise. But many parents rushed in when they saw their children's problems, told them what to do, and even began to help them. Over time, children will not only be unable to stand on their own feet, but will rely more on their parents. For example, when some children encounter some difficulties, they like to say, "Mom, please help me ..." Whenever this happens, the loving mother will immediately stand up and say, "It doesn't matter, there is a mother." Once, twice ... Over time, the child gradually formed an inertial thinking: "It doesn't matter whether you do it or not, there is a mother anyway." Parents should not help their children when they encounter problems. On the contrary, they should encourage children to solve problems with their own brains and hands, so that children can discover their potential and realize their abilities. Therefore, no matter what children do, parents should let their children do it independently. If it fails, guide the child to think and do it in another way until the child finishes it independently.

3. Let children participate in the decision-making of things. For some simple things at home, parents can talk to their children more, listen to their suggestions, encourage their children to express their ideas and opinions, and let them learn to participate in decision-making. For example, where are we going to play on weekends? What color is the curtain? And if you want to sleep in separate rooms, you can take your children to buy what you need, let them choose their favorite beds, and some room decorations, so that they can decorate the room together to look like they like. Let children participate in simple things, let them learn to think independently, and let them realize their importance at home. While exercising their autonomy, they can also cultivate their sense of responsibility and ownership, thus reducing their dependence.