Problems of adoptive parents and adopted daughters

Let me get this straight. That is to say, you have been married for 10 years without children, and then you adopted a 9-year-old girl from the other family. Now it is a bit contradictory and you regret not choosing a 3-year-old girl. Now I chose a 9-year-old girl. What should I do if I encounter contradictions in my life? Right?

Then the problem is coming. First of all, at the age of 9, the girl has made it clear that she has her own knowledge and understanding of this society. You're right. Don't say anything to send her back. This will hurt your feelings. Maybe she'll still hate you.

Then let me analyze it for you? Growing up with a girl. First of all, the girl was not liked by her family before she came to your house, so her character became rebellious because she had resentment in her heart. If you are like her, think about yourself. Personality makes her walk with all the bad students. Time naturally contributed to her rebellious psychology. You might say, send her back now, and you might be able to control her for a while. After a long time, your wings will become hard, and naturally you will become the object of her efforts. So don't say such things in the future. I think if I 10 can't sort out her personality, there will be basically no chance in the future! The married daughter is the spilled water. What did you and your wife get in the end? Selfless dedication. Now, to put it bluntly, even if the hukou is moved here, it is also a point of no return. This age is too old because of unfilial. I don't know how to be grateful. I don't know what to be grateful for. It's like I didn't know how to be grateful until I was 27. Although I didn't do it well, I have this consciousness.

Now all you can do is brainwash her. Words, movies and humanities have washed the word gratitude into her worldview. If necessary, you can create an event, such as asking someone to play tricks on her every day, stopping her on the road, just watching, creating hope for her when she is most helpless, and then moving her. So that she can study hard and remember her initial heart. As for the details, you need to plan for yourself. I can only help you here.