My mother-in-law is partial to my sister-in-law, and my heart is so tired. How should I face it?

Probably because my family is in the countryside and the conditions are not very good. My mother-in-law didn't like me very much before she got married. Sister-in-law's home is in the city, and the conditions are better. My sister-in-law never does housework, but my mother-in-law does it alone. After we got married, all the housework seemed to fall on me. I feel uncomfortable cooking and washing dishes at home after marriage, but there is no complaint. I also want to change my mother-in-law's view of me through my own performance.

Now I'm going to be pregnant, but my mother-in-law told me seriously that she is old and in poor health, and she won't help me if she has children. This makes me feel very chilling, because my husband has a brother and my nephew is three years old. Before that, he had been brought up by his mother-in-law. Now it is really hard for my husband and I to accept such words. It's really hard for me to accept that my mother-in-law is so partial to my sister-in-law. I'm going to stay at my mother's house for a while. I really don't know how to please my mother-in-law How to continue in the future?

Teacher Duan replied:

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult and biased against you. It is no use trying to please her. Family members don't need to be particularly flattering, and they can be their true selves in the future. Of course, they should respect her and respect her, but they don't need to do anything deliberately. You can totally move out with your husband. Moving out may ease the conflict between you and your mother-in-law. If you suddenly move out and your mother-in-law goes back to do housework, she will miss you.

The most important thing is my husband's support. Don't be disappointed in future. After all, there is still a long way to go. Have an optimistic attitude, and you will have unexpected gains.