Eloquence skills of euphemistic speech

In dealing with people, you will inevitably encounter embarrassing things. At this time, we are often very contradictory. We want to say something, but we don't know how. If we don't say it, we will feel uncomfortable. Smart people will not feel anxious about it, but will take a more effective way to express what they mean, that is, to say what they want to say euphemistically. The following is my collection of tactful eloquence skills for everyone. Welcome to learn from them.

He is an employee of a company. His kindness has been recognized by other employees, but he has never been promoted. Colleagues of the same age who join the company at the same time will either be transferred to the company alone or become his immediate boss. In addition, although others praised him as "good", he didn't have many friends. Not only does he have no "entertainment" after work, but he often works alone in the company. It doesn't seem very popular?

In fact, He's ability is not bad, and he also has quite good observation and analysis ability. The problem is that he is too outspoken, always outspoken and unadorned, which directly and indirectly affects his interpersonal relationship. Euphemism is a magical adhesive in the process of language communication. Euphemism is a frank and open way to treat people. At the same time, we also respect the feelings of others and don't do unnecessary harm. Therefore, the person who can make a song is also an orator.

1, the wise are tactful and implicit, and the stupid population is unobstructed.

Euphemism and implicit expression is a kind of language art. Euphemism and implicit expression can better reflect people's language literacy than outspoken and straightforward speech. Call a spade a spade, cut to the chase, simple and clear, but too exciting, easy to hurt each other's self-esteem. For example, when a service staff introduces clothes to customers, they often say: You have a big face, which is suitable for wearing a collar, and your hips are irregular, which is suitable for wearing a base coat. ? I should say: Do you think you will look more beautiful in this collared shirt? Should I say it? Do you think you will look more beautiful in this collared shirt? This design, which emphasizes neck adjustment and exaggerates shoulders, will better balance the girth ratio of upper and lower parts and make the whole body symmetrical and mature? Suggestions. Although the meaning is the same, the latter is euphemistic and polite, which makes people sound relaxed and more acceptable.

Euphemistic and implicit language is not only a magic weapon to convince others, but also can adapt to people's psychological self-esteem and easily generate recognition. In other words, euphemistic and implicit language is a mature and steady performance. China people pay attention to the beauty of winding paths. Although it means the same thing as all roads lead to Rome, there is a clear difference when compared. Smart people often speak tactfully.

In a chat, a gentleman asked a woman's age, and another retorted that the general age is a woman's secret. If you want to know, you can ask some tentative questions by innuendo before making a judgment. The conclusion given by one gentleman to another is tactfulness.

How can I speak to show artistry? Or how can I put it? Know people by listening to their voices? And then what?

Some people may object and say whether you are sincere or not.

For what? Sincerely? Yes, really sincere. We need to be sincere when talking to others, but it is not necessarily true. For example, if you see a person with bad looks, you can tell him or her truthfully as soon as you meet him or her. You are so ugly! ? Do you think people will like you? Didn't attack you You may be wronged to say that you are seeking truth from facts. Yes, you did tell the truth. But you hurt someone. People often say bad words are like knives. Therefore, when we speak, we should try to be subtle and tactful. Only in this way can people around you get close to you, be close to you and be satisfied with you.

In fact, it is impossible to say that a person is satisfied with others, because everyone has self-esteem and thinks he can. For example, if he meets someone taller than him, he will disdainfully say:? What's the big deal about growing taller! ? When he meets someone shorter than him, he will smile and say, so short and ugly! ? When he meets someone as tall as him, he will say:? Just like me. ? It's just that many people don't show it. In a sense, we are not three years old, and we are outspoken. Children tell the truth, and people say that children's words are really cute. Their truth may make others laugh. But if an adult is like that, people will definitely despise his stupidity and arrogance. This is what happens when a fool speaks bluntly.

Therefore, whenever you speak, you should pay attention to the way and use euphemistic language. In life, there are many problems that can be expressed in gentle words. Its function is to avoid resentment, promote respect and make people full of friendly and harmonious atmosphere.

