Dad's Ordinary Life (Ⅱ)

Hello, everyone. I'm brother Peng. This is my real name. Many people call me that.

The birth of WeChat official account World Inn is inseparable from my father. Almost all April, I served my comatose father, sitting and sleeping day and night. In the middle of the night, I suddenly remembered the words I used to like, and I also remembered that I wanted to write an official WeChat account. So, I turned on the computer and started to code words, so I had the official account of WeChat, World Inn.

Accurately speaking, this official WeChat account started with his father, but after his father died, he didn't want to open the backstage code word for a long time. Later, I thought I should record my father's life, so I had a series of stories about his father, and the first story of his father's story was his father's story.

Is this 1 of the story of the father? Articles?

This story: Dad's ordinary but not dull life (part two)

Character: Dad

Location: Shandong

Recording time: May 2020

1. Before April, my biggest fear every year was to celebrate Mother's Day.

Without the same experience, you will never understand what kind of pain and unwillingness it is to be filial. This kind of pain and unwillingness is not only stabbing your heart, but also stabbing your heart and lungs. My mother died more than ten years ago. At that time, I just graduated from college and entered the workplace. I was very young and energetic. Like many people who just graduated from college, I am full of infinite longing and longing for the future, thinking that one day I can get ahead and live my own life.

There was no money at that time, but there was really no money. I remember that after graduating from college, I moved out of the dormitory in June, and my wife and I left a total of 26 yuan. I suddenly stayed for more than 40 days. When people reach a certain period, they always have endless enthusiasm and ideas. After graduating from college, my first job was as a foreman in a restaurant, and I finally got through that gray period in my life. Now that I think about it, it is really gray.

Later, I went to the mall to be a promoter and worked for nearly a year. I was transferred back to the Guangdong headquarters of the group to do internal training for the sales company, which started my real career. Now that I think about it, it really seems like a trick. At that time, if I couldn't do it, I really couldn't do it, and there would be no present.

When I was a salesman in a shop, my salary was not low. I always like to collect information. Since then, I have learned to read people's words and thoughts. That year may really be an extremely important year in my life. My monthly salary is not low, much higher than many college students of the same age. Except for rent and living expenses, the money my wife and I earned was basically sent home to treat my mother. After she died,

It's a pity that my mother left me anyway. Later, I went to Guangdong and entered the golden period of career development. Guangdong has a great influence on me. In those years when "escape from the north to the south" was popular, I once sneered at this statement. I always thought that these people who want to escape are either losers or cowards, and those who work hard will stand out wherever they are.

However, in those years, I was most afraid of Mother's Day. Every Mother's Day, I always find a place where no one is around for a while, thinking about my childhood scenes, pestering my mother for money to buy popsicles, and then my eyes will be sore and I will cry.

I remember Mother's Day very clearly every year. In those years, whenever Mother's Day approached, I always looked at many gifts that could be given to my mother on Taobao, and then carefully looked at them one by one, wondering if my mother would be happy if I gave them to her, and whether everyone would proudly say that they were gifts from my son.

Mother was ill for 8 years and stayed in bed for 3 years, but until her death, there was no bedsore anywhere on her body. My father taught me and my brother two things in my life, one is to love my wife, and the other is to be filial to the elderly.

The first thing my father taught my brother and me: love my wife.

We often don't understand the love of our parents, and judge by our present eyes: we can't talk, we don't have a good job, and we basically can't find a wife; But my parents lived in different times. At that time, girls were interested in people. As long as men are practical and reliable, they will spend their lives with you without regrets, bitterness, shame and scruples.

Mom and dad are the same. Mother is an industrious woman, who has all the advantages of rural women: frugality and housekeeping. I remember my father has been working in the northeast construction site since I was a child. After the Chinese New Year, he walked for a whole year and then came back for the Chinese New Year. At home, he relies on his mother to carry water, farm and take care of my brother and me.

It is said that lovers will inevitably quarrel and bicker, but in my memory, mom and dad have never quarreled once in their lives. My father has a bad temper and is born to be the kind of person who refuses to accept anyone. But once my mother speaks loudly, he will be there without saying a word, and he has never seen him bicker with my mother. It seems that only a mother can cure a disobedient father in this world.

When I grow up, I vaguely hear people talk about my parents' blind date and marriage experience. It's not so smooth, because my father, brothers and sisters are many and poor, so there are many twists and turns in the middle. Later, although my father was once rich, he still didn't say a word to my mother.

Maybe my father doesn't know what feelings are and my mother doesn't know what respect is, but they really spend their whole lives together and interpret what love is. Love is never an affectionate poem written on paper, nor is it a witty remark, but a real honor and disgrace, together for a lifetime.

When my mother was ill, I was in college, my brother just got married, and my family was really poor. But even so, when my brother and I packed our things after my mother died, we sold cakes for a few dollars, a dozen dollars or even dozens of dollars a catty, packed a big bag, a big woven bag of rural things, a whole bag, many of which had long hair, but these snacks and cakes even had long hair.

Every time I think of those cakes, I feel sad. I remember there was a debate contest for college students in the company before, and the topic was "Love is important" or "Material is important". At the end of the discussion, I told them that love is something we don't understand, but love is not easy to blaspheme. Just like my father, she served my mother for eight years, with no regrets and stayed in bed for three years. When I said this, I choked several times and saw the whole bag of long-haired cakes.

