I don’t listen to lectures when I go to school, I don’t even know what my homework is, I even hide my papers for exams and don’t turn them in, I can’t listen to what I’m saying, I’m a bit rebellious,

I don’t listen to lectures when I go to school, I don’t even know what my homework is, I even hide my papers for exams and don’t turn them in, I can’t listen to what I’m saying, I’m a bit rebellious, and I do everything slowly.

It’s quite a shock to find that so many people are so active in helping you. Everyone was very enthusiastic.

There is a saying that behavior determines habits, habits determine character, and character determines destiny. This problem of children really makes parents very worried.

From your description, we can see that your child’s biggest problem is: severe psychological rebelliousness (especially your own child is more anxious). So, you should ask: Why are you psychologically rebellious? How to solve psychological rebelliousness? Work hard on these two issues. So the core is a psychological issue. What you are talking about is a psychological reversal in learning. I think this may not be the case in other aspects. Maybe you are very active or good at some aspects. This is a matter of interest cultivation and habit formation. Our magic weapon is the word "guidance". Education is not allowed to develop, it must always develop in the direction we expect or hope. After all, we are social beings and real people. There are many ways to "guide". Create an environment, which is a suitable environment for development in the desired direction. "Meng Mu moved three times and chose her neighbors to live in" is a representative example. For families, a learning atmosphere or environment can be created. Parents ask their children to study hard, but in front of their children, the parents themselves do not show any role models in learning. They play online, watch TV, or other more outrageous things. How can their children have the awareness and interest in learning? Parents have different roles in educating children, and the mother's role accounts for 80%. She must participate in the entire learning life of her children, which is like spring breeze and rain to her children. The father should play the role of prohibiting behavior. In other words, the father is a circle, and children cannot be thrown out of this circle. This circle is some important principles. Mothers must nurture their children step by step in this circle (that is, while allowing their children to abide by these principles). Mothers must not be doting, but must have principled love, otherwise they will push their children into an abyss where it is difficult to grasp the future. You have to do what you have to do, without compromise, with more encouragement and more guidance. Let’s talk about guidance. Creating an environment can help us get twice the result with half the effort. It’s like getting on an elevator. As long as you don’t get off, you’ll move forward naturally. Again, be encouraging. What can you gain if you are willing to do it for a reason. Whether it is benefits or satisfaction, these are the reasons why we are willing to do it. Having fun is the highest state. Confucius said that those who are good are not as good as those who are happy. Encourage children and let them find and experience the joy of learning, and then develop good habits (that is, inertia, just like letting a bicycle start to move. It is easy to let it continue to move. Of course, it takes effort to move from stillness to movement. If one direction is more strenuous than the opposite direction), the child will be on the right track, and we only need to be there to encourage or remind him. Maybe we will say that my child does not perform well in this area, how can I encourage him? There is a saying that goes well: if there are conditions, we must do it; if there are no conditions, we will create conditions to do it. Pay more attention to your child's academic performance and find his/her strengths and encourage them promptly, or create opportunities for him to perform well. Of course, it doesn't mean that just a little encouragement will do the trick. It's like a spark of fire. Use more and fan the wind. When the fire becomes stronger, you will have achieved more than half of the success. As for criticism, we must be measured and try to figure out the feeling of fanning the flames. We should not let the sparks encouraged by inappropriate criticism go out, but should play a promoting role. I have said so much, although it is a bit scattered, but it also gives me some insights on this issue or educating children. I hope it can be helpful.

In addition, educating children should be the most important "job" of parents. If you can live without having to patch things together, you should regard educating children as your "job".