Parents have a cerebral infarction and can't take care of themselves. Do they take care of the elderly at home or send them to a nursing home?

Cerebral infarction, paralysis of parents. Is it appropriate to send it to a nursing home or to serve it yourself?

This question contains the entanglement and embarrassment of the questioner. I have personal experience, and I am entangled in the thoughts of ordinary people. My parents brought us up in shit and urine. Now they are old, but they send their parents to nursing homes for fear of being accused of drowning in saliva. Fear of being scolded is unfilial and the executioner who ends the old man's life. Embarrassed, every family has its own problems, especially the old and small families. In real life, many people have to work, take care of children, take care of the elderly, and think of one person and three people. But we are not superman, family is important, and family, work and life are also important.

My old mother was paralyzed by cerebral infarction when she was 2014 and 84 years old. There are few children in our family, just me and my sister, who went out to work when she was young and settled down in the city where she worked. The burden of taking care of her paralysis fell on me. At that time, I was still working, and I had to be sent to a nursing home for three years after my illness was relieved. In these three years, I will cook some dishes that she likes to eat every other day, accompany her by the way, walk outside in a wheelchair and see the scenery outside. Before the Spring Festival of 20 17, my mother's memory was worse than before, and her physical function was gradually deteriorating. The diet and nursing in the nursing home were no longer suitable, so I took her home to take care of myself. Now I am a professional nurse. My old mother didn't recognize me at the age of 89, and always treated me as a nurse. I know the hard work of taking care of the elderly. It doesn't make any sense to face an elderly person with disability and dementia every day. There is no day and night. As long as she is happy, she should take it out if she wants to eat, and she can sleep soundly if she wants to sleep. If you sleep in bed, you will turn over in two hours for fear of bedsores. Because there are no teeth, the diet should be soft, nutritious and take time to cook slowly. There are many details, so I won't go into them here.

Anyway, your parents feel sorry for themselves. As long as you have love in your heart, you will do well whether in a nursing home or at home! According to your family situation, it is more appropriate to take care of yourself in a nursing home. As for the gossip that is as easy as standing and talking, don't worry, just have a clear conscience!

I think this still varies from person to person.

But the premise is that you can't think others are "unfilial" just because you send your parents to a nursing home.

We should get rid of and give up this set of rigid and rigid concepts of "foolish filial piety" a long time ago.

If you have no other family burden and can arrange your work and life reasonably, then it is absolutely the best situation to take care of your parents personally, because after all, you are your own parents, and you can only take care of them more attentively than others, with no regrets.

But if you are really overwhelmed, there is no need to send your parents to a nursing home. Of course, it doesn't mean that being sent to a nursing home is "nothing to worry about". In addition to the necessary support provided by the broker, the usual care should be done.

The starting point of everything is to give parents the best treatment in their lives on the basis of their own ability.

It's not a waste for children and women.

I think it's better to send the elderly to a nursing home. You should choose a place with good conditions and close to home. In the morning, evening, rest days and holidays, other family members can go to see and help nurses do something to take care of the elderly at any time. Nutrition and medicine can be increased at home at any time because of slight changes in the body of the elderly. No matter how intelligent the old people are now, whether they can hear or not, you should treat them as normal people. Don't send old people to nursing homes. Besides sending money every month, find a way that children can't find. Always thinking about the family outside. In this way, you can go to work normally, relax, avoid being eliminated by society and compete for income, because in this way, you will spend more money. I am an old man, and my greatest hope is that my children are physically and mentally healthy and happy. You'd better hire someone else to pay money to honor your parents, and my children are watching. I don't want my children to be separated from work and society because of me. My son doesn't want me to miss them, which is my happiest thing. I didn't even think about it, and my son came to me. This is my happiest moment. Therefore, friends should change the way of filial piety to the elderly, make good use of the welfare given by society, make good use of our money and realize filial piety itself.

I saw an 80+ year-old man in Wuchang Hospital last year. He can't move anywhere except his mouth, and he is served by the nurse all day. But the old man went on a hunger strike and insisted that his son serve him home. There is nothing he can do. His son came to feed him and left in a hurry. Everyone in the ward accused him of being unfilial! Then I haven't seen anyone for a few days. Finally, when we met our son, we knew that his mother had a sudden illness and had been living in the intensive care unit of another hospital, but we were afraid to let the old man know! In the future, when we are old, there will be more such things. Don't blame us easily. No one knows other people's difficulties!

My mother is 79 years old, and she can't take care of herself because of cerebral infarction, brain atrophy, stroke and other diseases. Our three brothers didn't ask him to take care of them for safety reasons. My brother and I take turns taking care of them in the morning, noon and evening. We think it's better to nurse ourselves! Let the elderly feel safe, at least let the elderly know that their children have not abandoned her! Second, you can rest assured! I won't let the old man look at his face and get angry with him!

I can explain the helplessness when my parents are sick at the same time. Years ago, I had a bad cold, acute laryngitis, acute tracheitis and acute pharyngitis. The doctor asked me to be hospitalized, and I was treated in the outpatient department. I have had a fever for a week. As a result, my father also caught a bad cold and was not cured in the hospital. I spent New Year's Eve in the hospital, and my brother was waiting for me. My mother is sick these days, too. My husband got sick to take care of myself. I didn't get well, so I came back to take care of the old man. Don't other relatives care for the elderly? What's more, it will be more difficult for an only child to have four old people in the future. Well, I'm worried that the old people will get sick at the same time. ...

I'll just say myself. I'm an only child. I will take care of my mother from eight to five and take a lunch break for an hour and a half. I won't send my mother to a nursing home. I'm afraid she'll be scared when she sleeps at night. I'm afraid the staff will be impatient with her illness. I really can't imagine how scared and helpless her mother would be without me when she is old!

My dad was hospitalized in mid-June, 5438+last February, and he was also a cerebral infarction. Now he is discharged from the hospital at home, taken care of by the nurse during the day and taken care of by me at night. He couldn't get out of bed for a long time and was incontinent. It is his children's bounden duty to take care of the elderly. In fact, as we all know, it is hard to take care of the elderly. As a child, he must be filial.

Even if you want to send to a nursing home, you have to have money. I am an only child in a third-tier city. Father's life after cerebral hemorrhage is in a state of semi-self-care. In nursing homes, all kinds of expenses are about 7000 yuan per month.