Companionship is the best gift for children

? "National Talented Woman" - "Wu Yishu", this name must be familiar to everyone. At the age of 16, she swept the 100-person group at the "Chinese Poetry Conference" with a reserve of 2,000 poems, winning three battles in three battles, and finally won the championship; at the age of 18, Wu Yishu ranked 77th among Shanghai candidates with a college entrance examination score of 613 points ( With a total score of 660 points), he was admitted to Tsinghua University and enrolled in Tsinghua Science Experimental Class (Xinya Academy). How are such outstanding children raised? Behind excellent children are excellent parents. Wu Yishu’s father is a lawyer and he is highly self-disciplined. Turn off your mobile phone at 4:30 every afternoon and calm down to study with your children. Friends present, have you been touched by this? When I learned this fact, I was so shocked that I turned off the phone to accompany my child and devoted myself to it. Wu Yishu's mother once said: "Genius does not exist. No outstanding child is born out of nowhere. A miracle, but a traceable cause and effect. "I found that this traceable thing is companionship.

? A child’s growth is a one-way ticket. A child’s growth is irreversible and cannot be repeated. We only have one chance to be with our children. If we miss it, we will miss it forever. Parental companionship is the best gift for children. It cannot be replaced by anyone, nor can it be replaced by other substances. Children who are accompanied by their parents feel safe, confident, and have good interpersonal relationships.

? Cai Xiaowan, a Chinese family education expert, has raised 6 outstanding children, 5 of whom have doctorates and one has a master's degree. He said that his career is his father and "runs his role as a father as a career." In his opinion, children's growth should always come first in all daily affairs. He accompanies his children to study, travel with them, and experience life with them. Participate in every moment of your child's growth. His father, Gilbert, a professor of psychology at Harvard University, once said in an interview with Yang Lan, “Ten years from now, you will regret that you did one less project today, but you will regret that you did not spend one more hour with your child. "U.S. President Obama said that he was elected president for the first time. He said one thing during the campaign that he was very proud of. During the 21-month campaign, he never missed a parent-teacher meeting with his children. Dear parents, have you attended all of your children’s parent-teacher conferences? Do you know all of your children’s teachers? Do you know your children’s preferences? Do you know your child’s classroom? It is reported that a primary school student was sent to the wrong school by his father. The reason was that his mother usually picked him up and dropped him off. On that day, his mother had something to do and asked his father to drop him off. The father asked his child to get off the bus in front of a school. The child could not find the school after getting off the bus. Finally, the traffic police helped him to the school. I personally saw the parent go to the wrong classroom for a parent-teacher meeting because he did not know where the child was. Some students don’t even know what grade their children are in. We keep saying we love our children, but where is the love? Is love right? How should we love our children?

? First of all, companionship is the best love for children.

? Before the age of three, home is everything to a child, parents are the objects to which the child is most attached, and home is the place where the child feels the safest; when the child goes to kindergarten and primary school, home is where the child spends his evening time; After entering junior high school and high school, for children who live on campus, home is the weekend; when the children go to college, home is the winter and summer vacations; after they start a family, home is the Spring Festival for the children. In this way, the time we spend with our children is very limited.

? Enjoy the joy and happiness of getting along with your children, and slowly appreciate every scenery and every mood when you are with your children. What a happy thing it is to leave behind beautiful memories. Childhood is the first half of a person's life, and beautiful childhood memories are a gift for a child's life. "Some people use their childhood to heal their whole lives, and some people use their whole life to heal their childhood." Companionship is the best psychological nourishment for children. Companionship is mutual, nourishment is mutual, and giving is mutual. The process of growing up with our children is also the process of our parents’ self-growth and self-cultivation.

Secondly, companionship is the best education.

? The company of parents is the best way to educate. In the company, children will be subtly affected by the good character of their parents. "Cultivation" means "accompanying and raising". High-quality companionship is the basis for establishing a harmonious parent-child relationship. Relationship is education. Without relationship, there is no education. Relationships precede education, include education, and surpass education.

The warm company of parents will make children feel love and respect, and a free and harmonious parent-child relationship will gradually be established. With a solid parent-child relationship, education will become easy, happy, and natural! When children are accompanied by their parents, they will develop good habits and a sound personality, and grow up happily; the children will develop in the direction expected by their parents. A survey in the United States showed that children with high scores often eat dinner with their parents.

? Finally, let’s talk about the child’s childhood. Is it the IPad or you who accompanies her?

Companionship is the best love, and companionship is the best education. So what is companionship? Is staying with your children companionship? That's certainly not the case! Many parents come home from get off work and live in the same room with their children, each playing with their own mobile phones and doing their own things. The children don't care about their parents, and the parents don't care about their children. This is not companionship! Real companionship is to be with the child, and do things or games that the child is interested in together, so that the child can feel the love and warmth from his parents. High-quality companionship affects children's future development. High-quality companionship involves the guarantee of time, love and emotional investment, and doing meaningful things together. Parents' companionship should be attentive, not "forced": "Companionship in the Cao camp but in the Han heart" is perfunctory, not companionship: effective companionship requires an understanding of the child's deep inner feelings.

? When the children are studying, parents read some books and write some words quietly; when the children watch TV, chat with them about the stories on TV and social news; on the way to take the children to school , chatting and laughing with the child, the child tells happy and interesting things about school, and parents share their own experiences: when the child is sad, accompany him silently, give him a warm hug, and give him some comfort and guidance; when the child is happy, Listen patiently and share his happiness. Give your child the opportunity to talk, communicate effectively with your child, understand your child, understand your child, and get into your child's heart. Opening children's hearts and solving problems without education is the highest level of education.

? Some parents say that they are busy making money and want to give their children a better life. Have you ever heard of this story? A little boy asked his father how much he earned per hour. After knowing the answer, the child used his saved pocket money to buy his father's time, hoping that his father would play with him. After hearing this story, are we a little sad? What does the little boy tell us, is money the most important thing? Do you think children need money the most? What children need most is not money, but love and the company of their parents. Money is not the best wealth to give your children. Lin Zixu once said, "If my descendants are like me, what will they do with money? If they are virtuous and rich, it will harm their aspirations; if their descendants are not as good as me, what will they do with money? If they are stupid and rich, they will aggravate their faults." Companionship is The best gift for your children. Companionship is the best love, and love is the best education. Without love, there is no education: parents are the guides and coaches of their children. Their growth requires our companionship, our personal role models, and our attentive listening, tolerance, and respect. and understanding; in the companionship, use the milk of love to water the child's heart bit by bit, stimulate the child's love emotion, and let the child learn and learn to be grateful. As long as children always have a grateful heart, beautiful qualities such as warmth, confidence, firmness, kindness, etc. will inevitably flow from there.

We are not the richest parents, nor are we the best parents, but the best gift we can give our children is companionship! Let us accompany our children to grow up together, let them bathe in the sunshine of companionship, let the flowers of life burst out, and grow happily!