Someone said, "Don't help others with food when eating." what do you think?

In recent years, apart from toasting, there is generally no food in the dinner. The host will introduce the special dishes and local dishes to the guests and help them to use them at will. There are two situations. First, elders should eat rotten vegetables that can be eaten without teeth according to their preferences, or they are light and slightly sweet, or their eyes are not good, such as picking fishbones for elders, or peeling hairy crabs, and mixing crab roe with crab meat sweet and sour for elders to eat. Second, when I was a child, or my classmates invited me to dinner at home, I knew the root of the matter. Everyone must try the dishes that my wife cooked specially. One is intimacy, and the other is to let my parents know that my wife and I are United, and she understands and supports me. Students all know that my wife is a rational and decent person who can go to the hall and go to the kitchen.

Different people have different understandings and views on helping others to pick up food at the dinner table. Let's discuss it from different angles.

1. Let me talk about my recent experience. I happened to attend a party a few days ago. At that time, some of my classmates and some strangers pieced together a table. After all the dishes were served, everyone began to eat. Because the table is big, not a turntable table, everyone has dishes that are not easy to reach. During the dinner, people help each other with the dishes on their plates, and everyone knows that this is the best. But some people ate the food on the plate, some people didn't eat it, and I didn't eat it either. Because all the dishes are sandwiched by chopsticks that are eaten separately, and some chopsticks still have old food left on them, I really can't convince myself to stutter. Of course, there are also many people who don't care about this and eat with relish.

I am not a neat freak, but I also have normal hygiene requirements for my diet. Therefore, I have my own views on this matter. If it is a party, banquet, etc. I never take other people's food. Because I don't know if others will mind this matter from the health point of view, if you are kind enough to get involved, in case people mind, but they are embarrassed to refuse the kindness, and it's not that you don't eat it, it will make everyone embarrassed. Similarly, I don't like others to pick up food for me with their own chopsticks. If a person can't reach it, it's a big deal to change the position of the plate and make everyone eat more comfortably.

Of course, I don't mind everyone taking food. I don't mind if it's my family, such as parents, wife, children, and people closest to me. There should be some friends who have the same psychology as me. Parents don't mind their children, and children don't mind their parents. Not to mention, my wife is a person who is integrated with herself. She won't divide you and me, but cares about taking food. Of course, this is just my own idea, and some friends are completely concerned about the way others eat, no matter what their status or relationship.

It is neither polite nor selfish to help others with food. This is everyone's personal habit, and there is no need to exaggerate it to a high degree. Objectively speaking, it is mainly because people's living standards have improved, they have no worries about food and clothing, and they pay more and more attention to food. If you didn't even have enough to eat in the past, you wouldn't pay attention to these.

Don't help others with food while eating. I have the following views on this issue: First of all, people who help others with food generally occupy a certain position, such as elders and leaders. Picking vegetables for you represents the leading position. In my hometown, there was a custom of visiting in the first month ten years ago and relatives picking vegetables for you. Of course, many traditional customs have also changed with the continuous progress of the times. When I was a child, I went to my uncle's house, and my aunt brought us vegetables, all of which were bacon or chicken legs. At that time, I went to dinner as a guest in the first month. Usually, the host would put two pieces of meat in your bowl, and then we would put one of them back on the plate and eat the other. In the first month, when guests come to my house, my parents will also pick up food for relatives. Of course, we young people can't give them food That's against the rules. The eater plays the role of elder, protagonist and leader. As a junior, you can't do this. It's rude, just like everyone drinks together and you stand up and drink alone. This is very impolite. Who can help others with food? In today's society, I think only beautiful ladies can. Of course, you should also be careful. It can only be used to express your love. Don't just help others get food. It doesn't matter if all the food is young people. Everyone can come whenever he wants, but you should pay attention to helping the opposite sex and don't let others think that you love him. "Cai Jia" means respect, gratitude, filial piety, care and love. The young girl helped the boy take care of him. When I graduated from high school, I had dinner with my classmates in the village, and my classmate Xiaofang helped me with my meal. At that time, I always thought about the future road and ignored this key point. Now that I think about it, it's a pity, because I liked her very much at that time and always thought she liked me. And one day when she was eating, she only gave me a person to get food. I didn't find happiness around me. What a pity.

When eating, I hate helping others with food!

