Inspirational article: What is winning or losing in life?

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Haruki Murakami mentioned his views on the one-night stand in Norwegian Wood: it is pleasant as a way to channel lust, but it is unpleasant when we break up in the morning. When I woke up, I saw a strange girl sleeping soundly beside me, and the room smelled of alcohol. The lights and curtains on the bed are all red, green and vulgar things unique to lovers' hotels, and then the girl wakes up and is graceful. Therefore, it is useless to sleep with a girl you don't know. No matter how much you sleep, you will only be tired and bored in the end.

These words were said by the man Watanabe in the book.

And Junichi Watanabe, after sleeping with the intimate female Naoko, experienced a kind of intimate and warm mood that had never been seen before. After Naoko disappeared, he felt that his heart had lost something, and nothing could be filled, leaving only a neglected pure hole, and his body was extremely light. Even after 18 years, I still cling to the vague memento mori. As long as I have time, I will always remember her face.

This is the difference between carnal love and spiritual love. The former is a fast-food vent, and the latter will last forever. The former ended up feeling tired and disillusioned, while the latter left a lasting aftertaste.

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Good things always have an aftertaste.

People used to describe good music as lingering sound, which lasted for three days. This is the highest praise. Although grandiose, it shows the charm and magic of music. On the contrary, if any music sounds euphemistic and melodious, but it doesn't leave any aftertaste, or even makes people tired, it is obviously not good enough.

So is wine tasting. An important indicator to measure the quality of wine is aftertaste. A long aftertaste is the basic feature of any good wine. The better the wine, the more delicate, round and long the aftertaste will be. Westerners have also set clear standards for this length, which is different from our romantic and exaggerated music for three days. Serious westerners think that if the taste in the mouth disappears within 10 second after drinking a mouthful of wine, then the wine is not so good. If it lasts for 20 to 30 seconds, it should be good wine. If the aftertaste can reach 45 seconds or even 1 minute, it will be terrible.

Food is even more. Chen Xiaoqing, director of China on the Tip of the Tongue, said that good food is food that can soothe your soul, not simple pleasure. Just satisfying the desire of the tongue is the lowest level of food. Real food, after a full meal and a full stomach, should also give you some comfort, so that after a full meal, you will not feel disgusted and disillusioned like the morning after a one-night stand. Food must have a aftertaste. When you eat, you are full and you want more.

Even the process of making delicious food is the same. Nowadays, people use gas to cook vegetables, but they always feel that there is no smell in the firewood pot. One reason is that the heat stops when the gas is turned off. Unlike firewood and coal, when the fire goes out, firewood ash and coal ash are still hot. This slow fire can just bake delicious food. Microwave ovens are even worse. Once it stops running, there is no heat in the cooker, so the food out is even weaker.

Don't underestimate the last remaining temperature. Things are often good and bad in this subtle difference. A little better is much better, and almost is far away.

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Back to feelings.

When falling in love, boys send girls home after a sweet date, reluctant to go, boys leave, girls still stand still, their hearts are wrapped in deep affection and rippling gently, and the aftertaste of love is wonderful. In other words, even if we break up, there will be a suitable ending, no fatigue, no embarrassment, no face-breaking. After several years, they will think of each other again, and the pictures in their memories are still beautiful, and the feelings in their hearts are also pleasant. This is more valuable.

The youth school says that life is to let go at the end, but unfortunately, we have no time to say goodbye. Say goodbye well, in order to leave a good face in the end, and after the song, people can still enjoy it slowly. Otherwise, if a relationship ends badly, it will be greatly discounted before it is beautiful.

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Life and movies, winning or losing are all memorable. This is what Japanese director Yasujirō Ozu said. That's true. If a movie can't give people a feeling and aftertaste, even if the audience laughs or cries from beginning to end, it's only a short vent. Yes, they have. They can't remember. No matter how high the box office is, they can't win.

Life is even more so. A good life doesn't have to be beautiful and amazing, it doesn't have to be stormy, and it doesn't have to be smooth sailing, but it always needs the meaning of live high, and it needs to shine its own light, so that it can stand the meticulous and long-term taste. Tell your grandchildren when you are old, and let the children praise them from the heart: hey! Great! Even if I don't tell anyone, I don't feel interested. I won't sit in the sun in a rocking chair. Looking back on these 60 or 70 years, I just feel bored.

Aftertaste is an important criterion to measure the quality of a thing. Anyway, if it is really good, it should be after having it, after experiencing it, and after the end, there are still some beautiful things that people can't forget for a long time.

Unfortunately, such good things are getting less and less now. People are in a hurry to eat, love and have no patience. They are not in the mood to taste slowly. This bite has not been swallowed, and the next bite can't wait for their lips. Pigs and pigs eat ginseng fruit. Rough, not only have no mind to create good things worth tasting, but even the good times around you are often disappointed.

Excerpt from WeChat emotional story: What is the purpose of marriage? That's great.

More and more men can't find wives.

Because more and more women don't want to get married.

