Some people say, "When you are old, don't live with your children, because no one will be happy." Do you agree with this sentence? Why?

Aunt Wang took a passbook of 6.5438+0 million and said to her daughter, "This 6.5438+0 million, your brother will get 400,000, you will get 200,000, and I will take care of the remaining 400,000." The son kept his head down and said nothing. The daughter looked at Aunt Wang, afraid to say it, for fear that her mother would take the money back.

Seeing her children like this, Aunt Wang knew that she had to make this decision and said, "Well, in the afternoon, you can pack my things and send them there, and I will stay there at night." The son seems to have been stabbed, suddenly raised his head and said, "Mom, don't you think about it any more?" Aunt Wang got up and left without saying anything.

Aunt Wang and Uncle Wang retired for many years to help their sons take care of their grandchildren. Now their children are in middle school, and their granddaughters are helping them bring up their children and go to primary school. The old couple retired to enjoy their old age. Unexpectedly, Uncle Wang died after a serious illness, and Aunt Wang became a real old man living alone. At this time, she realized a truth and made a decision that many people could not understand.

When she went to live with her son, the grandson had many disputes with his parents because he was in a rebellious period. She is also in conflict with her daughter-in-law because she dotes on her grandson, and her son is caught in the middle.

After Uncle Wang's death, several of her sisters said, "You should also go to the nursing home, where the facilities are very good now. We are companions when you leave, and there are many contradictions in living with children. Really not. " Aunt Wang was very angry. She said: "I have children, and I am not a lonely old man. What's wrong with me living in a nursing home? Even children will not agree. "

In this way, Aunt Wang lived in her son's house, and her grandson was brought up by Aunt Wang, who was already in the third grade. He was very happy to see his grandmother coming, and so was Aunt Wang. She felt lucky that she didn't listen to her sister, otherwise she wouldn't have enjoyed this kind of family happiness.

Just one month after she moved in, Aunt Wang had a conflict with her daughter-in-law.

One weekend afternoon, my grandson came back from outside. When he saw Aunt Wang, he took her by the arm and said, "Grandma, you have to help me with something." Aunt Wang is the eldest grandson and has been responsive since childhood. She patted her grandson's hand and said, "Come on, what do you want grandma to do?" Grandson told Aunt Wang that he learned the fashion of his classmates and got earrings. He was afraid that his parents would be angry, so he thought of letting his grandmother come forward and told his parents that they would always give her face.

Aunt Wang discovered that the eldest grandson had two more pierced ears. Aunt Wang is not an old-fashioned person. She thinks her grandson's earrings look good, but now she is a student, and wearing earrings does not meet the requirements of students. She told her grandson that she had to take them off at school and wanted to wear them during the holidays.

It is said that Aunt Wang's decision is still acceptable, and the children accepted it gladly. Unexpectedly, when my son and daughter-in-law came back in the evening, this earring triggered a war at home.

When the son and daughter-in-law came back from the door, they saw that the child had brought earrings. At that time, the daughter-in-law was angry: "You said that you were a child who didn't study hard all day, but soon learned crooked ways." Hearing this, the child was unhappy. He retorted, "Several students in our school have played it. Why didn't their parents say a word about their children? " Did I go astray when I got an earring? I didn't break the law. "

Hearing this, the daughter-in-law immediately flew into a rage: "What do you care? Don't you know that students can't wear strange clothes? You're like a punk in a mixed society. Is this to study? " As she spoke, she put her hand over the child's ear, and she wanted to take off the earrings.

This completely angered the child. He growled, "What happened to my earrings? My grandmother said nothing. What do you have to say? " This stupid house is noisy all day, and I don't want to stay. "

The child slammed the door and left. Aunt Wang can't sit still now. She asked her son to go after her, and she wanted to go after herself. My son wouldn't let her go, saying it was getting dark. If something happened to Aunt Wang, wouldn't it be a mess?

Fortunately, the son soon got his grandson back, and the child went to the bedroom without saying a word. The daughter-in-law blushed with anger. She quarreled with Aunt Wang: "Do you still say that the child has pierced his ears? What's so good about this? Does it meet the standards of a middle school student? Don't educate your children without educating them. I will teach your children not to interfere. "

Seeing that the atmosphere was getting more and more tense, the son quickly pushed his daughter-in-law into the bedroom, leaving Aunt Wang sulking on the sofa. She has been strong all her life, asking herself that she has a clear conscience about her son and daughter-in-law, and she is even more distressed by this only grandson. I didn't expect her daughter-in-law to get angry with her without asking about it indiscriminately.

Aunt Wang sat all night and watched her daughter-in-law send her children to school the next morning. When her son was alone at home, she said something that she had been thinking about all night:

"I told him that children can't wear it at school and wear it on holiday. The child agreed, and it was quite happy. I didn't expect this as soon as you came back. It was all my fault in the end. I didn't let him call! My character, you know, I can't live in your house. Maybe it will get worse one day. You are the son, with a sandwich cake in the middle. It is difficult to be a man. "

My son was very unhappy to hear Aunt Wang say this. Unexpectedly, Aunt Wang went on to say, "I was angry last night, so I called your sister. It happened that both of them were at home and said they would pick me up today. " My son knew Aunt Wang's temper, and the decision he made would not change anyway, so he had to help Aunt Wang pack up.

