Long-term marriage is a kind of "marriage feeling" that is not tired of getting along.

Cousin's wedding day is coming, and like every bride-to-be, she is beginning to enter a stage of both excitement and worry.

I am very excited to finally get married and live with my boyfriend who has been in love for 5 years. I'm afraid everyone says that marriage is the grave of love. She doesn't know what her future will be like.

Whether it is beautiful, whether it is a tacit partner in each other's life, or a stranger under the same roof is unknown.

Especially in recent days, the frequent derailment of the entertainment circle has made her right. Get married? The word aroused suspicion.

People who feel clearly in love walk together, why do they all become the most familiar strangers in the end, not to mention growing old together, that is, it is rare to live for three to five years.

Those vows at the wedding? Did I? ,? Me forever? Commitment became the loudest voice on the face in the future.

So my cousin asked me: Isn't there a long marriage?

I said: yes, when you are uncertain, you can go to the park, go to the food market to buy food, sit in the hospital lobby, and stroll around the subway or bus station. Most of them are white-haired old couples in their twilight years.

That kind of marriage is ordinary, true and long-lasting, and it is worth saying that it is a good marriage.

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My cousin thought for a moment and then said happily, yes, there is such a couple living in her community. Both of them are seventy or eighty years old, with white hair and surprisingly good feelings.

Every day, I help each other to go out to buy food and chat. At dusk and sunset, we will go for a walk in the nearby park hand in hand, or watch others dance in the square dance.

I often see grandpa stroking grandma's hair, stroking grandma's collar and shouting, "old woman, your hair is messed up by the wind." I often hear my grandmother shout, "dead old man, why don't you take the stairs slowly?"

The picture is harmonious and warm.

If marriage can be like this, it is enviable.

So my cousin said, actually, I want this kind of marriage, too. I have been with them for decades, and I have been with them for a long time. I don't need the joy of falling in love at first sight, but I can't get enough of it.

I wonder what secrets they have.

In fact, a lifelong marriage can only be achieved through the baptism of years. During this period, everyone has his own story and situation, as Zhou said: Some people are happily married, while others are badly off.

Never think of a shortcut in one step, or dream of heaven, there is no secret once and for all.

After all, marriage is different from love, and everything needs real daily necessities and ginger vinegar tea. It is not so much romance as embarrassment, a retreat of passion, accompanied by a steady stream of water, stable hormones and mature minds.

It is a step-by-step management, a step-by-step mutual achievement, and more importantly, it is not tired to get along.

Only two people who are not tired of getting along with each other will keep going, feel the comfort and warmth of marriage because of each other's existence, and realize that getting home is the source of happiness and the harbor for stopping.

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Some people say that the best state of men and women in marriage is like two trees standing side by side, with branches and leaves intertwined, branches and leaves interlocked, independent but not alienated, close but not attached. They are the kind of partners who can experience the sunshine and rain together, and they are also bosom friends who can enjoy the rain and dew alone.

We have our own sky and land, but we also have each other.

Without a sense of urgency, you won't hold your breath too much, and you won't suffer because of one party's occasional negligence.

Just as Rene Liu, a girl with milk tea, explained the best way for two people to get along in marriage in her book "I dare to be in your arms": I am confident when I am alone in your arms, and I am happy when I am alone in your arms.

You can have each other in your eyes, but you should also know how to be moderately independent and leave room for yourself. Never entangle each other like vines and stifle marriage.

They may go to the same cinema, but they may go to different cinemas to watch their favorite movies, or they may go to the same airport, but it doesn't prevent you from going to your Europe and I will go to my America.

Because marriage is a long run-in, if you don't want to rely on one party to force one party to live the way you want, it will inevitably become a burden to the other party.

When the other person can't do what you want, you will get tired of marriage, feel wronged and complain. What you need to understand is this. In all marriages, no one can conquer who becomes himself, but should achieve each other and appreciate us better.

My cousin and I shared what a father in Taiwan Province Province said in his daughter's wedding speech: After marriage, it is not 1+ 1=2, but 0.5+0.5= 1. After marriage, you have to get rid of your general personality to form a happy family, not possession, but combination.

And the most important thing in the combination is that you are not tired when you get along, and your heart is happy.

When two people live together, there will always be various contradictions and conflicts, and there will be many unaccustomed and unaccustomed. Because of this, we should spend more effort to understand each other, tolerate each other, explore each other's good, achieve each other, and finally achieve ourselves and a beautiful marriage.

But one day I got old sitting in a rocking chair, and cherry blossoms fell all over the floor. It was a summer evening breeze, and you called me over, but I looked at your beauty carefully. After seeing all the vicissitudes of the world, I still insist that my life is enriched because of you.

After a lifetime of marriage, I can still be me and you can still be you, but you have become the best of us.