How can you get along without looking up at his father-in-law on a peaceful day?

There are always endless topics between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, endless topics to talk about, endless topics to write, and endless topics to discuss. I never thought that what is more disturbing than a difficult mother-in-law is having a great father-in-law I can't imagine that grandpa who is so honest and simple to others is also a bad father-in-law who doesn't listen to his mother.

My mother grew up in the countryside. Since she was about five years old, she has been helping her family with farm work and earned a lot of work. In order to get rid of this life facing loess, she came to the city. My mother is smart, studious, gentle and generous, and she can also use abacus, and soon found a job in the street office in the city. But because they are rural people, they are rural hukou, but they have suffered from the exclusion and difficulties of people with urban hukou in the city (at that time, having urban hukou, like grandpa, was always arrogant and always looked down on rural hukou. ), colleagues always look at her with colored glasses at work. Later, when I met my dad, he took a fancy to my mother's talent and didn't dislike the rural hukou. He cares about my mother very much. Although my father's family is poor, nothing can stop people who really love each other. Only after I got married did I know that my grandmother died when my father was 8 years old. Grandpa raised four children by himself, and his father was an only child. There is no such thing as a mother-in-law relationship. Thinking of grandpa's hard work, my mother is filial to grandpa and keeps everything at home and abroad in order. Before going to bed every day, she would wash grandpa's feet.

It is hard to find such a good daughter-in-law with lanterns. My heart should be happy! But grandpa began to worry that my mother was too capable and would leave my father sooner or later. Every day, I am afraid that my mother will start to doubt. When I see my mother talking to another man, I will get angry and scold my father for being worthless. Once after dinner, my mother went to send something to my neighbor's aunt. After chatting for a long time, when she got home, she saw grandpa slap her father and said that he couldn't control his wife and let her go out to have sex at night. My mother put up with all this and didn't care. But since this happened, my mother never called grandpa "dad" again, and kept her distance.

There are few humble rooms at home. My brother and I were young then. On weekdays, we sleep in a small bed and squeeze into a room next to our parents' bed. One night, my father was not at home after the night shift, and my little brother drove by the door in the middle of the night thinking that he hadn't come to see us for a long time, so he went home for one night. My mother took us to sleep in a small bed and my uncle slept in a big bed. I haven't seen my brother and sister for a long time, so I started talking. Grandpa may hear a man's voice in the room at midnight. Without saying anything, he knocked down the door and cut it with a kitchen knife in his hand. If it weren't for my little brother's reaction to this knife, people would be gone. The frightened little brother grasped grandpa's hand tightly and asked, "Qijia, what are you doing?" "You see if the little brother also walked away. At that time, everyone was frightened, and my mother was so angry that she couldn't bear to take us back to grandma's house. Later, my father and grandfather had a big fight. They said it wouldn't happen again, so they took my mother and my brother and sister home.

From then on, the mother had a shadow and view on her father-in-law. After I got married, my mother warned me to keep my distance from my father-in-law and not to be too enthusiastic. Except for the husband, this life is closely related. How can a father-in-law who looks up but doesn't look down get along? Any good suggestions?