What are the scary things about Fu Di Mo? What will be the consequences of marrying such a person?

No, absolutely not. I am the eldest, and I consider myself to be supportive of my parents and caring for my younger siblings. After working, excluding personal expenses, I hand over all my wages and buy gifts for my younger siblings when I get home. The result? After they got married and started a business, I, who was married far away, didn’t even have anyone to treat me to dinner when I came home. I prepared gifts for them, but they didn’t prepare anything. When they went on a trip, they wanted me to pay for all the money. When I get married and have children, they don’t pay. When it’s their turn to get married and have children, I have to pay. I told my mother that they don’t want to spend any money on me or interact with me. It’s me who is paying. My mother said, I don’t care about your relationships. But when it's their turn and something happens, my mother calls and asks me to pay.

Let me talk about my grandma. My grandma is super gentle on the outside but extremely strong on the inside. She does her best for my dad and me, but she was really cheated by her parents when she was young. Why? Speaking of which,

She has six or seven brothers and sisters in rural areas. Except for her education, they are all about elementary school, junior high school and high school. Those uncles and uncles can play with mobile phones and watch TV and understand subtitles.,, But she can't even read Chinese characters, but she is proficient in oral arithmetic. This is because she has been walking around on three wheels a day since she was a child, selling piles of vegetables. She is a self-taught skill

She seems to be the eldest daughter in the family, ranking second. Probably, when she reached school age, her mother refused to let her go to school and asked her to do farm work to earn money to support her brothers and sisters in school. Her father was weak and sick and could not do heavy work, so she started doing farm work like crazy when she was five or six years old, and even refused as a teenager. He wanted to marry an educated youth who brought her back to the city on the grounds that he would do farm work to support a large family, but what would be the outcome?

Let me put it this way, no matter how much money she makes and how awesome she is, she will always be ridiculed as illiterate. In the 1980s and early 1990s, how awesome was she? In a small rural area in the south, I could easily provide my dad with a monthly living allowance of RMB 60, and I could occasionally go to their high school to see him, buy him new clothes, and treat him to meals. At that time, in that kind of poor county, I had to sell vegetables by myself. She earns something, (most people of my grandma's age in the village have elementary school and junior high school education). She is different from many other rural women in the village. She has much more temperament than them. She pays great attention to appearance, appearance and temperament, because she often Relatives at home ridiculed her for being illiterate. She couldn't read a word, was not popular, and didn't pay attention to what she said or did. Others would say that she was illiterate, uneducated, and unqualified, or that she was beautiful and illiterate. She was really good for nothing

Let’s talk about my brothers and sisters who were raised by her. They usually don’t give me any New Year’s money during the Chinese New Year, but if my dad often stays with me, just in case my dad knows that they don’t give me any New Year’s money, they will pay for it. The big red envelope is five or ten yuan. . . (Compared to my aunts, uncles and parents who gave me two to three hundred yuan, they are not too shameless.) But if my dad doesn’t give them children, they can visit my dad at home, that’s right. In addition, I have full control over the New Year's money when I was eight years old, and my dad would not ask who gave me how much, so my dad was stupid and didn't know that they didn't give me the New Year's money. Until this year, when I was fifteen, my dad made a joke He said he wanted to know how much money I received during the Chinese New Year. . . I will count all my New Year's money and whoever gave it to me. . . It turned out that the money spent by my father was several times different. . . I discovered that he often gave hundreds or hundreds of dollars to others. They didn’t give me any red envelopes this year, last year, or the year before that. The red envelopes they gave me the year before and after were only five yuan and ten yuan. . . My dad was also very shocked

By the way, he often borrowed money from my dad, and he always helped them as long as he could. . . . My grandma has already been criticized. . . By the way, their family looked down on me a little because my family was in decline. When my father was young, my family was considered relatively wealthy in the local area because my grandma was very capable. Later, my father went out to start a business and failed to pay off various debts, and the family declined. . . When I was a kid, my parents and grandparents made money like crazy. Almost no one cares about me. . . In their eyes, no matter what I am, they think I am an uneducated child, also because my grandma is illiterate. . . (I heard before that they seemed to think that my grandma was married and had no education, and that my grandpa was relatively weak and would listen to my grandma in everything, so he could be deceived. However, my grandma refused to support them unconditionally, so they secretly hated me. Grandma looks down on me...)

The summary is that my grandma worked hard to support the family and support so many children. . . However, her family members ridiculed her for being illiterate, and she was ridiculed for the rest of her life. . . .

Fortunately, my grandma looked away in the end and did not help them anymore, which also allowed my dad to live a prosperous childhood. Compared with when it was difficult to even eat, my grandma raised pigs and chickens just to throw away the food. Leftovers. . . My uncle sold the rice at low prices for snacks, and my grandma turned a blind eye. . but. . . When they came to my house to borrow money, my grandma asked them to print their fingerprints after writing the IOU.

Hahahaha, I heard what my dad said. They asked my grandma to support my grandma, saying that my grandma wouldn’t give her money to spend. My grandma said that my mom’s house is not far from my home. When will I stop bringing food and rice to my mom? When won’t you go see her? Don't you give her money to buy food and meat? If you are sick, tell me. Isn’t it enough for me to pay? No matter how poor she was at that time, my grandma would not even say anything about giving them rice or something, so some uncles and others didn't like my grandma and thought she was selfish and stingy. . .