My boyfriend can’t accept my past and I want to break up with him because he cares about my past.

I once read a story about a girl who had a boyfriend. She loved him very much, told him everything, and disclosed all her past. She thought this was trust. But she didn't know that her words pierced a thorn in her boyfriend's heart.

In the future, intentionally or unintentionally, her boyfriend will ask: Who treats you better between me and your ex-boyfriend? ?One day during a quarrel, her boyfriend suddenly shouted: ?You are sorry for me. You should keep yourself clean, but you failed to do it. ?

The girl was stunned for a moment, and after a while she said: "Do you mind my past?" ?

?Even a man would mind. ?

?Then let’s break up, because I can’t change the past. And my past has nothing to do with you, I don’t need to be responsible for you, I only need to be responsible for myself. ?Later, the two broke up.

I feel lucky for this girl, she left the wrong person. Everyone has a past, unless you are as pure as a blank sheet of paper, then it is understandable that you care about the other person's past; but if you also have a past, but do not allow your other half to have a past, this double standard is really hard to understand.

My past has nothing to do with you

In her thirties, Xiaoting had a boyfriend who was her first love.

My first love was Xiaoting’s college classmate. By chance, the two met, got to know each other, and fell in love.

Like other couples, during the days when they were in love, Xiaoting would see her boyfriend waiting for her when she got downstairs. After class, the two of them would go to the library together or discuss where to go. That time is shining brightly when I think back on it now.

After graduation, the two returned to their hometowns respectively. The distance between them blurred their love. Half a year later, Xiaoting received news that her boyfriend had broken up. Later, she heard from her classmates that he was married.

?That day I hid at home and cried for a whole day, mourning the loss of my first love. ?Xiaoting told me sadly.

A year later, Xiaoting’s mother introduced her to a boyfriend, saying that he was introduced by a friend of hers. He was 4 years older than her and worked as a senior executive in a foreign company.

Their first date was not bad. The man was very cultured and polite, which made Xiaoting very fond of him. After two or three dates, the relationship was confirmed.

On a date, he suddenly asked Xiaoting: "You are so beautiful. You must have had a boyfriend before. Can you tell me about you and your ex-boyfriend?" ?

?Nothing to say, it’s all over. ?Xiaoting smiled calmly.

?Can’t you talk to me? I'm quite curious. ?He did not give up and continued to ask questions.

?Your conditions are so good, you must have had a girlfriend, right? So would you like to share with me the story of you and your girlfriend? ?Xiaoting counterattacked unceremoniously.

He immediately smiled awkwardly, "There's nothing to say, let's pass it." ?

?Yeah, now that it’s all over, what’s there to talk about? ?

The two of them did not continue and changed the topic tacitly.

However, this incident left a shadow in Xiaoting's heart. She suddenly hesitated: "Should we continue to date him?" ?Xiaoting felt that he would not give up inquiring about her past, so when he proposed, she refused.

?Why? ?He was puzzled.

?We are not suitable for each other. You are a man who likes to dig into the past. I don’t like this. We are not the same person. ?

So Xiaoting broke up with her boyfriend and has not found another partner since then.

Going round and round and getting together again

Two years passed in the blink of an eye. During this period, her mother kept introducing her to partners frequently, fearing that her daughter would be left behind.

Compared with her mother's anxiety, Xiaoting has always been calm and composed. She is not in a hurry and what should come will always come.

One day, she suddenly received a call from a very unfamiliar number. She would have refused to answer the call before she put it aside, but for some unknown reason that day, she picked up the call by some mistake.

When a voice came from the other side, she suddenly felt in a trance, as if the boy she had known many years ago was walking towards her.

The person on the phone was Xiaoting's first love in college. He expressed that he wanted to meet her. Xiaoting knew that he was already married and it was not appropriate to meet again, but she couldn't resist the desire in her heart and agreed.

When they met, Chu Lian held a bouquet of roses in his hand. He walked up to Xiaoting and said to her: "I'm divorced. Can we start dating again?" ?

Xiaoting was stunned for a while, and she didn't come back to her senses for a while. When she calmed down, she asked: "What's going on?" ?

His first love told him that he and his ex-wife met on a blind date. Because they had no emotional basis, they often quarreled after getting married. He couldn't bear it and divorced. He also said that he had never forgotten Xiaoting and would not hesitate to come to her city to find her as soon as he got divorced.

He asked Xiaoting: "Can you still accept me?" ?

Xiaoting nodded, and they came together again. A month later, they got married.

Sometimes fate is so wonderful. What is yours will eventually be yours, and what is not yours will be lost sooner or later. Going around in circles, Xiaoting and her first love form a circle again.

The last thing I want to tell girls is, don’t use the past to embarrass yourself. If your boyfriend minds, don’t be polite and let him find someone else. Remember, your past has nothing to do with him.