This is the first thing my father taught me in his life: love my wife.

The second thing my father taught my brother and me: filial piety.

Dad is the eldest son of the family. In the countryside, the eldest son is a very special and important person. No matter how many brothers and sisters there are in the family, the decision is always in the hands and mouth of the eldest son. The eldest son can handle all kinds of things on behalf of the whole family. Dad began to play the role of the eldest son of the family when he was young.

I remember when I was a child, there was a place in the village full of honeysuckle. When the season comes, many people pick them. Those honeysuckle flowers were planted by my father when he was the production captain, and later I went to see them specially. Unfortunately, every time I go back to my hometown, the season is wrong. I wonder if those honeysuckle flowers are still there.

The more traces a person leaves, the harder it is to be forgotten.

My father has been serving his grandparents for the past few years. In his words, he is in good health now. He hasn't had a chance to serve the old people in Northeast China for several years. Now it's time for him to go all out, without considering others, only thinking about himself.

Dad has an electric tricycle. He often rides it to catch big episodes and often shuttles back and forth in the street. Dad is a restless man and has friends all over the world. In recent years, he has met more people at home than his brother who has been staying at home.

I have wanted to take my father to live in Linyi many times, but since I moved to a new house once, my father doesn't want to live any more. At that time, I felt that my young father was really old and couldn't walk up the stairs. But the moon, who had just turned two and a half years old at that time, kept clamoring for grandpa to hug him. Although he climbed the stairs slowly and had to rest, his father still held Yue Yue and made him laugh.

It is said that from time to time, I can see that my father likes the moon very much. When Lele was born last year, I sometimes wonder if my father saw that my brother had two children, a man and a woman, and I also had two children, and finally he was relieved, and then the whole person lost his mind, so this happened.

When I went back to Linyi in recent years, my father always took me to my grandmother's house first. Before I go to my grandmother's house, I always buy something my grandparents like to eat in the market, such as mutton, such as beef. When I bought it, my father always told me that when my grandfather was young, his family was poor and there were many children, so I didn't eat much meat. Now I finally have the conditions, and I finally like meat. At this time, I always feel that I saw my father's guilt about his father, the kind of guilt that parents can't enjoy happiness because their children are worthless.

When I was a child, my father told my brother and me that no matter what an unfilial person does, no matter how well he does it, it is contemptible. He often takes Liu Heiqi as an example. Liu Heiqi was a big bandit leader on our side before liberation, and he couldn't do anything well. But there is only one thing that everyone should give a thumbs up when they mention it: filial piety. He never dared to make his mother angry, nor did he do anything that his mother wouldn't let him do. My father thinks that filial piety is the most important character of a person, so he taught my brother and me to be filial from an early age.

In recent years, my brother and I have given my father living expenses every month and pocket money every holiday. Except for a small part of his own cigarettes, most of the money was spent on filial piety: buying sheep soup that grandma likes to drink, buying meat that grandma likes to eat, and buying vegetables for grandparents ... Although he was ill, he spared no effort to serve his parents. Although he had a bad temper, he took care of his parents meticulously-this is his father who has been waiting for people all his life.

Dad, may we be father and son in the next life.

I have been with my father almost since I was a child. When I was five years old, I began to follow my father to the northeast. When I was seven years old, I went back to my hometown to go to school. In the first day of junior high school, the family moved to the northeast together and almost never left their father. My father's generation was unlucky, but he taught me one thing, that is, I must always fight against fate. In my life, my father has almost always struggled with fate.

Dad loves me very much. I remember when I first joined the work, every time I called, he always told me that I must work hard, think more about everything and don't do anything illegal. However, under his influence, in those years in Guangdong, including now, I have never touched kickbacks and tips in any job or position, not to mention "a gentleman loves money well."

So, until now, some people may say that I have a bad temper, some people may say that I am not doing things properly, but no one will say that I took money that I shouldn't have taken and touched money that I shouldn't have touched. This is a rule left by my father and passed on to my children forever, my children's children.

I know my father thinks my brother and I are ashamed, because my mother was ill in those years and my family was almost penniless. My brother and I get married, buy a house, buy a car and have children, all of which are handled separately, so my dad doesn't have to worry about it. My brother and I also know that my father's ability is really limited these years, and it really doesn't matter. We all get it. We all get it.

When I got married, I went to Anhui alone. I found banquets, weddings, photos and floats by myself. On the morning of my wedding, I asked for leave to go to the barber shop to wash my hair. Today, I still remember the boss who washed my hair asked me, why are you so busy? I feel sad every time I think about it, but I never told my father that if he knew, he would be even more sad. Everything is over, there is no need to add to the old man's heart.

Zheng Banqiao, the ancestor, said: You are not a hero if you are sweating and working on your own, and you are not a hero if you depend on others and your ancestors. So, my brother and I are half heroes.

Dad's life, the first half is beautiful, and the second half is bitter, which has taught me a lot. I think, when I am old, I want to build a mountain, plant a piece of land, raise some chickens, ducks and geese, and raise a dog, and then write a book to record my life, and then leave a family motto: my descendants should write a book for themselves and write down their lives for future generations. This is the greatest wealth left to future generations.

Dad is dead, and life goes on. I think, if there is an afterlife, I must be my father's son, and I will be filial to you in the next life.