How can I enlighten my mother when my father is cheating? After my father cheated on me,

It's been raining these days, and it feels like autumn has passed through to winter before it's over. In the afternoon, fans shared a story with me. In marriage, the man's infidelity hurts family members the most.

The following is Xiaodong's private prosecution. I arranged it according to your reading schedule.

Grandma has gone home. She didn't close her eyes until she saw my sister and me. Grandma's life is really too hard. Grandma suffered a lot for my unworthy father all her life.

The derailed son left her a pair of young grandchildren. Grandma, who should have enjoyed her old age, resolutely shouldered the heavy responsibility of raising children and supported a family with thin shoulders.

Grandma said before she died that she hoped we would bury her next to her mother. Grandma is a good mother-in-law. When her mother was alive, they were like mother and daughter.

Now mom and grandma are buried alone in the back hill of their hometown. Grandma's departure seems to have cut off our connection with our hometown, and no grandma cares about us anymore.

Grandma walked calmly without any pain. Everyone in the village said it was grandma's blessing, and leaving with peace of mind was the best destination for the elderly.

After grandma's funeral, my sister and I hugged and cried. Grandma's life is too hard. I hope more sugar can be added to Meng Po's soup, and grandma can enjoy a happy life in the next life.

Everything in my hometown seems to have not changed, and it seems that everything has changed. The yard that was busy in those days is now overgrown with weeds. When my sister was born, the pomegranate tree planted by my grandmother had grown very tall, but unfortunately no one picked the fruit anymore.

When the wind blows, the past is like a movie, and scenes are played back in my mind.

In the impression of marriage with unsynchronized thoughts, dad is a very gentle person. He doesn't have rough skin like other rural men, and he doesn't work in the fields every day like them.

He likes to copy the classic plots in Jin Yong's novels with his notebook and watch Qiong Yao's plays. Dad's handwriting is very good, and he can even write some simple poems. Although I only have a junior high school diploma, my father reads books when he is free, so he is more opinionated than the people around him. He fantasized about how beautiful the outside world was.

Compared with dad's gentleness, mom looks rough. Dad seldom works in the fields, and all the work in the family is on his mother. When cutting rice in autumn, my mother called my sister and me back to my parents' house to find my uncle. The four Zhuang uncles finished it quickly, and when they left, they filled the water tank and strengthened the roof. The most diligent uncle even cleaned the cesspit!

My mother has a crush on my father, but my grandfather doesn't agree. What should I do in my future life if I marry a gentle man who can only read and write? But my mother just likes my father, and he is handsome and elegant.

I can't beat my mother, but my grandfather agreed to this marriage.

My father thinks my mother is a good worker and is full of admiration for him. He will not be forced to work in the fields, nor will he be asked to dig a dung vat like his mother!

Although they didn't get along and got what they needed, they came together smoothly.

Dad doesn't want us. Mom really suffered a lot after she got married. I seldom did heavy work at home before, because my four brothers loved her very much and my sister-in-law loved her very much. My mother leads a very comfortable life at home.

After being with my father, my mother began to work in the fields with my grandmother. Grandma always forced her father to go to the fields, but he avoided it for various reasons. My mother loves my father wholeheartedly, and she has assumed the responsibility of being a man in the family.

I thought life would go on like this, and my sister and I began to grow up slowly.

But I didn't expect dad to leave without saying goodbye! Dad's departure was a devastating blow to us. At that time, my sister and I were both in primary school, and we couldn't understand the feelings between adults.

Later, I learned that my father found a woman outside. The woman asked him to go south to Guangzhou to pursue a romantic and exciting life together.

Dad didn't want to be trapped in a small village, but he couldn't find anyone to leave with. Now someone is in sync with her thoughts, and he left without hesitation.

A big man in his early 30 s went out to "wander the rivers and lakes" with the only savings at home, regardless of his wife and children. Dad left before winter came. I remember that we survived with the help of grandpa that winter.

I will still dream about the afternoon when my father left until a long time later. Tears wet the pillow after waking up. I hope dad didn't leave.

Mom lives in self-blame, and dad's departure keeps mom living in self-blame. It is said that whoever loves more in marriage will get hurt, and mom is the one who loves more!

She put all the responsibility on herself. Mom hates that she only has a primary school diploma, hates that she can't understand costume dramas, and hates that she is black and doesn't deserve her father.

Seeing her mother languishing day by day, several uncles scraped together some money to find her father. But the vast sea of people, where to find. Finally, the money was spent and people didn't get it back.

My mother died a few years later. When she left, she was as thin as a bone.

Grandma took care of our mother and always said sorry to her when she left. She said she couldn't stand it, couldn't be filial to her grandmother and couldn't grow up with us.

Grandma comforts her mother and will take good care of us. No one mentioned dad, but everyone knows that dad caused mom to leave at a young age.

Grandma took on the responsibility of the family. In that remote village, grandma took us to make a living.

In the past, the most amiable grandmother began to be provocative and haggle over every ounce. I didn't know until I grew up that grandma just didn't want others to bully us. In the countryside, there are no men at home, so it is easy to be bullied.