2. Go straight to hurt people, why not take a detour?

In dealing with people, calling a spade a spade is a double-edged sword, which hurts people and hurts themselves. People who like to call a spade a spade are usually honest and their words are explosive and lethal, so sometimes such people will be used as guns by others. When talking to others, not being so outspoken means telling others that you are not doing something right, or correcting your personality weakness. Countless facts have proved that this is not a deep responsibility of love, but a hard time with him. Everyone has an inner fortress to hide himself. If you speak freely, you just broke through his fortress and pulled people out. So, don't talk if you can't talk. If you want to talk, just turn a corner and stop. Besides, in life, do you often hear? The right thing, not the person? . So-called? The right thing, not the person? This is just talk. Things are planned and done by people, and criticizing things is tantamount to criticizing people.

In daily life, it is easy for listeners to hear words that directly insult others. If the speaker uses conversational implicature to insult others, the listener should pay more attention. Listeners should not only be good at listening to each other's malice, but also be able to do it when necessary? Deal with a man as he deals with you? Give each other an implicit return. It is said that a businessman met the poet Heine (Heine is a Jew) and said to him: I recently went to Tahiti. Do you know what attracts my attention most on the island? Heine said, tell me, what is it? The businessman said:? On that island, there are neither Jews nor donkeys! ? Heidi replied:? That's easy. If we go to Tahiti together, we can make up for this defect. ? Merchants here? Jews? With what? Donkey? In comparison, is it a dark spell? Jews, like donkeys, can't get to that island? Heine, on the other hand, recognized the insult and ridicule of the other party, and there was something in the answer, suggesting that the businessman was a donkey and let the businessman cut his own way.

There are two ways to confess, either to the point or to talk nonsense. Pointing out the shortcomings of others, although the starting point is good, is very lethal and easy to embarrass others. If you can gently remind others, the effect is far better than being outspoken.

Nonsense will make people angry and even bear a grudge, which will lead to your bad popularity. Such a person, others will either stay at a respectful distance from you or turn their noses up at you.

Speaking without modification will only be straightforward, which is also a manifestation of ignorance. Some kind things, if expressed tactfully, will make others feel grateful. If you call a spade a spade, others will find you difficult.

In the process of talking with people, there are always some topics that are inconvenient, difficult to say or the context does not allow direct speaking. Is it necessary at this time? Resign? Hiding, or? Angular? Bring the context together and soften it to make it easy for listeners to accept.

It hurts to speak straight, so please remember: speak straight, speak softly and bend your tongue. I advise you to put aside those outspoken and unpleasant truths for a while so as not to get bored with each other. In real life, few people benefit from being outspoken, which is the experience of a successful life.

3. Talk too much? Is it honest? He's an idiot

So-called? Misfortune comes from the mouth. ? In today's increasingly complex interpersonal relationship, blindly? Is it honest? Spoken English is no longer a certificate that can be published. Only when you can speak and know the skills of speaking can you have a foothold.

1August 28th, 963, Martin? Lu Se? Kim led a rally of 250,000 people, calling for opposing racial discrimination and demanding national equality. When the parade arrived at the Lincoln Memorial, he made a famous speech in front of the Lincoln Memorial. In this speech, he first warmly praised the Emancipation Proclamation signed by Lincoln more than 100 years ago. Then, at a turning point, he pointed out that today, more than 100 years later, blacks are still in dire straits, called on blacks to rise up and struggle, and described the ideal of equality and freedom that blacks dreamed of in a sincere and lyrical style. Black children can go hand in hand with white children as brothers and sisters? ,? God's light shines, and all beings see brilliance! ? This speech can be said to be rich in content, passionate and magnificent, which has a strong appeal. This movement against racial discrimination and striving for national equality has greatly promoted the progress of the black civil rights movement in the United States.

It is precisely because of the close relationship between speech and political activities that it plays a great role in organizing, encouraging, motivating, criticizing and promoting. Therefore, people not only use speeches to serve specific political purposes, but also pay close attention to the speeches of political circles, military circles and celebrities in various countries, learn and study the information revealed in their speeches, predict the future development trend and formulate corresponding countermeasures.

The charm of language is enormous, so you should learn to use your speaking skills skillfully. Some people often change their faces and can always save the day in times of crisis. These people take action according to the situation. Today they raise their left hand to support this doctrine, and tomorrow they raise their right hand to support that doctrine.

Sometimes a lie is also a kind of beauty.

A lie, on the surface? What if it's not true? . Since ancient times, lies have been spurned by people, so much so that they are spurned and despised by people. Therefore, in life, whenever a lie is mentioned, people naturally equate it with a villain and a liar. In short, it belongs to a group of people with bad behavior. I believe we all learned it when we were children? A lying child? It left a deep imprint on the young mind. Everyone wants to be an honest person; Everyone wants to stay away from lies. There is no doubt that it should be. But in a sense, there are also problems that cannot be solved in honest families, and lies can be solved perfectly at this time. In today's society that advocates honesty, sometimes lies are an indispensable part and play an irreplaceable role.

