"My mother-in-law has something. Does her daughter-in-law want to resign to take care of it? " What should I do?

"We need marriage, and we hope to have someone who can accompany us against the world."

It can be seen that the essence of marriage is that many people share life, and then there is the crystallization of love to continue life, which is a kind of meaning.

However, the process of prolonging life is very long and it is a long story. Many couples are carrying loads, some insist, and some leave halfway. But besides these, there are many things sent by relatives, which makes people feel good.

As we all know, it is difficult to help or not just because of relatives. If you help, sometimes there is nothing you can do; If you don't help, it will make things difficult again.

I once read a hot topic on the Internet: "My mother-in-law is ill, should my daughter-in-law resign and go home to take care of her?" This answer is simply divided into two polarizations, some for and some against, which makes sense.

Then, the words of three women are true. There were both approval and rejection, but the ending was thought-provoking.

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When her mother-in-law suddenly fell ill, her wife resolutely resigned and went home to take care of her, but she didn't want to drag down the family.

Ms. Wang is 33 years old and belongs to the post-80s generation. Today, life is quite happy. Mother-in-law helps with two children, and the couple just need to make money with peace of mind.

After several years of struggle, the young couple also successfully bought a house, paid a down payment and waited for time to pay off their debts. But something unexpected happened, and my mother-in-law suddenly fell ill. After being sent to the hospital, someone must take care of her.

My father-in-law left early, and the house has just been bought for a long time, so we can only take one person from the couple to take care of the elderly. At this time, if there is less personal sharing, then the economy will definitely not keep up. After the two discussed it, they sighed and only let Ms. Wang resign to take care of her mother-in-law.

In the following days, Ms. Wang took care of her mother-in-law in the hospital with peace of mind, eating and drinking without carelessness, and tried to improve the food. Everyone praises Ms. Wang as a good daughter-in-law, but her heart is bitter.

With the increase of expenses, mortgage, medical expenses and children's expenses, the family's economy soon failed to keep up, and it began to make ends meet, so it could only be maintained by borrowing money through various channels.

Later, my mother-in-law learned that she was not trying to persuade her daughter-in-law to go out to make money, but was afraid of dragging her family down. In desperation, Wang Can can only ask people to go out and make money quickly.

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Take care of your mother-in-law and reflect on your life.

Compared with Ms. Wang's financial pressure, Ms. Zhao, 42, belongs to the post-70s generation, which makes her feel much more relaxed. Today's children have their own families and their careers are still struggling. My husband and I don't have this kind of trouble.

Once, her mother-in-law suddenly fell ill, and the couple decided to let Zhao Nvshi resign and go home after discussion. Although I was not used to it at first, I was very leisure. Although it is a little tired to take care of my mother-in-law alone, it is still very relaxed without other pressure.

When the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are chatting, the mother-in-law is always afraid and often talks about past regrets and past events. Zhao Nvshi listened silently every time, unable to reflect on his life:

My mother-in-law said that she would travel when she was well. Ms. Zhao remembers that she didn't seem to have been there many times and missed a lot of scenery. Mother-in-law also said that it was not good for her father-in-law. If she were here, she would cherish it, while the woman remembered that her relationship with her husband was dull and a little indifferent.

During the time when Ms. Zhao took care of her mother-in-law, she heard a lot. I not only rethought my life, but also realized that I was following the old path of my mother-in-law. She believes that people can only understand some profound philosophy of life if they have been ill once.

Later, when her mother-in-law recovered, Ms. Zhao became optimistic. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have a new attitude towards life, family and husband (son), but Zhao Nvshi doesn't want to leave regrets for her mother-in-law. Just do what should be done, and time waits for no one.

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Refuse to resign and take care of her mother-in-law, while taking care of her mother-in-law and trying to make money.

Meimei has a deep understanding of whether her mother-in-law should resign to take care of her illness. At that time, Meimei was an "unfilial daughter-in-law" for a long time, for the simple reason. When she learned that her mother-in-law was ill, she worked harder to make money, seemingly regardless.

My mother-in-law was also very dissatisfied at first. Her daughter-in-law is so kind to herself that even her son's persuasion is useless. In desperation, I had to go with her. But Mei Mei still takes care of her mother-in-law from time to time, which attracts her mother-in-law's face.

Meimei sensed her mother-in-law's dissatisfaction and explained, "If I don't go out and work hard with my husband to make money, where will the money come from?" Although filial piety is important. But some realities are in front of us and have to be paid attention to. "

My mother-in-law was suddenly silent. Looking at this post-90 s daughter-in-law, I didn't know what to say. Others are anxious about her illness, but the daughter-in-law is worried about money. Actually, she's right. When she really felt powerless, it was really a long story.

But the neighbors talked about her behavior:

Some people support Meimei and think that breaking the economy is empty talk. After all, getting sick costs a lot of money. But there are also people who oppose it. It is unfilial to put your in-laws in the hospital like this. What if something happens next?

However, Mei Mei never explained these arguments and occasionally asked his mother to help him take care of them. She thinks it's right, at least her husband and in-laws support it.

Since then, Meimei has been taking care of her mother-in-law and working hard. My father-in-law also did his part and worked hard together to get through this door. My mother-in-law finally got out of the hospital smoothly, and the first one to thank was my daughter-in-law. Meimei also put down her heart, quit her part-time job and go to work with peace of mind.

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Analysis: My mother-in-law is ill. Should my daughter-in-law resign to take care of her?

Bai Juyi's Five Free Words: The Third Song;

"Give you a certain suspicious method, don't drill turtle, I wish you a happy ending. Jade is burned for three days and selected for seven years. "

This poem means that people or things have to go through a long test to know the true side, and so does the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If you experience a disease, everyone's behavior can guess human nature.

Some people do their best, others are unfilial, and show their true humanity again and again.

But are you going to resign? This is controversial. Some people think that if you want to resign, one more person can take care of it; But some people think it is unnecessary, because money is the most important thing, and the economy needs to maintain daily expenses.

Personally, I think we should make arrangements according to the real situation, not force us to resign. Since everyone needs to resign to take care of them, you can imagine that they are seriously ill and can't go to work for a short time. But for a long time, the economy will be difficult to maintain.

Therefore, it is more likely to resign if the family and medical expenses can be maintained, otherwise it will be an economic fault and a series of passive vicious cycles.

Conclusion:

In contemporary times, mentioning mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be said to make people feel no real harmony. As the mother-in-law of the older generation, sometimes the daughter-in-law is bound by seniority. I don't know that with the aging of my body, I still need my daughter-in-law to take care of me. It depends on the usual relationship.

If you get along well, your daughter-in-law will do her best. On the other hand, it is chilling. From this perspective, there are also some reasons for her mother-in-law's later life, which determines its quality.

If you are a daughter-in-law, you should respect your elders more. However, according to the current situation, there is still a long way to go. It is only because of the long-term coexistence and the ideological generation gap of the times that this phenomenon has also been caused.

I think the happiness of a family is to advance and retreat together, not to look on coldly.