The woman said:

I want to go out with my friends once in a while, and I don't want to lose the freedom of being single;

Eat whatever you want, and don't want to be a natural cook;

I want to spend money to dress myself up and make myself happy, and I don't want to think about how to save money to supplement my family every day;

I want to be the darling of my mother forever, and I don't want to be on tenterhooks. I wonder when my mother-in-law will dislike me.

I want to be a lover forever. I don't want to be another mother of my husband while trying to be a good wife.

The man said:

Married, of course, we should put family first, and we can't always go out;

Married, of course, go into the kitchen to wash your hands and make soup;

Married, of course, we should work hard for their future and share the family;

Married, of course, take my home as your home;

Married, of course, you should be a good wife and take good care of your husband.

So women don't understand.

Then what on earth did I get married for?

I love you as much as you say you love me,

But after marriage, I want to change so much just to be your wife.

I can only be friends with you and be a cook who grabs your stomach.

If you have a job, you may not support me, just because I have my own job.

You only have one more person around you when you marry me, and I have one more family around you when I marry you.

You all live a accustomed life, but I will give up my accustomed life.

But men also complain:

I work hard to find a wife,

I want a car, a house, a retainer and a diamond ring.

I have been scrimping and saving all my life, and I have been reducing my savings in order to get a wife.

Besides, being a wife is like this,

You must manage the family with resignation, and you must educate your children.

Because both sides are working hard,

So more and more women don't want to get married.

Men can not only keep their savings figures,

It doesn't make women look like paid nannies,

So man, when you want to ask a woman why she doesn't want to get married one day,

Please help a woman think first. What are the benefits of marrying you?

Women have to leave their parents to take care of men's parents because of marriage.

But men don't.

Women because of marriage

After playing heavy and big ball for ten months,

Just to give birth to a next generation with a male surname;

Still have to bear the sequelae of physical degradation and body deformation after giving birth, while men don't have to.

Women because of marriage

Had to give up a truckload of good people chasing him,

And buried the most beautiful youth;

But men are not afraid of being young, but the older they are, the more valuable they are.

Women because of marriage

I'm going to give up the last name my parents gave her for more than 20 years.

Be crowned Mrs. XXX;

But men haven't changed.

Women because of marriage

I have to go to work in the morning, cook at night, do housework and take care of the children.

There is pressure from work and family;

But men are not bad. Instead, there is a man who makes money and a maid who doesn't get paid.

Women because of marriage

I want to adapt to a completely different family and face criticism from men, friends and family.

When a woman tries to seek the protection of a man,

In exchange ... a man not only fails to protect his woman,

On the contrary, when people fall together, we will hit them ... in an environment where women are helpless.

Men.

If there is such a stupid woman around you,

Please be her silly man and cherish and take care of her.

Don't forget, she was not born to take care of your family, but because she loves you.

When she is injured, listen to her, support her, protect her and wipe her tears, and she will be moved for a lifetime!

You don't know who broke who's heart.

First, there is no need to complain and feel sorry for yourself. All the status quo is your own choice. When you start to blame it, you have actually enjoyed all the benefits it brings. What's to complain about? Apart from your greed for everything, you are lazy because you don't want to work hard.

Second, I didn't deliberately avoid age, but I never realized the trace of age on myself. Growth is a painful lesson. I cherish the pure person who will protect my heart from wind and rain more than the scarred experience and accumulation.

Third, when you think you are abandoned, it is the other person who suffers: because he lost someone who really likes him, and you just lost someone who doesn't like you.

Fourth, trust people who like you, don't always doubt my sincerity, and leave some space for each other after intimacy. Miss you often, even if you are bad, put yourself in the other person's shoes and never want to make your face strange. In fact, everyone didn't understand love at first. Only when you have experienced something, even some pain, with the person you like will you become mature and know how to cherish it.

Time can only change those things that are not strong enough.

6. Youth is a season of falling rain. It used to wet the window sill in the past with great fanfare, and the ticking sound sprinted my mind. At first, in the confusing June, I was lost for three seasons and was once lost in tears. The story of youth passed by with an umbrella in the rainy season of youth, covering half my face. The film of youth was shot too fast.

Seven, time flies, I have been lonely for so long, but I have returned to the original appearance.

Send you a message saying that I miss you very much and send you a heart. I hope you are safe. Although I can't see you, my heart has been thinking about you. I remember a song that I really miss you.

Nine, have you ever been heartbroken? Does love belong to me or not? For me, these questions are no longer important, because I have done the last and let go passively. After being hurt by love, I gave up helplessly; Heart, no longer waiting for love. This feeling is like a memory that I really want to throw away. Some things have not been owned but have long been lost.

If I am knocked down by everyone, remember to give me a push and don't be scolded because of me.

Missing you is a habit. I have your memory in my heart. Miss you, miss your heart can not be changed. Missing you is really a habit. Turn on the computer, listen to sad love songs, immerse yourself in the sad melody, and there is only one you in my heart. Missing you is a habit. Touching the keyboard, writing sad emotions.

Twelve, even a small thorn, when stuck in your body, hurts more than anything in the world.

Thirteen, want to be a cool person, turn around and leave, more cruel than you, more ruthless than you.

