How to eliminate fear?

Fear is one of the biggest problems in life. A fearful heart is usually confused and contradictory, so it will inevitably become violent, distorted and full of aggression, but it has no courage to break away from the old thinking mode, so it becomes extremely hypocritical. Unless we are completely free from fear, we can only continue to pursue the highest goal and create all kinds of gods to save us from darkness.

We live in such a corrupt and stupid society, and the education we received from childhood is to encourage competition and create fear. Therefore, we are all burdened with inexplicable fears. It is this terrible thing that makes our days perverse, distorted and gloomy.

Physical fear is a natural reaction inherited from animal nature. What we are talking about here is psychological fear. Only by understanding the deep-rooted psychological fear can we deal with animal fear; On the other hand, if we discuss animal fears first, we will not be able to help us understand psychological fears.

Fear is by no means abstract. Our fears are usually related to something. Do you know your fear? Fear of losing your job, food, clothes, money, comments from neighbors or the public, lack of achievement, loss of social status, ridicule and discrimination, pain and illness, fear of being controlled, fear of not loving and being loved, fear of losing your wife and children, fear of death, fear of living like a walking corpse, fear of loneliness and boredom, fear of disappointing others' expectations of you, and loss of faith. So, you know what you're afraid of? How do you usually handle it? You just want to escape, don't you? Or invent some ideas and images to cover it up. However, the more you try to escape, the more you encourage the power of fear.

One of the main reasons for fear is that we are unwilling to face the facts. Therefore, in addition to understanding the psychological process of fear, we should also review our self-escape network. If the mind, including the brain, just tries to overcome fear blindly, and uses various methods of repression, exercise, control and misinterpretation, it will inevitably produce friction and struggle, and it is these struggling activities that dissipate our vitality.

First of all, we should ask ourselves, what is fear? Where did it come from? What exactly does the word fear mean? What I want to ask is what is fear? It's not what we're afraid of.

I live a certain life, I have a certain mode of thinking, I believe in certain beliefs and dogmas, and I have taken root in them, so I don't want this mode of existence to be disrupted, because any change will make people enter an unknown situation, and I don't like that taste. If you want to keep me away from things and beliefs I know well, at least I should have some confidence in where I am going. It can be seen that our brain cells have established a pattern and they refuse to recreate another uncertain pattern. When they are sure, they become uncertain, and the so-called fear arises.

I'm sitting here at the moment, and I'm not afraid. Now, everything is calm and there is nothing to be afraid of. No one threatened me, and no one tried to rob me. But behind this moment, I am deeply worried about what may happen in the future, or that what happened in the past will come back. So, what I am afraid of is the past and the future. It is precisely because I divide time into the past and the future that my thoughts take the opportunity to remind me: "Be careful, don't let it happen again." Or "you should take precautions, there may be a crisis in the future. Although you have something now, you are likely to lose it in the future." Maybe you will die tomorrow, maybe your wife will abandon you, maybe you will lose your job, maybe you will never be famous, maybe you will become very lonely, so you'd better make more preparations for tomorrow. "

Now, find your unique fear pattern and face it. Pay attention to your reaction and see if you can face it, not escape, not excuse, not condemn, not suppress. Can you face fear without adding any words that cause it? For example, can you stare at death without adding any words that make you afraid of death? The word itself will bring fear, and even the word "love" will cause special fear images. Now, please pay attention to the image of death in your heart, all kinds of memories of death you see, and your relationship with those events. Are these images creating fear? Or are you really afraid of ending your life, not the imagined ending? What scares you is the word death or the real ending? If only words or images make you afraid, it is not really afraid.

For example, you had a serious illness two years ago, and you still remember the pain of that illness. This memory will say to you, "Be careful, don't get sick again!" " "So memory and its association began to produce fear. It's not really fear, because you are healthy at the moment. Thought is always old, which is the reaction of memory, and memory is always a thing of the past. Ideas always produce an unrealistic fear, but in fact, you are excellent, but the experiences in your mind will form memories, and then constantly arouse "Be careful! Don't get sick again.

It can be seen that fear is caused by thoughts. So, besides this fear, are there other forms of fear? We may be afraid of death-something that will happen naturally tomorrow, the day after tomorrow or when the time comes. There is a gap between the specific facts and what may happen in the future. However, as soon as the thought observes death, it will say according to this experience; "I will die, too." This idea brings the fear of death. If not, are there any other fears?

Is fear really caused by thoughts? If so, since the idea is old, then fear should also be old. As we have discussed, when we realize it, it is already old. Therefore, there is no so-called "new idea". Although the fears of the past will be reflected in the future, in fact, we are just afraid of repeating the past. Therefore, it is considered as the root of fear, for the simple reason. You might as well observe for yourself. When you concentrate on dealing with a crisis, you have no fear. When thoughts come together, fear comes from your heart.

Therefore, we must ask ourselves now, can the human heart survive completely at present? Only in this state of mind can fear arise. To understand this state deeply, we must first understand the structure of thought, memory and time. This understanding does not come from reason or words, but from the heart, from the heart, and then you can get rid of fear, and then our hearts can think freely without fear.