Because of my father, my sister and I became the objects of ridicule at school. They secretly hid my exercise book so that I couldn't hand in my homework. The teacher was in charge of many students at that time. When I complained to her, she actually told me why the students only hid your exercise books.

At that time, I first felt the harm caused by campus violence. I began to resist going to school. My sister has a hard time, too. Male students pull her pigtails, while female students crowd her out.

Grandma went to the headmaster and teacher, bullied our classmates for a while, and then began to harass us in disguise in a few days.

In order to protect my sister and me, grandma set up a stall at the school gate to sell kebabs. With grandma guarding us at the door, those people will never bully us again.

Life is hard. Selling fried skewers at the school gate, the income is not fixed. Sometimes more, sometimes less. In order to make my sister and I pay tuition and miscellaneous fees on time, my grandmother has the cheek to take living expenses from her son. Although I suffered from my daughter-in-law's cold eyes, at least I got the money.

It's very cold in winter in the north, so we close the door as soon as it gets dark. Other children can also wander around, because we seldom go out, because there is no father to pick us up. The charcoal fire for heating was brought by my grandfather, as well as bacon and potatoes. Thick clothes and quilts are bought by uncles and aunts.

I still remember the scene where my grandparents and grandchildren crowded together. Television is black and white, so we seldom watch it to save electricity. At that time, all the popular TV dramas were watched by neighbors, but the difference was that they had already bought color TVs.

At that time, my sister and I were both growing up, and grandma was trying to make up for her health. The boss who sells pork feels sorry for us and often gives us pig heart, pig lung and pig fat. These pigs, which are rarely eaten by others, have become extremely delicious with the blessing of grandma's superb cooking skills. Pork heart and lung soup with sauerkraut, drink a bowl, this person is warm.

Lard is also very fragrant, and the boiled oil residue can also be used for cooking. Add a spoonful of lard when cooking vegetable soup, which is better than bone soup!

We have grown up and grandma is old. I don't know when to start. Grandma walks more and more slowly. My sister and I were admitted to key high schools, and grandma gave us living expenses on time every week. Tuition and miscellaneous fees are given by my grandfather, and other daily necessities are bought by my aunt. The school will also give us subsidies.

My sister and I walked all the way from the countryside to the city under the protection of my grandmother. My sister graduated from college and passed the exam, and I also passed the exam as a graduate student.

At the same time, dad came back. He has a bad life outside. According to what I saw on TV, it is difficult to live outside. Dad came back because he found cancer. The thought of returning the fallen leaves to the roots drove him home, but he didn't expect that his mother died soon after he left.

Dad cried at his mother's grave for a long time. But neither my sister nor I want my mother to meet my father in the next life. My mother deserves better.

In recent years, grandma never mentioned dad in front of us for fear that we would be sad. But dad is her own son after all, and his willfulness hurts grandma's heart. Grandma blamed herself for not disciplining her father well. Grandma often apologizes to her grandparents for not enlightening her mother.

Who has the heart to criticize such a poor old man whose grandmother has eaten all the hardships of life?

Dad walks in front of grandma. He didn't choose to be buried beside his mother. He was afraid to face her.

After dad left, grandma always hid from crying. This son let her down and made her life in her later years impossible to guarantee. But she is still very sad. In the last period of her son's life, she cooked in different ways every day, hoping that her son could eat more meals cooked by his mother.

We haven't taken a complete family photo yet. Grandma has always had a wish to take a family photo. She is afraid that when we miss her in the future, we won't remember what she looks like or what mom and dad look like.

Unfortunately, there was no condition to take a family photo at that time. I had a family photo taken for me. The photos of mom and dad were deducted from the marriage certificate. Grandma touched the photo again and again and said, "Xiao Juan (mother's nickname), I brought up two children, so you can rest assured there."

In the photo, the mother smiles brightly and the father is still elegant and handsome. If these changes hadn't happened, my sister and I would be very happy children. We will grow up carefree, without experiencing those campus violence and adolescent inferiority complex. We will like winter and have snowball fights.

Grandma left soon after her sister got married. At that time, I rented a house outside and my grandmother cooked me three meals a day. My sister and brother-in-law are very filial, and I strongly recommend grandma to move in with them. But grandma refused. Maybe grandma had a premonition that she was going to die.

Grandma became a star in the sky. Grandma comforted us when mom left. Mother became a star in the sky. If you are afraid on your way to school, look up at the stars. The brightest is mom. Now grandma is a star in the sky.

Grandma always told us before she died that we should be filial to our grandparents and remember the kindness of several uncles and aunts. I just didn't say to remember her love for us. I know Nye has been blaming himself for not teaching his son well.

Grandma's departure made us say goodbye to the past.

There will be no stewed pig heart and lung soup with sauerkraut every winter.

When I was a child, I always wanted to grow up quickly. When I grow up, I can protect my grandmother and sister.

But time also took grandma away. Grandma made up for our missing fatherly love and maternal love with love.

In the days to come, we will live well and eat well.

Sharing this story, I want to tell those cheating men not to build their happiness on the pain of their families. Every child is innocent, and they should not have suffered the setbacks and blows of these lives. Being born a man, kindness is the greatest blessing.