Fourteen, people's life will inevitably suffer setbacks and failures. The difference is that losers always regard setbacks as failures, so that they can deeply attack their courage to win every time; Winners never give up. Faced with setbacks again and again, they always say to themselves: I have not failed, but I have not succeeded yet. A person who lost temporarily, if he continues to work hard and intends to win back, then his failure today is not a real failure. On the contrary, if he loses the courage to fight again, he really loses.

When we met, we were too young to know anything but love, so we lost each other. Don't meet the right person too early. Everyone you meet in life, the order of appearance is really important. Many people will have different endings if they meet at another time.

Sixteen, the head is broken, and no one is your father. Why spoil you? Don't be the last person to hit your face. It's very loud.

Seventeen, there is a kind of loss, can not be said, can only rely on feelings; There is a kind of sadness that can't be said and can only be relied on; There is a kind of love that can only be concealed by deception; There is a kind of heartache called wordless sex. -Zhang Ailing

Eighteen years old, it seems that there must be one last time, otherwise life will be lighter and meaner. We are all on this road, and no one has the privilege of being free from death. Perhaps it is important to know who you are with, share the joys and sorrows of life, and have some important moments with whom, including the last time.

Nineteen, it is not impossible without you, but it is better with you.

Twenty, when a real couple is together, one hour is one second; When we are apart, one second is an hour. I can't tell you what it feels like. I feel this way about you, and I want to tell you that I love you.

If I stop giving my heart to anything and anyone, maybe I really won't feel any more pain.

22. You don't know who broke whose heart.

23. Forgive me for pestering you like a cat. Forgive me for looking for you all day. Forgive me for being rude to you. Forgive the trouble that my appearance has caused you. Sorry, I don't want to nag myself anymore. I don't want to send ten more sentences to get one sentence. Maybe you will never understand my mood now, but I will never bother you again.

Twenty-four, the most important and most difficult thing in the world is yourself. If you are good at controlling yourself, it is too easy to restrain others.

Twenty-five, I really want to bother you, but I have no topic and no courage. Thanks to those hard days, you learned to grow. Some desires are not necessarily responses; The younger a person is, the more reasons to break up. Sometimes it's just because of an angry word, a rumor, an negligence, a little pride, a little ignorance, or just because your complicated little head thinks too much.

Twenty-six. I'm so cute at my age. I am really a sinner.

27. If you can't have it, then forgetting is the best choice. People's life is short and fragile, and life can't bear too much load; Learn to forget, forget things you shouldn't remember, forget everything that doesn't belong to you; No matter how beautiful the scenery is, we can only appreciate it briefly. Life can't be perfect, and a life with regrets is a real life.

Twenty-eight, pity us shy people, always misunderstood as high cold.

Twenty-nine, you can't see the pain in my heart, nor can you see the scar in my heart. You should comb your wounds, tidy up your wounds, and face the reality with a quiet heart.

Luck can never last a lifetime. The only thing that can help you last a lifetime is your personal ability.

Thirty-one, I met you, I am a drizzle in spring; Staring at you, I am the shade of summer; Close to you, I am a star in late autumn; With you, I am the sunshine in the middle of winter. Marrying you is the greatest happiness in my life.

It is said that women are made of water, but recently the water pollution is so serious!

33. Worry, like vines, is tightly wrapped around the branches of our tree of life, which could have been more vigorous and lush, so that they cannot be born naturally, and the fragrance and beauty are reduced by excessive care. The best way to beat your opponent is not to struggle and not to report. You were not born in a rich family. If you don't have the life of a prince and princess, don't learn the diseases that only princes and princesses get. People have time and money to look up at the sky and feel depressed.

Encourage your mood and tell me when tomorrow is. Tomorrow is just the day after tomorrow.

1. If you want to succeed, you must give up your self-esteem.

Life belongs to your own feelings, not others' opinions.

Years later, sitting at your desk, the warm sunshine makes your eyes squint.

You must remember these two points in your life: don't make a decision when you are angry and don't make a promise when you are happy.

If you can find the reason of sadness, you will certainly find the reason of happiness. Who doesn't learn to be strong when he is injured?

6. A smart girl knows how to keep her mouth shut, not eating, not talking, not kissing the wrong person.

7. God created fingerprints because he wanted everyone to know that, in fact, everyone has scars.

8. What time is tomorrow? Tomorrow is only yesterday the day after tomorrow.

9. When black blood rushed to my whole body, I began to dance. Only when I fell down can I be free.

10. In despair, look up at the sky and think about the meaning of existence.

1 1. An eagle must fly higher than a bird because its prey is a bird.

12. The road you chose was finished on your knees.

13. Stocks go up and down, but stocks marked with confidence will make you go up and down forever.

14. As long as we can dream, we can realize it.

15. Most people want to transform the world, and few people want to transform themselves.

16. Frustration is actually the tuition that success should pay.

17. Relying on the mountain will fall, relying on water will flow, and relying on yourself will never fall.

18. In real life, every great undertaking starts with confidence and takes the first step.

19. There are thousands of people who have the will, and those who have no will only find it extremely difficult.

20. Perseverance is the main factor of success. As long as you knock on the door long enough and loud enough, you will eventually wake people up.

2 1. You are not brave, and no one is strong for you.