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How to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a chronic disease for thousands of years. Few people can get along like mother and daughter, but the life of son-in-law and daughter-in-law is very different, which is also related to the preference for sons over daughters. Since ancient times, women have been in a weak position.

Why is this happening? As a woman, as long as she knows the reason, she will know how to deal with it and try to avoid touching sensitive "fuses" and triggering "wars".

First, most mothers-in-law look at their daughters-in-law with prejudice. As the saying goes, "The more you look at your daughter-in-law, the angrier you get." That's because she doesn't treat you as her child, but only as a free nanny (servant) to help her carry on her son's family line. If you don't have a son, then ignore it (even if it's not your call), which is even worse for her eyes and her daughter-in-law. Although she is also a woman, she went through a difficult process of being a daughter-in-law, and finally had to wear a mother-in-law mask to treat her daughter-in-law under the influence of old ideas, forming a vicious circle, which was passed down from generation to generation.

Second, the in-laws treat their son-in-law like their own son (half son-in-law). As the saying goes, "The more a mother-in-law looks at her son-in-law, the happier she is." That's because she regards her son-in-law as "heaven" (a mountain) and is the future support of her daughter. Being kind to the son-in-law is to be kind to the daughter in the future, and it is the only one. I don't want the son-in-law to spread all over the world.

Between the above two reasons, as a woman, in two equal roles (daughter and daughter-in-law), the status and feelings are absolutely different. When you want to be a daughter-in-law, all the performances and enjoyment at your mother's place should be sealed in a sealed bag. You should turn yourself into an "adult" and do what a mature woman says, so from now on you should be like an actor in your mother's place. In your mother-in-law's place, you should listen to her teachings, blame, criticize and do as you say, or you will be miserable.

1. Try to talk less, watch more and do more at my mother-in-law's house.

2. Try to act according to your in-laws' wishes.

If your in-laws misunderstand you (even if it's not your fault), you can only accept it at that time. If your husband is reasonable, he will explain.

When shopping, you must consider the feelings of your in-laws, and don't let them think that you are a "black sheep" who only knows how to enjoy life.

5. When buying gifts for your in-laws, you must be active, generous and honest (and your husband is not embarrassed). Things must be better, and you can't express unhappiness.

6. Don't take the initiative to say what you want to give your parents, even if it is polite, let your husband come forward. If your in-laws give advice to your in-laws, you should refuse or lower the value of their advice, so that they don't think you are "eating inside and crawling outside".

7. Even if you are wronged, don't tell your parents unless you have to. In short, give parents good news as much as possible without worrying. First, don't let your parents worry about you. Second, if your parents are involved, it will be even worse, and the future will be even more sad. In short, from the day you become a daughter-in-law, you must learn to handle everything by yourself in your husband's family. It's not easy to support you by your parents. Don't let them pay for your mistakes in the second half.

8. You should go to the kitchen as much as possible, take care of your in-laws, husbands and children (if you have a son, your status will be higher), and manage the life of your family.

9. You should not only learn to earn money, but also take good care of your husband, especially like your son, so that your mother-in-law will feel that her son has not been wronged (she will not care if she is wronged) and you will have peace.

10, try to reduce the "war" between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and don't make her husband angry about splint. Everyone is fine, so will you.

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Of course, it is difficult for an honest official to break housework, and every family has its own problems. We should handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law flexibly according to the situation of each family, as long as we are conscientious, not picky and have a clear conscience.