At the dinner table of China people, in order to show their hospitality or concern, they often help others with food, which I disagree with.

First of all, go out to eat now. If there are few people at the small table, you can reach for the food. Why do you need others to help you? There are many people at a table, so why should others help you!

Second, if you are friends, why are you so polite? He can eat whatever he wants. Why are you cleaning up the dishes? If you have just met someone, why do you pick up the plate? You know what they like.

Third, what you like is what others like? Maybe you think prawns are delicious and give them to others, but others have high blood acidity and are even allergic to seafood. If you give them to others, they will not eat them! It is impolite not to eat. If something goes wrong, you are responsible. Really, it's not necessary.

Fourth, at the dinner table, people sometimes ask for help, so they try to please others and try their best to help them with food. Whether people like it or not, they will help others with food. Too much attention is counterproductive. People like me will give them a word when they meet them, and they will be embarrassed.

Fifth, some exquisite chopsticks clips are clean and warm, but they are not troublesome, laborious and sometimes ungrateful. Some even use their own chopsticks. You're not sick. You have no hygiene at all.

Sixth, you only give one person a sandwich at the dinner table, which is basically a friend. Even if you give your lover a dish, you just treat others like nothing. Show love, go home and show off.

Not all I said was not picking vegetables. For example, when parents give food to young children, don't rotate the table to pick each other up, use public chopsticks! Or a dish that needs to be divided and so on. But don't cook some unnecessary food, what to eat is personal freedom.

Of course, after all I have said, you are still willing to help others, which is also your freedom.

It depends on the size of the dinner. If you eat with your close brothers and sisters, it doesn't hurt to give them food.

Never give others food at a big dinner. Near and far. Picking up food for others will make others look particularly uncomfortable. Let's talk in detail about the adverse effects of big meals on others:

First, it is unsanitary.

If you use your own chopsticks to pick up food for others, it will be very unsanitary. Chopsticks are stained with saliva, and taking food from other people's bowls will make people feel particularly disgusting. The baby at home has also warned the family not to chew things in their mouths for the baby, let alone give them to outsiders.

Second, embarrassment.

If you give someone a dish to eat and he doesn't like it, it's embarrassing 1. It's embarrassing for others to see someone not eating. 2. You are embarrassed when you look at it. It is inevitable that you two are close or friends. 3.

Third, communication is the main thing, supplemented by eating.

In fact, most people who have dinner come out to eat not for the theme of eating, but for celebration and communication, so it doesn't matter what you eat, so don't get caught in the middle. It is most important to communicate with others. You can eat whatever you want, regardless of others. At most, you can say a few words of greeting and invite others to eat more.

Therefore, when there is a big meal, you must be careful not to help others. If you don't do it well, you will be rejected. Be sure to pay attention

As the ancients said, food is the sky and food is the sky. Sometimes, if we miss the morning or noon meal, we will be scolded by our parents. Because family members are afraid that we will starve to death if we don't eat, and if a person is hungry, then his mental state will not be very good this day.

Although in ancient times, food was advocated, but now, people pay attention to eating or a lively. Many people will greet their friends warmly when they invite them to dinner, and they will also take the initiative to help people around them eat. But what many people don't notice is that helping others is also a kind of learning, and some people will think it is an act of caring for others.

But in fact, we should also consider the preferences of some people. Some people are very picky about their food, and their tastes may be very different from those of the public. Many people who eat vegetables don't necessarily know what others don't like to eat. If they don't like this dish, it is impolite not to eat it.

Tell me about a dinner experience of mine. I went back to my hometown years ago and just attended a banquet. At that time, some of my relatives and some strangers pieced together a table. After all the dishes were served, everyone began to eat. Because the table is big, not a turntable table, everyone has dishes that are not easy to reach. During the dinner, people help each other with the dishes on their plates, and everyone knows that this is the best. But some people ate the food on the plate, some people didn't eat it, and I didn't eat it either. Because all the dishes are sandwiched by chopsticks that are eaten separately, some chopsticks still have the previous dishes, so I really can't convince myself to eat. Of course, there are also many people who don't care about this and eat with relish.

So many people will eat food silently, but their mood may not be so good. Hospitality is the nature of many people, and helping others is also out of kindness, but sometimes, we should be careful. After all, everyone has different ideas. It is right to take care of others, but don't do bad things with kindness.

