What about children arresting people in kindergartens?

Ning Bao scratched a little boy's face when he grabbed someone in kindergarten. What the kindergarten teacher said the next day, Ning Bao didn't tell me. I can't help telling me what's funny or what she did secretly. Why didn't she tell me this time? Maybe she thinks she did something wrong, and the consequences are more serious.

Before school was over, I immediately asked the teacher the cause and effect: it turned out that a little boy squeezed into Ningbao while sliding the slide, and she gave him a slap in the face. The teacher asked me to go home and talk to the children. If you have something to say, don't do it. I'm worried and want to come back and teach her a good lesson. But first, I want to apologize to the parents of the injured child. Father is very reasonable and keeps saying that it doesn't matter. The two children will be good friends next time.

Grandpa took Ning Bao home. She was holding a big kitty cat balloon in her hand, skipping happily and calling "Mom, I didn't cry today". Looking at her happy appearance, I swallowed the words on my lips again. "The baby is great and has improved." Kiss her and hug her. She sat on my lap with a balloon. "Mom, today we played games and played with sand!" "Are you? That's great. Did you make any good friends today? Who are you playing with? " I lead to the next topic.

I play with many children.

"Oh, really? Are they your good friends? "

No, XXX and I are good friends, not many.

"Oh, so that's it! Did something happen? "

"No."

All right, little guy, don't say anything. I am secretly worried. "I heard that you seem to have scratched a child's face, right?"

Hearing this, grandpa sat up at once. "You can't bully children. How can I scratch others! "

I was about to explain, but Ningbao stopped pressing himself. "Well, I scratched his face to get him up."

"If you want him to get up, you can talk to him well. Why do you have to get up when you talk?"

She simply admitted it, but she couldn't tell the cause and effect clearly.

"He's blocked."

Then you can tell him that it is wrong to do it.

"Why?"

"Because this is rude behavior. He will be very painful. "

"I have apologized to him. I told him I was sorry. "

"Did he cry? Did he forgive you? "

"I don't know. I told him I was sorry. "

Just apologize to the child who was injured because of her at the first time. However, the result of the behavior has been formed, and an apology afterwards often does not have a good effect.

I pulled her into the corner, looked her in the eye and said seriously, "You know you did something wrong, so it's good to apologize to him. But he must be in pain. This kind of pain can't be solved by your apology. "

I watched the child look at me timidly.

"Think about it, if someone else cuts your face, besides your pain, will mom and dad be very distressed?"

"Well, mom and dad cried, too."

"Yes, do the children's parents cry too?"

"Well, I was wrong, mom. I won't arrest him next time. " The child lowered his head and tugged at the corners of his clothes.

"Not only him, but also other children. If someone else is interfering with your behavior, you can try to talk to him. "

"Well, I'll take care of him."

I think after Ning Bao's arrest, she must have regretted it, otherwise it's not that good.

When she was young, she used to hit, bite and catch people at home. I know that biting is a manifestation of a child's teeth and oral development, and hitting is a manifestation of her self-awareness, perhaps to attract others' attention, perhaps to express her concern and even love for others. But this time she should not be for this reason, but simply defend and fight back.

As parents, we should not lose control of our emotions, let alone indulge our children when they are beating, biting or scratching. We should understand his emotions and punish his behavior.

First of all, we should characterize this behavior and tell him that it is wrong to do so. When talking to children, don't giggle, let alone glare at each other. Look into your child's eyes, and let your child look into your eyes and look at each other sincerely. The tone should be firm and the attitude can be softened.

Second, ask the child why he did it. Everything has a cause and effect, and there is no good or bad for no reason. His behavior hides his emotions. When he can't express it in words, he will act. You can tell your child that if you don't want to talk, you can try to pat the other person's arm.

Third, punish him for doing so. If the child has apologized to the party after the incident, the punishment can be changed to a slight form such as not eating snacks or watching TV; If he doesn't realize his problem, you can hold him in the corner and stand for a while.

If your child does hit or bite, and there is generally no reason, then parents should consider whether your behavior has inadvertently affected the child, or whether you have not given enough attention and love.

First of all, reflect on whether you are unfriendly and impolite to others in front of your children. If not, it may be that the child feels neglected.

Children want to attract the attention of others, regain the focus of their eyes, and express their need for love. Sometimes they use the opposite and extreme methods.

Reflecting on my previous understanding and education of children, I didn't give enough attention and guidance when I was 0 to 3 years old, and I didn't criticize and stop her from biting people at first. The old man still thought it was funny, which was a kind of acquiescence and connivance at that time. Later, I said it once, but I didn't give it a punishment. I thought children were too young to understand. Later, her behavior disappeared.

Until the day before kindergarten, I was once again reminded that every little thing and every subtle move of a child will affect her future development.

What we have to do is to find and guide children to learn to distinguish right from wrong in these little things, form self-control and obey order.