Five human weaknesses recognized from girlfriends

Just now, I deleted my best friend for 20 years At that moment, I felt our relationship was completely out of balance. More and more things have happened, and I don't know which one has become the last straw to crush our feelings. I suddenly realized that I was just a tool for her. I declare that from now on, I am no longer the boring object of others, the trash can for receiving negative emotions, the supply station for emotional value and the tool for solving troubles!

Many things are really hard to say. Looking back on the past twenty years, there are indeed many things that are worthless. When a friendship ends, people who pay more often feel more heartbroken. I don't think she feels anything. Listen to me.

If you find that your best friend has the following characteristics, please stay away from her as soon as possible.

She usually chats with me every day, whether I am at work or not. But she seldom outputs the substance when chatting, and I basically output it. The following details:

Generally, my other friends talk normally when they have something to do, not very often, and they will never chat. They will only get information from each other and will take the initiative to talk about themselves. I always thought it was a good relationship that she talked to me every day. )

But she seldom replies to me, sometimes she doesn't reply at all. When I asked her, "What about you?" Her answer is always "playing mobile phone". I haven't thought about it for so long before. After all, she comes to see me every day and is used to talking. Occasionally, when she doesn't talk for a day, I will ask her "What are you doing", but her response is rarely cold, so I don't ask her again. Thinking that she doesn't like answering questions, she asks me three or four times a day. What you don't want is always done to others.

She usually writes. Maybe she got some inspiration from me? I don't know.

So I often give her a bunch of replies, but she rarely reveals her situation.

Until something happened, I found that she was not so warm-hearted to me. Later, I figured out why she always replied "playing with her mobile phone", because she only thought of me when she was bored, and I always satisfied her curiosity. However, when she has something, she will not share it with me. In other words, I am just a pastime when she is bored! A trash can to vent your emotions!

But she didn't think that as her friend, I also need positive energy, and I hope my friends can share more happy things with me.

Before she asked me to accompany her, I was a little distant because I was too busy to go. It was not until recently that I found that she came to me to solve more and more problems, and every time she helped her solve them, there was no feedback, and I suddenly realized.

For example, if you ask me where to use the office software today and what computer to buy tomorrow, she won't tell me when she buys it, and she won't operate it if she keeps asking me if I accept it. Don't tell me when it will be finished unless I ask her. These moments make me feel like I'm just her tool.

My other friends, when I give others some useful and good Amway channels, others will give me a feedback happily, such as "finally bought it" and describe their feelings, but she won't. Every time she asks me for an answer, she does it silently and doesn't tell me. For example, once she was cheated of money, I called her to solve it. Later, someone returned the money to her without telling me, so I had to ask, "Did you return the money?" Before you tell me.

For example, she usually praises my good maintenance and asks me what skin care products I use. After I told her, she asked me how long I had used it, and then said that she had been using it, and she didn't even remember herself. Actually, I told her. Not only for use, but also always asking me what's wrong and what to eat for health, as if I were human flesh.

There are many such things. In retrospect, she really didn't tell me any useful information.

She will always do this and get the information she wants from others without feedback. Always trying to absorb the essence from others. This is really disappointing.

I don't know that friends need to be grateful to each other. When I make friends, I am afraid that I will not bring enough to others, and I always don't want to bother others.

The thing is, we are not in a province this year. I finally got home on May Day and needed to be with my family. She suddenly had something on May Day and asked me to drive with her all day. When ordinary friends come to play, I will let her stay at my house in advance, and then drive her the next day, and warmly leave her for dinner and stay at home. Because I can't go, she asked us to go with her friend A, and A also needs to do something to get together. A usually doesn't contact our friends very much, just lives brightly in our circle of friends, and praises her when she sees it.

Because she usually chats with me every day, she suddenly stopped talking the day she came over, so I took the initiative to ask her about it. I didn't expect her reply to be unusually cold. There is only one "yes" and nothing else. Later, when she encountered difficulties in her work, she began to vomit her situation and her anxiety, but I could feel from her words that she had a problem with me and blamed me for not accompanying her.

I explained to her before that I couldn't go because of something at home, and she didn't think I was tired of running back and forth between the two places. Don't I want to be with my family? Besides, I met her once a month ago, but I haven't seen my family yet. Friend a was only with her on her own time, and she went home early after doing her own thing. She was not invited to cook for her at home. But she will always praise A. It used to be because of me. Every time I can get everyone together, only I cook for my friends.

If it were me and my friend couldn't accompany me, I would take the initiative not to disturb others, but she didn't have this empathy.

Later, I learned that she was just wasting me. She would come to me when she needed me, wasting our friendship. She will not put herself in the shoes, asking too little of herself and too much of others in her friendship.

Since I graduated from college, my best friend has been at home for physical reasons, and our two families are close. I still remember the time when she was recuperating at home. Every time I go home to find her, I bring her food. For example, when I go to the supermarket to buy snacks for her, or when I bring Zhou Heiya home, I will give her a box by the way, or I will bring her two sausages that we all like to eat in high school when I pass by, and give them to her when I pass by her house. Even if I meet her and her cousin in the street, I will treat her well, even her cousin. In the middle, she wanted to start looking for a job again, and I helped her.

Although I am not in a city, I have been renting a house since I graduated from college, changed my job and moved to a rented house several times, and then I have my own cabin and a small married family. I warmly invited her to my house and cooked for her every chance I got. I have been to her house so many times, and I have never seen her give me snacks.

Speaking of our friend A, she and I are recognized ladies in the same city. Everyone praises her family happiness, but she never takes the initiative to contact everyone. On the contrary, I always invite my good friend to my house, cook for her and let her live at home. Everyone has a family, and others have done nothing but become the goddess in everyone's mouth. She always has nothing but praise for A. This kind of praise is like, for example, we all sent a circle of friends, but she only praised A. I sent it, and she pretended not to see it. And the thing mentioned earlier, A certainly didn't invite her home for dinner. She still only praises a.

People who really work for their friends like me can't get along. She can't see clearly I just want to ask, why don't you chat with A every day? Why don't you come to me when you are in trouble?

She was in poor health before, and I gave her all kinds of care and emotional attention. Then I got sick, and she was the kind of person who asked questions to satisfy her curiosity. Everyone is in their early thirties, and she doesn't even have the basic knowledge of some diseases. In turn, I have to give her popular science and explain how I got it and how to recover it. Obviously, I don't even have the idea of knowing each other's illness for my friend Baidu. Until now, I'm tired. For example, she told me that she had a fever, and I said that I also had a fever, and then it was gone. Sure enough, she won't talk about many solutions like me and have a good rest.

I'm here, and there are many things. I have no strength to vomit, that's all. All good things must come to an end. People really can't get too close.

Maybe someone will ask me, why can you persist for so long after all this? In fact, I have been thinking about the old mutual affection. After all, she was very kind to me at school. But that was only then, more than ten years later.

Those days when I didn't contact her, I felt very fulfilled, because I saved a lot of meaningless chat time. I believe that she has started to do her own thing seriously, and I hope she will be all right.