Tell me about your complex.

Complex is a psychological term, which refers to a group of important unconscious combinations, or a strong unconscious impulse hidden in a person's mysterious psychological state. To put it simply, it is a deep feeling of attachment or yearning for things buried in the deep heart.

"Complexity" is divided into: emotion+knot. Emotion represents stories, plots and emotions; Knot means to tie a knot, which means to be blocked.

Chikuni, a western psychologist, has done many interesting experiments and found that it is easy for ordinary people to forget what they have accomplished and what they have achieved, but they always remember what they have been interrupted, unfinished and failed to achieve.

For example, most of the beautiful moments and scenes in unsuccessful first love are deeply imprinted in lovers' minds, making them unforgettable for life and becoming their first love complex.

For example, if you are forced to stop in the middle of eating, urinating or having sex, you will feel uncomfortable and keep thinking.

When I was very young (three or four years old? My uncle lives next door. They have a relative, a little sister a few years older than me, who often goes to their house to play. One winter morning, it was snowing outside, and I was sleepy in bed. Dressed warmly, she ran to my bed and talked and laughed with my mother, but I didn't know what she said. I only remember that she smiled and fed me a candy. Maybe it's the first time I like the opposite sex in my life. I don't know what it felt like, but it was warm, and I still remember it until now.

I have long forgotten what that little sister looks like, and I don't know her name. I have never seen her since. I once wanted to ask my parents about her, but I didn't know how to describe it, so I just dropped it. The only thing I can remember is that one winter morning, she dressed warmly and skipped to my house. Just after waking up, she smiled and fed me a candy. Only the beginning, no following, let me often recall.

There is also a childhood complex that has been lingering in my heart. When I was about six or seven years old, I had an old fairy tale book at home. I don't know where it came from and there is no cover, so I don't know the title. I have read this book over and over again many times, but I still remember some stories. For example, there is a story that personifies red blood cells, white blood cells and platelets, and tells the respective functions of these cells (when you talk about relevant knowledge in junior high school, you get the message completely). When I was a child, I didn't have many books to read. I read almost all the words in my family, although I didn't know many words at that time. This fairy tale book should be my first reading, but unfortunately it disappeared without company for a long time.

Later, every time I cleaned up at home, I would look for this thing on purpose. Because there is no title and I don't know how to describe it to adults, it always ends without results. Later, when I was a little older, my classmates would buy fairy tales. I have read such classics as Andersen's Fairy Tales and Grimm's Fairy Tales, but I feel that the stories in these books are extremely retarded, far less than my magic fairy tale book without cover. After a long time, every time I entered the bookstore, I would search in the fairy tale area to see if I could get the book back, but the miracle never happened. So this book became a complex for me, a very important and special complex, which suddenly appeared in my childhood and brought me endless happiness. When I was still unfinished, I suddenly disappeared, which deeply moved me.

Past experiences have left us with one complex after another, some of which have troubled us and even seriously affected our mental health. For example, some people will have nightmares about the college entrance examination even after graduating from college. In their dreams, they will find that their exam questions have not been finished, or they have not started preparing for a course, and they will fall into anxiety. Some people have been sexually assaulted in childhood and adolescence, and they have been forbearing to tell the outside world, suppressing them in their hearts and forming psychological shadows.

The pursuit and release of desire is a plot. This story will produce a process over time, and the completion of this process means the end of the story, which means perfection and self-satisfaction. If this process is only partially carried out, it means lack and it is difficult for people to satisfy themselves.

Let your mind be as free as the wind. If your mind is free, your desire flow will go on more easily. For example, when you want to cry, do you have the freedom to cry?

In China, men don't cry easily. They regard crying as a shameful thing, so the desire to cry can only be suppressed. Military personnel were cheated of 2 million yuan. His wife left him, and it was difficult to start a business. Strong, he brought Huawei enterprises to the road of success, but also successfully made himself suffer from depression. He had to fight the idea of suicide for a long time.

Why do children have the freedom to cry? Why do women have freedom to cry?

Emotions need to be vented. There are many ways to vent, such as talking, writing, crying and scolding ... For the above example, you can write out your nightmare of the college entrance examination in detail and end the story by writing, which will completely solve the problem.

Looking back on the first half of your life, what things bothered you that were interrupted, unfinished and failed to achieve your goals? What emotions are suppressed in the deep heart, but not released?