There are also normal hygiene requirements for eating. Therefore, I have my own views on this matter. If it is a party, banquet, etc. I never take other people's food. Because I don't know if others will mind this matter from the health point of view, if you are kind enough to get involved, in case people mind, but they are embarrassed to refuse the kindness, and it's not that you don't eat it, it will make everyone embarrassed. Similarly, I don't like others to pick up food for me with their own chopsticks. If a person can't reach it, it's a big deal to change the position of the plate and make everyone eat more comfortably.

Of course, I don't mind everyone taking food. I don't mind if it's my family, such as parents, husband, children, and people closest to me. There should be some friends who have the same psychology as me. Parents don't mind their children, and children don't mind their parents' husbands, not to mention people who are integrated with themselves, and they care about food regardless of you and me. Of course, this is just my own idea, and some friends are completely concerned about the way others eat, no matter what their status or relationship.

It's not polite or selfish to help others with food. This is everyone's personal habit, there is no need to exaggerate. Objectively speaking, it is mainly because people's living standards have improved, they have no worries about food and clothing, and they pay more and more attention to food. If you didn't even have enough to eat in the past, you wouldn't pay attention to these.

Conclusion: at the dinner table, whether to help others or accept others to help you cook is a matter of difference for everyone. It is also polite to help others with food, but not helping others with food does not mean selfishness. Everyone should respect the living habits of others while consciously.

No food, no wine. This is the most basic business etiquette, but also the most basic politeness problem.

Respect for others means respect for yourself.

Using chopsticks and spoons at the dining table has gradually become a habit.

In fact, in the past, it meant "hospitality", which made the host more enthusiastic.

But it will also produce two embarrassing things;

1. The guests may not like this dish, but they have to eat it under the hospitality of the host.

2. If the host uses his chopsticks to pick up food for the guest, it will arouse the guest's disgust.

Therefore, with the development of the times, we pay more and more attention to personal hygiene, and we are more and more resistant to such things as "helping others with food". Using chopsticks and spoons at the dining table has gradually become a habit.

The food and drink are the same.

Not to mention going out to eat, our family began to eat with public chopsticks a few years ago.

If we eat at my parents' house, our meals and meals are divided in advance: my parents eat one and we eat one.

This decision was made by my mother.

My father had a bad lung a few years ago and was hospitalized several times. Every time I go to the hospital to see him or bring him food, my mother will quickly kick me out.

When my father was discharged from the hospital, my mother began to divide the dishes.

Respect for others means respect for yourself.

"When eating, don't give others food", which is the abandonment of the old dining etiquette by the progress of human civilization! It is not only a respect for guests' eating habits, but also a requirement of the new concept of catering hygiene!

Giving people food is a traditional dining custom, a love for the younger generation, and a respect for the elders or superiors! The host treats you with food as a sign of hospitality!

In normal business dining and family and friends gathering, we should advocate separate dining system, at least don't show concern or respect by picking up food for others! This is the basic respect for people's eating habits! We can raise our glasses (we can't drink-tea instead of wine) to express our thanks or blessings to each other!

If there are elders, younger generations, or patients with limited mobility when eating, you should take the initiative to help people with chopsticks!

After the infection in COVID-19 this year, are you sure you can accept others to get food for you? Advocate the practice of separate meals! Let's have a civilized meal and live a healthy life! !

That's a good question

First of all, I have this habit, but my wife has always disapproved of my habit.

Although there are public chopsticks on the dining table, now people have higher standards and pay more attention to eating, and their vision and taste buds have a higher level of room for improvement.

Besides, in the matter of picking vegetables, it is really necessary to be good at what you mean, watch what you say and watch what you do, and enough is enough. It is important to have a good proper limit, and it is also important to master the skills.

As we live in a country of etiquette, it seems to be in line with tradition to help others at the dinner table. However, in today's society, interpersonal relationships are more complicated. If you help others with food, then the other person may not have a good relationship with you to a certain extent, and people will have doubts. Are you flattering me? Do you want anything from him? I will worry in my heart that the relationship is not so in place! You will feel uncomfortable. In addition, do you use your own chopsticks or public chopsticks to pick up food for others? Male chopsticks are better. If it is your own chopsticks, others are embarrassed to refuse, but out of concern for personal hygiene, they don't want to eat your food. They are in a dilemma!