I once heard a beautiful lie: when I was a child, the little girl's family was so poor that she couldn't even solve the problem of food and clothing. So when they eat, the rice is often not enough, so the mother gives the children the rice in the bowl. And the mother herself doesn't eat anything, and she will say affectionately to the child: Children, eat quickly, I'm not hungry! Mother's first lie.

The family is poor and the children are growing up. In order to supplement calcium for the children, the mother often goes to the rural river ditch in the suburbs of the county to catch fish to supplement calcium for the children. Mother's fish is always delicious and the fish soup is fresh. When the children were eating fish, the mother watched the children eat happily, but she couldn't bear to take a bite. The children were very distressed, so they put the fish in the bowl into their mother's bowl and invited their mother to eat the fish. And the mother refused to eat anything, and the mother put the fish back in the child's bowl with chopsticks. Mom said, son, eat quickly, I don't like fish! Young children don't know anything, so they believe it and think that their mother really doesn't like fish. This is the second lie my mother told.

The children are all old and going to middle school. In order to pay enough tuition for her children, the mother, who is a sewing worker, was very anxious, so she went to the neighborhood Committee to bring some matchboxes home and paste them at night to earn some money to supplement her family. One winter, the children woke up in the middle of the night and saw their mother bending down under the oil lamp to paste the matchbox. The boy said, Mom, go to sleep. You must go to work tomorrow morning. Mom smiled and said, children, go to sleep quickly, I'm not sleepy! ? Mother's third lie.

How time flies! A child is about to take the college entrance examination. In order to help the children who take the college entrance examination, the mother asks for leave and stands at the entrance of the test center every day. However, it is midsummer and the sun is shining. Stubborn mothers will stop for hours in the hot sun. When the bell rang at the end of the exam, the mother greeted her and handed her a cup of strong tea soaked in a tin bottle for the child to drink. Tea is also strong, and feelings are stronger. Looking at his mother's chapped lips and sweat, the boy handed back the tin bottle in his hand and let his mother drink it. Mother said, son, drink quickly, I'm not thirsty! The mother speaks firmly, and it is not easy for the child to say anything. ? Mother's fourth lie.

The family is poor, the child's father is sick, and he is unwilling to spend money to treat the disease. After a period of suffering, his father died, which was a heavy blow to this poor family. Mother is both a father and a mother, and she drags several children for their education with her meager income in the sewing club. Life is miserable. Uncle Wang, who is repairing his watch under the telephone pole at the intersection of Hutong, came to help him with big and small things, such as moving coal, carrying water, sending some money and food, and helping to make up the children's homes. People are not vegetation, who can be ruthless. Neighbors see it in their eyes and remember it in their hearts. Everyone advised his mother to remarry, so why bother? However, my mother kept her virginity for many years and never got married. My mother wouldn't listen to others' advice. My mother said, I don't love her! ? Mother's fifth lie.

After the girl and her brother and sister graduated from college to work, the off-duty mother set up a stall in the nearby farmer's market to make a living. Children who work in other places often send money back to subsidize their mothers when they know about it. Mothers resolutely refused and returned the money. Mom said, I have money! ? Mother's sixth lie.

Among them, after teaching in her school for two years, this girl obtained a doctorate from a famous American university. After graduation, she stayed in a scientific research institution in the United States. The treatment is quite generous and the conditions are good. Children in other places want to take their mothers to enjoy life, but the old man refuses. Mom said, I'm not used to it! ? Mother's seventh lie.

The overworked mother suffered from gastric cancer in her later years and was admitted to the hospital. When the girl from the other side of the Atlantic came back by plane, her mother was dying after the operation. The mother is old, and when she looks at her mother who is tortured to death by the disease, the children are all in pain and tears are streaming down their faces. But mother said, son, don't cry, I don't hurt. ? Mother's eighth lie.

Say that finish, at? My mother who spent her whole life in the hospital finally closed her eyes.

In fact, in our accustomed life, some true lies can often throw people into the abyss of pain, while sometimes white lies can bloom the most beautiful flowers in the world. Sometimes lies are also a kind of beauty!