Aunt Wang lives in her daughter's house, but I didn't expect this to be a trap for her daughter-in-law A 70-year-old man went to be a nanny.

Aunt Wang lives in her daughter's house like this. She didn't tell her old sisters about it. She felt very ashamed. At first, she vowed that it was no problem to live in her son's house. I didn't expect to be beaten so soon, so I had to live in her daughter's house.

She went to her daughter's house, and her daughter seemed to see the savior. Her eyes lit up and she said, "Mom, you can come. I hope you have come. "

Aunt Wang thought that her daughter was distressed by this experience. Unexpectedly, her daughter's next words made her feel that she had jumped from one pit to another: "Mom, you don't know that my father-in-law fainted at home two days ago. Fortunately, he was sent to the hospital in time. After a comprehensive examination, the doctor said that this was caused by the blockage of blood vessels in his heart and needed a stent. My mother-in-law was also anxious to get angry and was hospitalized. Your son-in-law has to be hospitalized these two days. "

Aunt Wang has a bad feeling in her heart. She asked, "What are you two happy about me coming to your house?"

The daughter said shyly, "You know, your son-in-law is an only child. Now that his parents are in hospital, he can only serve them alone. You can't serve this. Sometimes you need help. In the past two days, my child has not fallen, and I don't know what to do. "

Aunt Wang realized that she was in an emergency. She is distressed by her daughter's participation, but she is angry that her daughter has calculated her. But this is her own child. What can she do?

In this way, Aunt Wang became the nanny of her daughter's family when she was nearly 70 years old.

Cooking for their family, we have to take care of the patients, cook for the patients, and worry about the children going to school. After this, Aunt Wang has to clean her daughter's house. A few days later, Aunt Wang just lost weight.

In this way, after the in-laws were discharged from the hospital, the son-in-law did not thank Aunt Wang and thought it should be. At this time, Aunt Wang realized that the son-in-law knew that he was desperate and felt that he should do so when he lived in his house, but he never thought that Aunt Wang was also an old man of 70.

For a time, Aunt Wang felt that life was hopeless. Although she gave birth to two children, in the end, no one was distressed.

Sister's words made Aunt Wang decide to sell the house and support herself.

Aunt Wang lives in her son's house and has trouble with her daughter-in-law. Living with my daughter is a free nanny. This is the beginning. What should I do in the future? Aunt Wang doesn't know what to do at the moment. She thinks she is a caring person for children, and she is not a selfish person. Why can't she get along with children when she is old?

Aunt Wang was really wronged and told this story to an old sister who had a very good relationship.

Hearing this, the elder sister said, "I advised you to go to a nursing home, and you also said that it would embarrass your child." You can't live there with children. Look at me. I have a son too. I want to stay.

I support myself with my pension and don't give my children any trouble. What's more, there are people of similar age here, and we are very happy because we have many topics. The children are far away, the incense is far away, and the relationship is better. "

Aunt Wang listened to her sister's words, thought for a long time, made a decision and sold the house. After selling 1 10,000 yuan, Aunt Wang didn't keep all the money for herself. After receiving the money, she held the last family meeting.

After the son and daughter came, Aunt Wang said, "I sold the house regardless of your opposition, and sold it for 6.5438+0 million. Today, I divided the money into 400,000 yuan for the old man and my grandson, 200,000 yuan for the second child, and 400,000 yuan for my pension. I know you will say that I have a pension, which is enough for me to spend in a nursing home. I won't let you pay this money in case I get sick and stay in hospital. You are all family, so I don't have to bother you. If you are free at ordinary times, come to me. If you are not, forget it. "

My son is very sad to hear that Aunt Wang really wants to live in a nursing home. He kept Aunt Wang, but Aunt Wang decided to go.

Conclusion:

Back to this question: Some people say, "When you are old, don't live with your children, because no one will be happy. Do you agree with this sentence? " Why?

I quite agree with this sentence. When you are old and can live independently, try to live independently, and your children will come forward. In this way, the two sides live independently, do not interfere with each other, and are relatively free in space and spirit. Just like Aunt Wang, although she has been thinking about her children all her life, there will always be conflicts between her teeth and her tongue, which will affect her feelings.

When you are old, if you want to live comfortably, you must know these points:

1, I'll live by myself if conditions permit.

In this way, I have a good life and it does not affect our feelings.

Try to keep the money in your own hands.

Just like Aunt Wang, she is uncomfortable in her children's home, but she is rich and can solve her future life well, and her children have no complaints.

3. Whether you can't live together or not, try to be less involved in children's lives and care less about children's affairs. Your children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren When you get older, you have your own opinions and guidelines. Let them toss about. Take care of yourself, that is, be responsible for yourself, that is, think of your children and reduce their burden.

Do you think you should live with your children when you are old?