Water wife, like sitting on the spring breeze

Water daughter-in-law, like sitting on the spring breeze. Like sitting on the spring breeze, is a complimentary word to describe education work.

? There is a proverb in Zhangpu that one generation of water wives (housewives who are beautiful and smart) will lead to ten generations of water descendants!

Water is rich and noble! Although parents are not professional educators, at the very least, they must follow the principles of not pampering, not comparing, and not being self-righteous.

But now, many parenting methods are disturbing! Nine times out of ten, it's pampering, spoiling, comparison, and plundering. As a result, the children's physical and mental harm are to varying degrees, and the parents are getting twice the result with half the effort, feeling worried and troubled.

I don’t want to repeat the example of “what is his father?” or the incident of “how the son of a singer hit someone with his car arrogantly”... What I want to say here is that it is very common, but very ordinary. One of the important issues related to children's education.

That is, cramming and all-round compulsory extracurricular tutoring.

The author secretly believes that this is also a kind of overflowing maternal love. Because they have forgotten that every child has a unique personality and should be taught according to their aptitude. Motherly love is compassionate. The word compassion, using Buddhist language to express its connotation, is very intuitive -

Compassionate people, give love, what you like, is it suitable for children to insist on giving "tutoring" to their children?

Those who are sad, pull out the roots of bitterness! You have to know that pulling out is a rule, a scolding, and a punishment!

In this way, a loving mother will not spoil her "lost son"!

? I have no intention of ridiculing some families whose parents are illiterate, arty, and want to become "nobles" quickly. However, their approach is really ignorant. What they think other people's children can do, we must do the same. They forget the most important point: parents are their children's first teachers. You, the "teacher", have nothing to serve as a role model. You are clueless, behave vulgarly, and are nondescript, but you are not forced to have any interest in music. My daughter wears Hanfu, holds her neck high, and pretends to sit in front of the guzheng. Can she play the high mountains and flowing water like this?

? Or there is nothing wrong with inheriting one's own tone-deafness, but relying on one's own money, they force their children who are not singing material to "put on the shelf" and insist on making them show off. The posture, suits and leather shoes, must be "riding on the wings of singing"...

Why bother? !

But this is really a common phenomenon.

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