My sister-in-law bought skin care products for her birthday. My mother's words ended my seven-year marriage. Why?

Marriage is a matter for two people, but it is also the most worrying thing for the elderly on both sides, because they all look forward to the happiness of their children. However, when the marriage has gone for three, seven, ten or even many years, once one party has problems, it is difficult to continue to operate. Ms. Xu has a knot in her heart and doesn't want to believe that her marriage with her husband didn't last seven years. What's going on here?

Ms. Xu said:

My name is Xu Lan. Before I married my husband Li He, my mother told me that this man's future marriage life might be very difficult and I wouldn't be very happy. So, for this man I like, I often disagree with my mother. I said that my mother is biased against him, but any Lee is an unreliable person unilaterally. The main reason is that Li He has no parents and was brought up by his grandfather. Actually, I can understand my mother.

But when I was young, my academic performance was not good, and I entered the society at a young age. After all, I didn't go to school well, so I had to enter the society early and earn money. These are all life experiences. My mother didn't stop me, so I had to respect myself. Just don't believe what others say. At a young age, I make a living in society. I have been a waiter, a casual worker and a factory worker. Basically, before meeting Li He.

Li He and I were an accident. Our two electric cars collided. I was only 265,438+0 years old that year. Facing the handsome Li He, I have a warm heart feeling. At that time we met by chance and gradually became friends and lovers. When I took Li He to see my family for the first time, my brother didn't make any noise. I just said what I thought. I can see that Li He is very kind to me, because sometimes I don't care about my work.

Then my mother told me to contact for a few more years and not to make a decision so quickly. Later, my mother would tell me privately that Li He was unreliable and told me to be cautious. I told my mother that Li He was very kind to me. He has been very motivated recently and has his own ideas. My mother didn't say anything when I insisted. Not long after, I got pregnant unexpectedly, which made me lose my mind. I'm afraid my mother will scold me to death.

Later, I married Li He, and we rented a house because we had no money. I'm pregnant and basically don't work. In the meantime, Li He is doing his career, and I am taken care of by my mother. /kloc-pregnant in October, gave birth to a daughter, very cute. I was particularly able to understand my mother's heart. Since I gave birth to my daughter, Li He seems to have changed his temperament. He often quarrels with me because of things that are not satisfactory, saying that I don't understand him.

In order to lighten Li He's burden, I left my child in the care of my mother, and I also went to work. In my first year of work, it was ok and basically stable. When Li He's career is always ups and downs, we often quarrel, especially when the children go to kindergarten. In order to pay the children's lunch fee, we also had a big fight with the school teacher, saying that there would be no lunch fee after paying the tuition fee. When I said he didn't understand, he said I did.

In this way, we often quarrel. At first, he knew how to lie to me, and then the cold war broke out. In the meantime, my brother also married my sister-in-law. Fortunately, my sister-in-law doesn't care about my mother taking care of my daughter, and often buys delicious food and clothes for my children. This year happens to be the seventh year. Usually I think my sister-in-law can tolerate me. I just got paid, and I plan to buy a set of affordable skin care products for my sister-in-law, so I want to give it to her on my birthday.

On my sister-in-law's birthday, my mother didn't help me pick up the children because I was cooking at home. After picking up the children, I'm going to my mother's house for dinner, because we live in a bungalow and the door is not closed most of the time. I asked the children to wash their hands outside, so I was going to give the skin care products to my sister-in-law. When I went to the living room, I heard my sister-in-law tell my mother that light light blue was unlucky, and Li He had someone else outside, so my mother said.

Hearing what my mother said, I dropped something in my hand. It turned out that my sister-in-law saw Li He with another woman in the field. In order not to let me know, I discussed it with my mother first. After listening, I didn't eat. Unexpectedly, our marriage didn't last seven years, so I went home. Anyway, there was no house dispute, so I filed for divorce with Li He and didn't want to continue.

Conclusion: A man who has an extramarital affair is nothing more than hurting his wife and children. But Xu Lan made a rational choice, not because there was no evidence, but because the long-term marital quarrel had led to depression. If you continue to tolerate this behavior of your husband, you will only find fault with yourself in the future. Divorce may be the best choice. Therefore, in marriage, both men and women must not have extramarital affairs, because it is unacceptable to anyone, even if it is accepted.